A hard to get, but still want to get..

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Hi DJ's

I will introduce myself first I guess..
I'm a male.. 16 years old.. and have been.. what can I say.. CRUSHED on a girl for almost 2 and a half years now..

And by reading The DJ Bible.. I found out that I was doing wrong all the time..
I was trying to be ''the nice guy''.. which is the worst thing you can be according to the bible.

Now basicly why I'm posting.. is to get a hold of the ways you guyz would handle this.. and take some tips out of it...
So please dont start flaming me

I have been a friend of her.. for nearly 4 years now.. and I want this to end.. I wanna be THE friend.. if ya know what I mean.

I know her life in every single detail.. and I was stupid enough to be SO nice.. to hook my best friend (at that time) up with ther a few months ago.. who played her to the fullest, and then dropped her. (She still talks to me about this B.S.)

Her brother is one of my best friends.. so I'm suited with that one also.. Her parents like me.. at least her mother does.. she said I was a perfect guy for her.. but ofcourse the girl herself.. laughed and said ''moooommmmm''... as usual.

Now some of you DJ's.. will probably say.. NEXT

But it aint that easy.. every HOT chick on our school, is playing Hard To get.. and outside of school.. there ain't much.. since I'm not allowed to go out (bad grades )

Basicly all I want is her.. and for some reason.. I will not rest untill she will be mine..


Tips are very welcome!

Thanks in advance!!

 

[El MonoLoco]

Deal with your grades!!!!!

Forget about that girl. Just be C+F at school or whatever.

The most important thing for you to think about now is school.

Your oneitis will eat you up man, just let it go. There will be WAY more girls to come along, trust me....


Just focus on school and the rest will fall into place, granted you keep up with your studies here

 

[The Nice Guy is Gone]

Just focus on school and the rest will fall into place, granted you keep up with your studies here

That is the best thing you can do right now.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

Man I've been there...... o boy have I been there. It just seems like you never get the girl you really really want simply because of the fact that you really really want her. When you want someone real bad you give a off a vibe to them that actually repels them. It sucks.

I think you should just make a move. There'a a good chance you'll get rejected but at least then you'll know where you stand. There is nothing worse than just sitting around thinking about what could be. Do you want to play the game or watch from the sideline? One of of two things will happen. One, you could get her and then you'll be the happiest guy on the planet. Or two, you'll get rejected, you'll move on with your life, find another terrific girl, and then you'll still be the happiest guy on the planet. So you see it's a no lose situation.

I remember like 3 years ago there was this girl on my job. She looked like Salma Hayek........... gorgeous. After a year and a half of admiring her from a distance I got to know one of her friends. I had her introduce me to her. We talked for a while and I asked for her number, She said she had a boyfriend and that she was faithful and that was it. But you know what, after that day I felt alot better. Ok, I didn't get the girl, but at least I tried. I still thought she was hot but I really didn't think much about her after that day. I moved on and found other girls. Just always remember that there are tons of girls out there. It may hurt for a second but you will get over any girl.

 

[$BD]

Thx for the tips so far

YOu see BuckWildNYC (nice name btw).. I've got her number.. and have been to her place several times.. and we talk TOO much.. seriously..

Though I have been reading and reading and reading and thinking.. all becuz of these forums.. and I've made up my mind..

I'm no longer gonna be the one chasin' the cat.. I'm gonna be the person that is gonna get chased..

But I don't just wanna sit back and relax.. becuz it won't work out that way..

She's really playin hard to get.. and playin stupid you know..
She's the kind of girl ACTING like she thinks she's ugly.. but KNOWING she's fvcking gorgeous..

She also seems to like attention.. whatcha say..? Let's be a normal guy from now on..? a random person that is NOT chasin her fúcking hot ass.. woo

 

[spitkicker]

Tell her that you love her as a friend, but you want more. Tell her that until she is "something more" that you can't talk to her or see her. Keep true to this. She will come running.

Note: I have seen this work. A guy i know landed the most beautiful girl in the school this way. The thing is, he is crazy, literally, and actually meant it. But it worked. Be strong and don't turn into a ***** if you tell her you two are done. Don't put up with any ****. Just walk away and tlel her you two arent talking.

If this causes too much pain for you, then i suppose you could just start kino'ing her and being flirtateous.

 

[MightyMate]

Im not sure if You can get out of friend zone. You seem really ****ed.

 

[BuckwildNYC]

It seems like you are stuck in the dreaded friend zone that is so hard to get out of. I think you have to be aggressive and put her on the spot. Stop letting her cruise by enjoying the attention that you are giving her without giving you anything in return.

Start giving her long strong hugs when you see her. If you give her a kiss on the cheek make it a little closer to her mouth than normal. Keep escalating the kino until you guys are either making out and getting busy or she pulls away. At that point confront her. Let her know how you feel. Tell her that when you see her all you want to do is touch her and kiss her. She needs to know that it is impossible for you to remain JUST friends with her. I agree with ****kicker here. If she doesn't feel the same way then you guys won't be hanging out no more. It's too hard for you to be next to her and not be WITH her.

Realize that this may completely end your friendship with her. But, fukk it, at least you'll either have her or be able to move on with your life. You don't need girls as friends. They suck at sports and they don't play video games lol.

