Colossus
Master Don Juan
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Following is an email written to me by a girl I know fairly well. We often discuss current events and the state of gender affairs, and she is, in my opinion, what all of us should strive to find in a WIFE (gasp!), in terms of her views and attitudes. She is a Christian (as am I) but don't let that throw you off if you are atheist or agnostic. The message is the same. I'm posting this with her permission for a little encouragement, and to say, yes, these girls do exist.
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"I was doing some reading this morning and as I found myself becoming more and more outraged, more and more upset about the mindset of (mostly) women and men these days I decided to try and see things from a different point of view.
Instead of dwelling on how doomed our society is due to the lack of appreciation for gender differences, I am instead going to be thankful that you and I (as individuals) have made it this far without becoming completely corrupt alongside everyone else.
When I read something like this:
The obvious contradictions are enough to make me want to rip my eyes out to keep from further reading such trash!! First of all, she is defending feminism by saying that is has nothing to do with female superiority and male hate and everything to do with "equality" but quickly follows up this statement with how women are "by far the stronger of the sexes in every way but physically". Even still- follows THIS ignorance with the idea that no woman, "Especially black women" has the need to be submissive, as if now skin color now has something to do with it?!??!
Instead of worry and anger and frustration- what I am choosing to take away from this is thankfulness that the Lord has guarded my heart and mind. That he has kept me from falling into these ideas and mindsets that I believe are meant to steal, kill and destroy (as evil so loves to do) the natural order of our genders and the role that it plays within our relationships.
Furthermore, When I read things like THIS
It seems that everyone wants to teach us that this is "unnatural". Or that male lead relationships and femininity is practically a taboo fetish of sorts. I really am starting to believe that this way of thinking and teaching brought on by the feminist movement is honestly a spiritual battle. What will become of a people who are locked into a gender battle? Women have quite literally began to wage war on men and masculinity and by doing so are perpetuating the very behaviors in men that displease them. When women spew man hate and constantly fight for what they call "equality" they turn off men who in return start to, as you say, "pump and dump" because they can't find a women worth actually spending quality time with.
So with women demeaning and fighting to dominate men, and men resenting and harboring bitterness because of these women...what will become of us? What will become of marriages? Women were made to compliment, encourage and help men. When women fight, belittle and disrespect men- and raise their offspring to do the same- what will become of the human race? Marriages will continue to fail. Or cease to exist. Unfortunately this will have no effect on the rate of reproduction but will have a HUGE effect on the spiritual, mental and even physical outcome of the offspring that is born into this. I say physical because I think the idea that "gender" is wrong and bad is what has lead us to "transgender, transexual and inter-sexual" ideals that lead to sex changes etc.
While these realizations hurt my heart and sprit they also spark my passion for change. I hate to dwell on the negative but being fully aware of the problem impassions me to be and do everything in my personal power to NOT fall into these thoughts, ideas, mindsets or lifestyles. I want to do, say and be exactly the opposite of these women. I want my life and relationship to be a walking feminist contradiction. Hopefully the peace, love, happiness and success that comes out of this will be a huge wake-up call for women around me."
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"I was doing some reading this morning and as I found myself becoming more and more outraged, more and more upset about the mindset of (mostly) women and men these days I decided to try and see things from a different point of view.
Instead of dwelling on how doomed our society is due to the lack of appreciation for gender differences, I am instead going to be thankful that you and I (as individuals) have made it this far without becoming completely corrupt alongside everyone else.
When I read something like this:
(emphasis added)Though 40 years have passed and great progress has taken place, many men continue to feel that a woman who describes herself as "a feminist" is a male basher that hates men. To these fellows, a woman who would dare upset the well established imbalance of power by requesting an equal share, respect and opportunities for females is viewed as someone whose goal is to destroy the family, and men in particular.
Nothing could be further from the truth.
