A latina colleague from work. Advise needed

[powersize]

There is a new colleague at my team who just moved from a different country to my city. After a short chat she joked that I have to show her the city where I used to live. So I took it serious and last week we went out together. At night before the trip we drunk a bit, stayed at her place and slept in the same bed with kisses and touches but no sex. Next day we traveled to the sea side, spent a decent time together and had sex at the hotel. After sex and her overall responses I have the feeling that she is kinda cold to me and uses me as a guy who will show up the country and to hang out with until she will find someone else. We agreed to keep our stuff in secret and do not show anything at work.

I am not planning anything serious with her but at the same time feel kinda annoyed because of her cold response. Should I slow a bit down and see what she is up to or just cut it off until it is not too toxic at my work?

I know that it was not the smartest idea to have an affair with a colleague from work but just wanted to get some experience with a person from other continent.

 

[Bigpapa]

You overthink the situation

And never have expectations

 

[powersize]

You overthink the situation

And never have expectations

So would you just enjoy and have fun if she is feeling the same?

 

[Lookatu]

new colleague at my team who just moved from a different country to my city.

Next day we traveled to the sea side, spent a decent time together and had sex at the hotel. After sex and her overall responses I have the feeling that she is kinda cold to me and uses me as a guy who will show up the country and to hang out with until she will find someone else.

She is from a different country so her culture or the way she approaches situations might be different than the norm.

You guys only recently met and slept together once. She probably views it as casual sex or hookup and nothing more.

Quit getting emotional and being the girl in this. It seems to me that you have more investment in this than you should.

Continue banging and having fun and know your time is limited until she finds someone else.

Clearly you're not a guy she wants anything serious with or is even ready to be serious with anyone.

 

[lizardking82]

Well she invited you to "show her the city" and you did, means she liked sth in you enough to **** you.

The anxiety about "where is this going" should be with her, not with you. If she behaves well over a longer period of time and you two keep having sex and it's good...she herself will start to wonder "where is this going".

Don't be the girl, let her be the girl and enjoy this one. You should be talking to other women, too.

 

[Paper Crane]

There is a new colleague at my team who just moved from a different country to my city. After a short chat she joked that I have to show her the city where I used to live. So I took it serious and last week we went out together. At night before the trip we drunk a bit, stayed at her place and slept in the same bed with kisses and touches but no sex. Next day we traveled to the sea side, spent a decent time together and had sex at the hotel. After sex and her overall responses I have the feeling that she is kinda cold to me and uses me as a guy who will show up the country and to hang out with until she will find someone else. We agreed to keep our stuff in secret and do not show anything at work.

I am not planning anything serious with her but at the same time feel kinda annoyed because of her cold response. Should I slow a bit down and see what she is up to or just cut it off until it is not too toxic at my work?

I know that it was not the smartest idea to have an affair with a colleague from work but just wanted to get some experience with a person from other continent.

This is a classic case of you want more than what it is out of this encounter. Keep it fun, keep it playful and don't blow any of your cover-- and you can have a nice little plate to smash nd hang out with from time to time.

 

[derby1]

After sex and her overall responses I have the feeling that she is kinda cold to me and uses me as a guy who will show up the country and to hang out with until she will find someone else. We agreed to keep our stuff in secret and do not show anything at work.

I went through a period of poor performances, porn d*ck, E.D.......however when I was on fire I would rain patriarchy down on their p*ssy. they always got in relationship mode the morning after.

did you F8ck her okay? women are selfish and quite useless in bed. however in her mind all responsibility falls with you (as usual)

 

[Young OG]

There is a new colleague at my team who just moved from a different country to my city. After a short chat she joked that I have to show her the city where I used to live. So I took it serious and last week we went out together. At night before the trip we drunk a bit, stayed at her place and slept in the same bed with kisses and touches but no sex. Next day we traveled to the sea side, spent a decent time together and had sex at the hotel. After sex and her overall responses I have the feeling that she is kinda cold to me and uses me as a guy who will show up the country and to hang out with until she will find someone else. We agreed to keep our stuff in secret and do not show anything at work.

I am not planning anything serious with her but at the same time feel kinda annoyed because of her cold response. Should I slow a bit down and see what she is up to or just cut it off until it is not too toxic at my work?

I know that it was not the smartest idea to have an affair with a colleague from work but just wanted to get some experience with a person from other continent.

