a group of girls insulted me and now i feel horrible

[evolvingnerd]

hahahaha
ur forgetting one important fact mate

you approached a cheerleader, who almost by definition is a moronic bimbo with next to no neural connections

forget that dumb biatch, cause ur certainly coming along if you had the stones to even approach her

kudos

 

[MindOverMatter]

A lot of people here are not being real about this whole situation, and are feeding you false hopes in efforts to cheer you up. I'll tell you how it is, and keep in mind, I'm trying to help you here.

Attraction plays a large role in whether or not you hook up with the girl. If she is not attracted to you, all your confidence, c&f, neg-hits, whatever the hell you have will be useless. Girls can be just as superficial as guys.

If a girl finds you hot, you DON'T NEED to be a DJ, you don't need to use any sosuave / fastseduction / DYD methods. If a girl finds you hot, you really don't have to put in a lot of work.

I don't consider this girl a b!tch, or hold it against her for what she said. Would you have approached her if she was a fat chick and not a cheerleader? Probably not. Why? Because you have standards and don't want to date someone bellow your standards. And if your friends asked you why you didn't go for the fat nerdy chick with glasses, you'd probably be brutally and honest and tell them you didn't find her attractive for various reasons.

Despite what these silly pick up artists tell you, there are leagues, and bro, you were out of yours on this one. She is a cheerleader, she hangs around athletes who have chisled bodies, and have had their pick of women for such a long time that their game is near perfect. The fact is, she has probably been f*cked by guys who are not only better looking then you, but were probably even more confident / had stronger game. She wont settle for you, just like you wont settle for a fat nerdy chick.

So what do you do? You can either:

1.) Set your standards lower and stop going after the girls in the top percentiles.

2.) Improve yourself to the point where you are their equal, if not their superior.

The confidence you had was obviously fake, otherwise you wouldn't have cared what that girl said. Improve yourself, and build REAL CONFIDENCE that no one can take away from you. Don't pretend to be a prize and approach cheerleaders, BECOME THE PRIZE FIRST. Don't go around thinking you're better then any other guy she can find and then hope she buys into your act, BECOME BETTER THEN ANY OTHER GUY IN HER LIFE

You say you're husky? What the hell is husky? If she said you're fat, you probably are. The good thing is, you can do something about this. Lose that fat, start hitting weights, and achieve that physical perfection that makes girls wet when they see you without a shirt. It's not f*cking hard, put in several months of hard work, and you WILL see results.

As for this girl, forget about her, and use this experiance as motivation.

Good luck bro.

 

[Jariel]

I completely agree with everything Mindovermatter said. It might seem hard to take, but it's very good advice.

I used to get insulted regularly, even by strangers, but since I lost weight and improved my look I get respect from people I meet and get more people wanting to meet me.

It's sad, but true, society is superficial.

 

[mistyc]

You were able to type this message. So.. I assume you still have both your arms and your 10 fingers. I assume you are still in perfect shape. You are still able to laugh, cry, eat, sleep, drink, watch TV, walk, etc.

Or am I wrong? Did these girls tear off one of your arms and use it to beat you up like the local bully?

If not.. I fail to see the problem...

 

[Parsifal]

I repeat once more: As long as YOU are confident with your looks and attitude, there is no need to change!
'Some people' (in this case, the chick) just like to put other people down - not because there is something wrong with other people, but because 'some people' ARE that way. All of you who recommend this guy to change, you think it is HIS problem, while there is clearly something wrong with HER attitude. Arrogance is not the standard - and it never can be justified.

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

i feel completely embarrassed and horrible. my confidence is destroyed. is there anything i can do to recover from this?

Let me get this straight....because one girl doesn't want you that means it's the end of the world?

Nope, sorry, not registration inside my mind here.

Instead of using this as negative thinking, why not turn it into positive thinking.

Instead of saying "oh im worthless, this girl hates me, Im such a loser."

Think "wow what an expierence, now what exactly can I learn from this?"

Well for starters she said you were fat...now this doesnt have to mean your overweight but your not in GREAT shape. As M.O.M (mind over matter) mentioned shes a cheerleader so shes probably around guys that are in unreal shape.

You took a big step and approached...it didn't work the way you wanted it. So now what you just want to quit? That's whats wrong with so many guys today. The answer isnt one step foward two steps back in this situation. The answer is keep moving foward.
Get your butt in better shape do whatever it is that you can do to improve yourself.

I repeat once more: As long as YOU are confident with your looks and attitude, there is no need to change!

I'm sorry but I call his bluff on that one. YOU should be changing/improving everyday. Theres always something you can work on. You don't quit; you were blessed with LIFE to get out and do stuff not just become ok at something then quit.

