ELMER_GANTRY
Don Juan
Make no bones about it guys, women are instantly attracted to men that have confidence. Confident men turn women on, they are assertive, know what they want, know how to handle relationships, are strong men that can protect women and make them feel secure. They give off magnetic positive energy that women crave and find irresistible. I will write more about being confident and how it will help you tremendously in my next thread, but let's look at how a lack of confidence is hurting your chances out there with women.
A lack of confidence is the #1 reason what is killing guys chances to obtain women. Some guys might already know this, but they continue to lack confidence, which is the biggest reason for guys down fall with women besides looks. It is written all over your face, your body language, how you talk, how you walk, everything about you reeks from a lack of confidence that repels women away from you. Confident men see you that way too, and don't want to associate with you.
Women are instantly turned off by men who display a lack of confidence. They look weak, wimpy, unsure of themselves, not very strong, wishy washy, self-conscious. not comfortable in their own skin, a huge push over that will be walked over by anybody and everybody. In fact, women are more confident than some of these guys who lack confidence.
So why on earth would a girl want to date a guy like that? He won't make her feel safe if he is wimpy and a push over. She doesn't want to control a relationship because the weak man is afraid to step up and take charge. Why would she want a weakling as a boyfriend who is afrraid of his own shadow? She doesn't, so that is why she ignores your attempts to talk when you meet her, turns you down when you ask for her number, or flakes on you if you do manage to get her number. She wants that strong confident guy, and you are not it.
A women makes her first decisions about you within the first few minutes of meeting you. She will measure you up and see what you got. She will look to see how you present yourself to her. She will look at your body language, your eye contact, how you are talking to her, and how confident you really are. Those first few minutes of the initial meeting are crucial, and will determine the outcome if you will get her number, get a date, and yes, even get the chance to have sex with her. All of that is going through her mind while you are there with her. If you appear wimpy, creepy, weird, nervous, not confident, she will turn you down and walk away from you, all because you weren't a confident man. Don't forget that you can't fake confidence, your eyes will always give you away every single time.
It is so important to be confident, because even if you manage to get her number, she can still turn you down for a date, because she will remember you weren't that confident when you met, and she will go out with a man that has confidence instead of you, that was insecure and unsure of yourself. You need to make a great first impression, because women will always remember where she first met you, and being a confident man will leave a great impression for her to remember you.
Last weekend, I was out with my buddies, and got a chance to see some men who lacked confidence that tried to approach some women. Thought it would be good to post on here, so I did. Here is how it turned out for them....
Guy #1...mid 30's, balding, short. This guy looked really nervous chewing his gum. Infact, he was chewing so fast, I thought he was going to swallow his gum. He was self-conscious and placed the chick above him. That was literally too, because she was taller than him. Their convo didn't last all that long, maybe 2 or 3 minute tops, if that. He nervously smiled, kind of waved bye to her, put his hands in his pockets, chewing his gum fast as he walked away empty handed.
Guy #2....late 30's-early 40's...tall...Now this guy was trying to fake being confident. he had this goofy grin on his face like he was trying to be cool. He looked phony and looked like a fool. He approached 2 women in their 40's got nowhere and he walked away with that plastered grin. Tried with a younger girl and she shook her head no and walked away from him. Some other girls laughed at him after he passed them by. Tried with a 30ish woman, talked for a few minutes before he left the place with nothing.
Guy #3...mid 20's...glasses..dorky guy....this guy was trying his C&F routines with the ladies. He wasn't smooth and his negs came off as fake and not very funny. Other girls walked away from him or ignored him, then he went back to his seat.
Guy #4....early 30's..tall..long face...this guy had a red face and was sweating like a pig. you could see sweat stains under his arm pits and on his back. He was nervous too and got nowhere either.
Guy #5...20's..pretty good looking guy...this guy was looking down and not at the girls and appeared very boring. He too got nothing.
Guy #6....20's....tall..thin...This guy looked like someone was after him, he kept peeking over his shoulder, looking around to see if people were watching him. He talked with one girl briefly and that was it. He tried again before we left and he got nothing and walked out too. He looked creepy so you can imagine how women saw him.
Guy #7..20's...balding...medium height....this guy was talking really fast to this one chick...she kept saying "what?" he had to repeat himself several times to her. He did that with 5 other girls and got no results because he was nervous.
Guy #8...20's asian...He tried to be PUA artitst but couldnt handle his scripts I guess because the women got turned off by him.
So, all these 8 guys were nervous, unsure of themselves, self-conscious, and had no confidence. The women saw this and you could spot these guys a mile away, they stuck out like a sore thumb, and as a result, they all failed for the night, got no numbers, no girls, and walked away empty handed. All due to the fact they had no confidence in themselves. If they were, they would of looked like a man, been confident, got numbers, instead of looking like weak wimpy men.