I've dated a lot of Latinas. They can sometimes come off as cold. It's something with there culture. My ex latina gf used to be like that sometimes but she loved me. When we would get into arguments she would act like she was really tuff and didn't give a fVck but secretly she did care. Just keep banging her and see where things go.

 

[powersize]

This is a classic case of you want more than what it is out of this encounter. Keep it fun, keep it playful and don't blow any of your cover-- and you can have a nice little plate to smash nd hang out with from time to time.

Should I be the one who initiate things or wait once she reaches out? I feel kinda needy over my last 2 attempts to hangout.

 

[lizardking82]

Should I be the one who initiate things or wait once she reaches out? I feel kinda needy over my last 2 attempts to hangout.

You attempted to get her out two times now apparently without any counter offer. Leave her be now. If she wants to do something, she will give you a signal or invite you out directly.

In fact, if she rejected you two times without a counter offer...I'd say you don't even respond to signals, only to her directly making it clear she wants to "chill". That;s it

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Having expectations has ruined many a possible FWB situation

 

[zinc4]

I've dated a lot of Latinas. They can sometimes come off as cold. It's something with there culture. My ex latina gf used to be like that sometimes but she loved me. When we would get into arguments she would act like she was really tuff and didn't give a fVck but secretly she did care. Just keep banging her and see where things go.

I used to have a thing for latin women. But after travelling around mexico and dominican republic that ship has sailed. I hear Columbians are good but in general latin women cone off as either bit cold or just bat**** crazy. I did date a really nice Venezuelan though but she had some weird racist stance against white people even though i am white. But she was a great gf ironically . I find them to be very racist in general as well.

 

[f283000]

Having expectations has ruined many a possible FWB situation

Being feminine and needy has ruined many a possible FWB situation. And this is what you need to realize OP you are acting feminine and needy. Women should be the one thinking about you and pursuing you and complaining to her friends you are being cold.

Realize something. You're going to meet a lot of women that just want to have a little fun and that's it nothing serious. Like one of my mentors taught me "take what women give you." She gave you the box on the second day with her that's pretty good you took what she gave you. You asked her out twice after that and she's been cold since so just realize she's really not serious she's in it for the fun. She probably already met some simp giving her tours of the city.

Most guys want to sleep with a lot of women, have fun, let them go quickly and they don't realize that there's girls like this too. There's girls on the rebound and there's girls wanting something from you (tours, free dinners or whatever) and they'll give it up and you won't see them again. There's some girls that are just feeling lonely and give it up and then don't want to see you again, some didn't like the sex or just found you attractive enough for a 1 night stand but nothing more.

Stop trying to make this girl your girlfriend or feeling let down by her being cold. If she comes back hopefully you will have in your mind that she's just for fun and you will act accordingly.

I follow what AMS teaches. After sex there's no more pursuing on my part you have to let the girl pursue to put her in her feminine/submissive position. Obviously this isn't the case her she's rejected you twice already so you are already on the losing end. I would not contact this girl again let her come back to you and if she does it's wine at your place no more "dates." Keep working on other girls though.

 

[powersize]

Being feminine and needy has ruined many a possible FWB situation. And this is what you need to realize OP you are acting feminine and needy. Women should be the one thinking about you and pursuing you and complaining to her friends you are being cold.

Realize something. You're going to meet a lot of women that just want to have a little fun and that's it nothing serious. Like one of my mentors taught me "take what women give you." She gave you the box on the second day with her that's pretty good you took what she gave you. You asked her out twice after that and she's been cold since so just realize she's really not serious she's in it for the fun. She probably already met some simp giving her tours of the city.

Most guys want to sleep with a lot of women, have fun, let them go quickly and they don't realize that there's girls like this too. There's girls on the rebound and there's girls wanting something from you (tours, free dinners or whatever) and they'll give it up and you won't see them again. There's some girls that are just feeling lonely and give it up and then don't want to see you again, some didn't like the sex or just found you attractive enough for a 1 night stand but nothing more.

Stop trying to make this girl your girlfriend or feeling let down by her being cold. If she comes back hopefully you will have in your mind that she's just for fun and you will act accordingly.