No one can be truly happy to where they don't want to continue moving foward, and if anyone tells you that their bulls*ittin ya.

I mean think about it...how many people talk about..."Oh I wish I would have done this or that" when they get older. Do you want to be that guy? Heck, no you don't. Atleast I hope you don't. So in concluding....don't stop approaching, don't give up. Instead go out and improve on everything you can and just keep repeating the process. Hell, I'd even go as far as saying you oughta thank the girl for getting you motovated.

I leave you with this quote form Tony Robbins....

"Your goal should be to get better, not perfect."

 

[Parsifal]

I'm sorry but I call his bluff on that one. YOU should be changing/improving everyday. Theres always something you can work on. You don't quit; you were blessed with LIFE to get out and do stuff not just become ok at something then quit.

I never said a guy shouldn't improve. However, self-improvement has to be done because there's something you feel that something has to change - not because some chick called you this or that.
I also never said a guy should quit the game because of stupid remarks. I just said that one has not to feel sorry because someone else's attitude sucks!

 

[InsidiousNstinct]

However, self-improvement has to be done because there's something you feel that something has to change - not because some chick called you this or that.

Well I bet anything right now that he feels down about himself and that he isn't good enough. That right there should be motovation enough to CHANGE.

I also never said a guy should quit the game because of stupid remarks. I just said that one has not to feel sorry because someone else's attitude sucks!

True, but why not use those negative remarks to impower yourself. Some times we need a haymaker to the face to wake up. Now am I saying what she done was OK? No, but instead of taking it harshly take it as constructive advice.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

I can pull down dozens of women a month without even trying.Out of that dozen 2 or 3 of those girls will have freinds who try to front and say I'm not all that or that i'm ugly or conceited.

Who do I respond to that?

B!TCH PLEASE.

If I was ugly how come you're prettier freind is on MY nuts?How come she forgets she has a boyfriend she sucks on my d!ck?If I was ugly why would that b!Tch,that *****,the other,her and her freind,her sister,and her neighbor give me the butt?

There's always gonna be chics that say stupid sh!t and all chics say stupid sh!t some of the time.

Her freinds are always shceming on you cuz women are just plain ole jealous b!tches.I stay away from them when and as far as possible.

If you listen to women you would have no confidence at all.This is why I say to focus on having males as -freinds and female as lovers.

Women are too jealius and bitter and fvcked in the head to be freinds(real freinds) with and have there opinions taken serioulsy.

Just front like you do respect them,and you are an ok guy but always remember 9-10's or them are cold-hearted b!tches.Always have that in the back of your mind.

And you need to man-up btw this happens to me without miss like every month her or her freinds start talking Sh!t or I get comments from women I've ignored.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

You might wanna post your pic,too.

 

[Parsifal]

Originally posted by InsidiousNstinct
Well I bet anything right now that he feels down about himself and that he isn't good enough. That right there should be motovation enough to CHANGE.

True, but why not use those negative remarks to impower yourself. Some times we need a haymaker to the face to wake up. Now am I saying what she done was OK? No, but instead of taking it harshly take it as constructive advice.

Agree, but it depends on the situation.
1. If he's really feeling insecure about himself -> if it takes to lose weight then he should start right away. He has to do this because he knows it will improve his life.
2. If he feels down for the moment because some girl put him down, then losing weight is not the answer. I think he is in this situation, so I advise him not to take the girl's remark seriously, as she just has a stupid attitude.

 

[00Kevin]

I think you need to workout and workout hard!
At the very least you should bulk up. You're a guy so it shouldn't bother you that you are fat. Look in the mirror and say, "Get off your ass you fat ****en loser and lose some weight"

What she is saying is true. Don't sulk and cry about it. Be a man and fix the problem. You acted like a REAL man when you asked her out so be a REAL man and accept the facts.

Just get off your ass and fix it.

Also, You might want to focus on older women Get a sense for a woman who is more mature. Figure out how to act around them. Go on a bunch of dates with older women. I'm sure you can accomplish that. Get some experience and try to accept the fact that you may be more mature then the girls you are interested in. Most men are more mature then women at your age. Women will tell you otherwise but it is a fact.


Do I look fat today? "Yes you do! go to the gym tonight dear"

 

[00Kevin]

when women your age find out that you can please an older woman. they will want you soooooo bad it isn't funny.

