Yes, this is my first post. I have been on the site/ reading david deangelo's material for about 6 or 7 months now, and I'll say I have become quite popular in my school (I'm a sophomore), a lot of ppl know me, most like me, some naturally don't, I try not to care or take it personally. I have no fear talking to *anyone* and have developed a good personallity. So this site has obviously helped me tremendously. I have been reading posts for quite awhile too, but now I have a pretty important question, so any help is much appreciated.
My success with girls has increased tremendously. However, I have a problem lately especially. I am good at making fun of girls/ ****y/funny sort of thing. However, I have a problem thats not totally uncommon. Whenever I say anything, I don't want it to sound too nice, put them in control, etc.
So the problem is that I know of plenty of girls that like me/would like me, I am funny in a ****y way and I am told often enough that I'm hott. But the girls can never tell I am interested in any way, or else they would like me a lot, but they think I'm an a**hole or a jerk. I even talk to girls and they say things like "but you wouldn't want to do that" or "you wouldn't want me to come" stuff like that. I guess I make it seem like I am totally uninterested.
If that's not the situation, with some girls I am just an a**hole. flat out. I try to be as 'unwussy' as I can, and I overkill. The problem is, I can't just be nicer. I don't know how to do it right.
The truth is, with my really good friends, they all know I'm a great guy, the know I'm not a pvssy, I'm a man.
I used to be waaay too nice and I never want to go back to that foolishness. But I need help. I need help on how to talk so that I'm funny, but without actually pissing girls off ( they really get mad, not just fake mad). Also, what do I say/how do I act that people won't think I'm an a**hole, but will see that I'm confident (since I am actually quite a bit ****y) and not a wussbag ( which I am no longer in anyway) and lastly, how can I show interest/be playful, without giving away my power.
I GREATLY appreciate any real advice/criticism/help/b!tchslapping from you guys. (and yes, I have read the bible and double your dating by david d. This doesn't happen in all situations, but it has been happening in more and more situations, that is why I need help from my actual fellow dj's.)
I know it's long, thanks for reading, and thanks for the help!
My success with girls has increased tremendously. However, I have a problem lately especially. I am good at making fun of girls/ ****y/funny sort of thing. However, I have a problem thats not totally uncommon. Whenever I say anything, I don't want it to sound too nice, put them in control, etc.
So the problem is that I know of plenty of girls that like me/would like me, I am funny in a ****y way and I am told often enough that I'm hott. But the girls can never tell I am interested in any way, or else they would like me a lot, but they think I'm an a**hole or a jerk. I even talk to girls and they say things like "but you wouldn't want to do that" or "you wouldn't want me to come" stuff like that. I guess I make it seem like I am totally uninterested.
If that's not the situation, with some girls I am just an a**hole. flat out. I try to be as 'unwussy' as I can, and I overkill. The problem is, I can't just be nicer. I don't know how to do it right.
The truth is, with my really good friends, they all know I'm a great guy, the know I'm not a pvssy, I'm a man.
I used to be waaay too nice and I never want to go back to that foolishness. But I need help. I need help on how to talk so that I'm funny, but without actually pissing girls off ( they really get mad, not just fake mad). Also, what do I say/how do I act that people won't think I'm an a**hole, but will see that I'm confident (since I am actually quite a bit ****y) and not a wussbag ( which I am no longer in anyway) and lastly, how can I show interest/be playful, without giving away my power.
I GREATLY appreciate any real advice/criticism/help/b!tchslapping from you guys. (and yes, I have read the bible and double your dating by david d. This doesn't happen in all situations, but it has been happening in more and more situations, that is why I need help from my actual fellow dj's.)
I know it's long, thanks for reading, and thanks for the help!