Confidence is what atracts women, a lack of confidence repels them and is the #1 that is killing your chances of attracting wmen. Work on your confidence, yoiur inner game, project yourself as a confident man, and you will see huge results in your ability to attract women.
A lack of confidence is the #1 reason what is killing guys chances to obtain women. Some guys might already know this, but they continue to lack confidence, which is the biggest reason for guys down fall with women besides looks. It is written all over your face, your body language, how you talk, how you walk, everything about you reeks from a lack of confidence that repels women away from you. Confident men see you that way too, and don't want to associate with you.
Women are instantly turned off by men who display a lack of confidence. They look weak, wimpy, unsure of themselves, not very strong, wishy washy, self-conscious. not comfortable in their own skin, a huge push over that will be walked over by anybody and everybody. In fact, women are more confident than some of these guys who lack confidence.
So why on earth would a girl want to date a guy like that? He won't make her feel safe if he is wimpy and a push over. She doesn't want to control a relationship because the weak man is afraid to step up and take charge. Why would she want a weakling as a boyfriend who is afrraid of his own shadow? She doesn't, so that is why she ignores your attempts to talk when you meet her, turns you down when you ask for her number, or flakes on you if you do manage to get her number. She wants that strong confident guy, and you are not it.
A women makes her first decisions about you within the first few minutes of meeting you. She will measure you up and see what you got. She will look to see how you present yourself to her. She will look at your body language, your eye contact, how you are talking to her, and how confident you really are. Those first few minutes of the initial meeting are crucial, and will determine the outcome if you will get her number, get a date, and yes, even get the chance to have sex with her. All of that is going through her mind while you are there with her. If you appear wimpy, creepy, weird, nervous, not confident, she will turn you down and walk away from you, all because you weren't a confident man. Don't forget that you can't fake confidence, your eyes will always give you away every single time.
It is so important to be confident, because even if you manage to get her number, she can still turn you down for a date, because she will remember you weren't that confident when you met, and she will go out with a man that has confidence instead of you, that was insecure and unsure of yourself. You need to make a great first impression, because women will always remember where she first met you, and being a confident man will leave a great impression for her to remember you.
Last weekend, I was out with my buddies, and got a chance to see some men who lacked confidence that tried to approach some women. Thought it would be good to post on here, so I did. Here is how it turned out for them....
Guy #1...mid 30's, balding, short. This guy looked really nervous chewing his gum. Infact, he was chewing so fast, I thought he was going to swallow his gum. He was self-conscious and placed the chick above him. That was literally too, because she was taller than him. Their convo didn't last all that long, maybe 2 or 3 minute tops, if that. He nervously smiled, kind of waved bye to her, put his hands in his pockets, chewing his gum fast as he walked away empty handed.
Guy #2....late 30's-early 40's...tall...Now this guy was trying to fake being confident. he had this goofy grin on his face like he was trying to be cool. He looked phony and looked like a fool. He approached 2 women in their 40's got nowhere and he walked away with that plastered grin. Tried with a younger girl and she shook her head no and walked away from him. Some other girls laughed at him after he passed them by. Tried with a 30ish woman, talked for a few minutes before he left the place with nothing.
Guy #3...mid 20's...glasses..dorky guy....this guy was trying his C&F routines with the ladies. He wasn't smooth and his negs came off as fake and not very funny. Other girls walked away from him or ignored him, then he went back to his seat.
Guy #4....early 30's..tall..long face...this guy had a red face and was sweating like a pig. you could see sweat stains under his arm pits and on his back. He was nervous too and got nowhere either.
Guy #5...20's..pretty good looking guy...this guy was looking down and not at the girls and appeared very boring. He too got nothing.
Guy #6....20's....tall..thin...This guy looked like someone was after him, he kept peeking over his shoulder, looking around to see if people were watching him. He talked with one girl briefly and that was it. He tried again before we left and he got nothing and walked out too. He looked creepy so you can imagine how women saw him.
Guy #7..20's...balding...medium height....this guy was talking really fast to this one chick...she kept saying "what?" he had to repeat himself several times to her. He did that with 5 other girls and got no results because he was nervous.
Guy #8...20's asian...He tried to be PUA artitst but couldnt handle his scripts I guess because the women got turned off by him.
So, all these 8 guys were nervous, unsure of themselves, self-conscious, and had no confidence. The women saw this and you could spot these guys a mile away, they stuck out like a sore thumb, and as a result, they all failed for the night, got no numbers, no girls, and walked away empty handed. All due to the fact they had no confidence in themselves. If they were, they would of looked like a man, been confident, got numbers, instead of looking like weak wimpy men.
Confidence is what atracts women, a lack of confidence repels them and is the #1 that is killing your chances of attracting wmen. Work on your confidence, yoiur inner game, project yourself as a confident man, and you will see huge results in your ability to attract women.