 

[LiveStrong]

Hey bro-

You should next her...I know you don't want to hear that and so you probably wont...so heres some additional advice that should help.

1.)Get your grades up.
2.)Take up a hobby. Preferably something active.
3.)Cut back on the masterbation ; ) (lowers your sex drive)
4.)Reinvent yourself. (new clothes, new cologne, maybe new hair style....just something)
5.)Stop spending sooooo much of your precious time with her.
In fact start spending less and less time with her.... make her miss you.
6.)Start flirting with all the ****ing girls in school. Im talking about flirting with not only the fine ones but the notso fine ones as well. get them all talking about you....this demonstrates value...makes you the prize..puts you on a pedastal resulting in a girl on girl competition for your approval. This is not a speedy process...you need to start planting seeds in all the girls.
7.)This will make your oneitis realize what shes missing out on. After she throws herself at you begging you to hangout with her again is the time to act. make your move.... no more friend sh*t. She at this point needs to know where you stand and what you want. If she doesnt ablige then she loses the biggest playa at the school .

Respect

 

[NHY]

I'm going to have to agree with El MonoLoco; Focus on your bloody Grades! School is so much more important at this stage in life than anything else. You want a future, don't ya? Then focus more on school, for crying out loud! It kinda sounds like you have a dose of Oneitis ( or however you spell it ) as well, your also in the dreaded friendship zone, I think your screwed man, unless you put in a LOT of work into it, work you should be putting into school!

When I was 16, I was totally obsessed with this girl in my class, then we had a falling out, which was probably the best thing that ever happened to me. It forced to me question some of my very incompatible close - minded ethics and was one of the main factors that drove out of a 4 year depression cycle. I started to focus on other things, like school and my grades sky - rocketed. An unexpected side - effect was that I became open minded, willing to listen to both sides of the story.

If you don't want to ruin the friendship, DON'T LET HER KNOW. If you willing to take the risk, JUST DO IT! Get it done and over with, if she rejects you, so what? At least you can focus your energy on other stuff now!

Good Luck, man, your going to need it on the journey to becoming a DJ.

NHY

 

[djbr]

Just one thing:
Do NOT do like I did.

I had terrible grades at high school because of obsessing over women, and this is something I really regret. I didn't develop sound habits for studying, and that is harder to do now in college.

FOCUS ON YOUR GRADES, YOUR FUTURE. YOURSELF #1 ALWAYS. NO EXCUSES, NEVER.

 

[$BD]

Originally posted by LiveStrong
Hey bro-

You should next her...I know you don't want to hear that and so you probably wont...so heres some additional advice that should help.

1.)Get your grades up.
2.)Take up a hobby. Preferably something active.
3.)Cut back on the masterbation ; ) (lowers your sex drive)
4.)Reinvent yourself. (new clothes, new cologne, maybe new hair style....just something)
5.)Stop spending sooooo much of your precious time with her.
In fact start spending less and less time with her.... make her miss you.
6.)Start flirting with all the ****ing girls in school. Im talking about flirting with not only the fine ones but the notso fine ones as well. get them all talking about you....this demonstrates value...makes you the prize..puts you on a pedastal resulting in a girl on girl competition for your approval. This is not a speedy process...you need to start planting seeds in all the girls.
7.)This will make your oneitis realize what shes missing out on. After she throws herself at you begging you to hangout with her again is the time to act. make your move.... no more friend sh*t. She at this point needs to know where you stand and what you want. If she doesnt ablige then she loses the biggest playa at the school .

Respect

1.) Consider it done, I promiss to get decent grades.. to you all
2.) Whatcha reccommend? I dart a lot.. but I don't think that's what ya aimin' on? (btw im not a chubby darter.)
3.) Believe it or not.. but I don't
4.) She gives me comps about my clothing.. so I suggest I will keep it? But about the hairstyle.. I jsut CANT decide which hairstyle to pick.. I have one thats easy to fit.. so I think im gonna stay with that one
5.) I'll try.. I talk with her a lot, at least an hour a day.. But if she's talkin to me, I can't just NOT talk back.. or can I?
6.) Was workin' on that already..
7.) I hope she will understand what she's missin' cuz.. well.. She's gorgeous.. and if I don't give her any attention.. it doesn't mean the other boys around wont.. cuz like nearly EVERY guy in school is like drooling when they see her.. lol

So about layin back on the attention.. I don't know.. maybe she will actually forget me or somthing..


Btw.. I asked her out yesterday.. she said yes, as long as it wouldn't ruin our friendship..(She probably knows im gonna try stuff.. lol).. So I guess I'll go out with her.. then try to lay back on the attention.. Cuz IF i try to kiss her.. and get rejected.. There's no way.. any girl in our ufcking school will look at me anymore. thats the gay part about our school.. AND there are hardly any SINGLE good-lookings.


Thanks again for all the tips!

 

[El MonoLoco]

Man you don't listen do you?



Next that dumb ho....Who cares about what people at school think you won't see much of them in the upcoming years anyway.....

I suggest breaking your date and not talking to her again....blow her off.....don't listen to or follow anything she ever says again.....


Go to you schools sports and flirts with their chicks....that will fix #7

 

[$BD]

ghokay.. i will cancel it.. I already did by the way.. the friendship is more valuable to me then a quick **** imho.