I follow what AMS teaches. After sex there's no more pursuing on my part you have to let the girl pursue to put her in her feminine/submissive position. Obviously this isn't the case her she's rejected you twice already so you are already on the losing end. I would not contact this girl again let her come back to you and if she does it's wine at your place no more "dates." Keep working on other girls though.

Decent advice mate. Yeah, I put my **** together and moved on. I usually try to have that frame you mentioned for the chicks I meet outside but here we are at the same company and see each other at the office quite frequently.

She texted me yesterday at the evening with something like:
-Guess what?
-What?
-I am still working at the office…
-(sent her a photo from the street with a comment “Hello from outside”)
-Hello. Hahaha

Than no reply from my side. Do not wanna waste my time on chat about nothing. So either the proposes something or I will keep playing that game. Anyway, I am meeting another girl tonight so **** it.

 

[manfrombelow]

1. You had sex with the new chick. That's good, many guys didn't even get to see her pvssy.

2. You said you are not planning anything serious with her, so why the fvck are you being this concerned about she being cold or not? You are not a couple, she can get cold or hot or whatever, and that should not be bothering you even just a little bit.

 

[powersize]

1. You had sex with the new chick. That's good, many guys didn't even get to see her pvssy.

2. You said you are not planning anything serious with her, so why the fvck are you being this concerned about she being cold or not? You are not a couple, she can get cold or hot or whatever, and that should not be bothering you even just a little bit.

Yeah, I just had some stupid expectations out of it. But yeah, I need just to move on and focus on catching up with other girls.

 

[powersize]

Stoped reaching her out and focused on my stuff but kept receiving messages once per 1-3 days.

What do you think? Dead game?

On the first screen she says that she spent all the weekend with me. And she was talking with our manager. Just to be clear

 

[Paper Crane]

Stoped reaching her out and focused on my stuff but kept receiving messages once per 1-3 days.

What do you think? Dead game?

On the first screen she says that she spent all the weekend with me. And she was talking with our manager. Just to be clear

You're looking way too deep into this man. That ***** musta had some power to it. That's why you need sh.t to keep you busy man, other plates, good friends, activities..

She seems like she's still interested if shes texting you. That's all that matters. I'd play it cool and not respond to much because who the f-k wants to have friendly banter.. That just makes things super favorable to her and way less favorable for you (apparently, since it seems like you are getting emotionally involved or wondering if theres more)

 

[powersize]

Ok, long time no update here.
So after you folks advised to get my sh1t together it actually worked.
I asked her out last time when she replied that she really wants to be with me but her friend is coming to visit her and they wanna spend all the weekend parting and stuff like that, so she proposed next weekend. I played it cool and said have fun and text me once you are free. Than I went silent for 1 week and played indifferent once we see each other at work. At the same time I met one chick which we agreed to go drink something on Friday.

So the weekend is over, it is next Friday, I still haven’t spoken with that Latina chick and when I am at the gym I get the message from her like “any plans for the evening?” I reply “busy”, than silence for an hour or so. Than I text “Tomorrow 8pm you buy your fav beer and come over my place” She immediately agreed. At the same day I meet that another chick, we drink, and I end up at her place ****ing her. At the same time I get the text from that Latin chick “what are you doing tonight that you said no?”. In the morning once I am at my place I reply “just met my friends”

so next day the Latina chick comes to my place, at the beginning she is kinda cold, sits far from me and is in her cellphone all the time. I asked why she is in her cellphone constantly and got some bs answer on which I said “well, you came over to my place and you are with me” and stuff like that. It was the last time she checked her phone this night. Than we drink, eat some pizza, talk, and end up having a good sex. Next morning I wake her up, have sex again, than shower together and she runs to meet her friends on brunch.
Last night she told me she gonna travel next weekend so I asked how about meeting during the week before she goes and she agreed on Mon or Tue. Than in couple of hours I get a text from her “hey, met my friends and they told me look on your face, you had a good night…and I told them my Viking did not let me sleep” (lol I do look like Viking)

So on Tuesday I text her about meeting and she says she is too busy the whole week with moving to the new apartment and than traveling. So we agreed again figure something out on the next week.

She also texted my “why do you act like this with me? You agreed to travel with me, than you invited to your place?” I replied “Wanted to get to know you better”

So I feel I have a good frame now. I keep teasing her at work and gonna wait again if she will reach me out next week and then set up a date. At the same time I am gonna check that girl from Friday and see what will happen.