Taking a stand against male oppression and fighting for a woman to have the right to say "No!" to you and make choices that suit her does not mean that such a woman is against you. Being pro-woman does not mean that one is anti-male.
According to the dictionary, feminism is "the movement for the full social, political and economic equality of all people." When viewed in those terms, how could any decent man be against the feminist movement?
Women are powerful, smart, strong creatures, emotionally resilient, caring, and in touch with themselves and others emotionally. Women are by far the stronger of the sexes in every way but physically. No woman, and especially Black women, has the need to be submissive to men on any level at any time.
The obvious contradictions are enough to make me want to rip my eyes out to keep from further reading such trash!! First of all, she is defending feminism by saying that is has nothing to do with female superiority and male hate and everything to do with "equality" but quickly follows up this statement with how women are "by far the stronger of the sexes in every way but physically". Even still- follows THIS ignorance with the idea that no woman, "Especially black women" has the need to be submissive, as if now skin color now has something to do with it?!??!
Instead of worry and anger and frustration- what I am choosing to take away from this is thankfulness that the Lord has guarded my heart and mind. That he has kept me from falling into these ideas and mindsets that I believe are meant to steal, kill and destroy (as evil so loves to do) the natural order of our genders and the role that it plays within our relationships.
Furthermore, When I read things like THIS
I have a tendency to become even MORE horrified because of the false information provided by a statement that at first seems like it is against feminism and somewhat in support of a male dominated relationship. Unfortunately it quickly takes a turn in the opposite direction stating that most women who are submissive are being used and abused?!? This is absolutely ridiculous. And then to say that submissive personalities are a choice and not a natural state? In the way of "obedience" yes, it is a choice. But submissiveness IS a natural state in the same way that some people are naturally more "dominant" personalities than others.In today’s genre of female dominance and feminism, it is almost impossible to believe that there are submissive women. Are they the less important? The weak link to the female species?
For your information submissive women should not be labeled as weak. Why? Isn't it a fact that most women who readily submit are the ones being used and abused by their partner or husband?
Mostly, yes, but many of these abused women are not as weak as we think they are. Besides being submissive has a broader sense of definition.
Female Submission – What it Means
Wikipedia described female submission as a relationship wherein women submit or yield to a dominant partner. It also stated that the submission can be voluntary, consensual or as a duress resulting from a social, economical, psychological, educational or cultural mandate. In this case, it can be safely concluded that women who yields relentless has a choice not a natural trait.
It seems that everyone wants to teach us that this is "unnatural". Or that male lead relationships and femininity is practically a taboo fetish of sorts. I really am starting to believe that this way of thinking and teaching brought on by the feminist movement is honestly a spiritual battle. What will become of a people who are locked into a gender battle? Women have quite literally began to wage war on men and masculinity and by doing so are perpetuating the very behaviors in men that displease them. When women spew man hate and constantly fight for what they call "equality" they turn off men who in return start to, as you say, "pump and dump" because they can't find a women worth actually spending quality time with.
So with women demeaning and fighting to dominate men, and men resenting and harboring bitterness because of these women...what will become of us? What will become of marriages? Women were made to compliment, encourage and help men. When women fight, belittle and disrespect men- and raise their offspring to do the same- what will become of the human race? Marriages will continue to fail. Or cease to exist. Unfortunately this will have no effect on the rate of reproduction but will have a HUGE effect on the spiritual, mental and even physical outcome of the offspring that is born into this. I say physical because I think the idea that "gender" is wrong and bad is what has lead us to "transgender, transexual and inter-sexual" ideals that lead to sex changes etc.
While these realizations hurt my heart and sprit they also spark my passion for change. I hate to dwell on the negative but being fully aware of the problem impassions me to be and do everything in my personal power to NOT fall into these thoughts, ideas, mindsets or lifestyles. I want to do, say and be exactly the opposite of these women. I want my life and relationship to be a walking feminist contradiction. Hopefully the peace, love, happiness and success that comes out of this will be a huge wake-up call for women around me."