 

[saki]

The guy doesnt need to change his looks if he is content with them. I am not one of those "pretty boys" and I never will be. I could work out 10 hours a day and I would still not cut it, why? caz I have a little fuz on my back, im pale, freckly and moley, have black chest hair and firey red pubes, have a slight curvature in my spine, just a smorguesboard of shiit wrong with me imo. Do I care? No, I really dont, I have landed a 10 for a LT partner, I did it because I was her type, not because I wanted to sit around all day and give myself facials, and shave my back hair. You to have a type that girls will admire. All you need is confidence and to love yourself. You dont need to compete with a superficial society. There are plenty of girls that would love to go out with you. You must have game though, and must be able not to let a girl get ahold of your ballz. If I see a fine girl, i usually will not even give her the time of day, and even though im not the typical hunk, they wonder why is he not mesmerized by me? Because I have better and she has done NOTHING to win me over. I always make a biatch work for me. And if she is not interested, I dont care. I actually conversate better with HB 10s because the typical HB that most guys like is not my type. I dont like barbie girls and never will. But the whole point here is CONFIDENCE and GAME, you must have both. I have learned all my game from this site (great advise in here, and it was free! imagine that!) learn how to deal with women and most importantly dont give 2 shiits about a girl like that! Move on, you were asking for it when you asked out a cheerleader, there all stupid hoes imo. BTW guys can get away with the husky thing alot better than girls and most girls like a bigger man anyway. just my 2
l8

 

[00Kevin]

The problem is that this guy isn't content with his looks. If he liked being fat it wouldn't bother him.

The fact is this guy wants a hot little cheerleader girl. Nothing wrong with that. He just has to take this experience and accept the facts. Then fiqure out how he can change this situation.

How would you like it if a big fat girl came up to you and hit on you?

 

[00Kevin]

Re: Put yourself in your shoes

Originally posted by swampwiz
She is a beatiful woman. All the time, when she is out at a restaurant, the movies, in class, or at a nightspot, etc., there are rather unattractive men always trying to chat her up and ask for her phone number. She is a nice woman, so she does not want to say that she does not consider you a high enough calibre person that she would want to date (and of course, she could already have a boyfriend), so she just gives out a fake number to get you to just go away.

Can you blame her? I actually did something similar when a German homo was chatting me up at a ski resort in Austria (I was walking uphill and was out of breath and could not continue walking up for a another few minutes.) Just to get him to go away, I told him I would be at one of the bars the next night (I was already leaving that next morning.)

there might be something wrong with your game if you're attracting homo djs.

lol

sorry I just had to say that

 

[napoleon]

Write that bit ches answer on wour ceiling and every morning you get up start working out and every rep think of her. Not that you should care what she thinks but that's a great motivator. After a year she'll be sorry for blowing you off.
I won't tell you to turn the other cheek, or don't take it personal. I does hurt your ego but in 1 week you won't remember.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

So some cheerleader needs to feel better about herself by bragging to all her friends that a supposedly fat dude hit on her??

How pathetic is that?

Talk about a low self esteem. This girl is a pitiful example of a human being and I pity the poor f*ck who ever gets together with her. Talk about shallow.

 

[Don Juanabbe]

Originally posted by 00Kevin
when women your age find out that you can please an older woman. they will want you soooooo bad it isn't funny.

Oh, Kev, brother, I just love to see the young girlies get their knickers in a knot when they see me walk in on the arm of of an older woman sometimes.......OMFG, now that is funny watching them young little girlies barely able to hide their obvious jealousy.....

I get accused of being a male escort, you name it.....



LOL!

 

[Luveno]

CHEERLEADERS ARE ONLY GOOD FOR SEX. THAT FACT WILL LAST UNTIL SHE BECOMES UNATTRACTIVE. AT THAT POINT SHE IS GOOD FOR NOTHING.

Ok, now that that is out of the way.

You hit on a cheerleader and she was calling you fat. She also gave you a fake number.

Bimbos like that, in American society where the sweaty smelly cheerleader is the epitome of sexiness for some reason, feel the need to validate their existence by giving guys fake numbers and the like.

"Oh I only **** hot guys with hot bodies"...she says.

So here's what you do:

Go to the gym. Fatness is unattractive, unhealthy, and doesn't do any good for your personality either.

Get money. Get a career that makes money, such as medicine, law, high end business, etc. If there's one thing in life that women WANT, its an AMBITIOUS MAN WITH A LOT OF MONEY AND POWER. they want the right to brag to their bimbo friends about their rich guy.

A few years later:

You've done all that. Now you have the pick of the litter. That same cheer bimbo is still screwing sports morons, but since these guys dont really go anywhere after their "careers"(very very few are good enough to go pro and make a good living of it), shes stuck in a trailer with her breadwinning used to be quarterback husband who works at wal mart for a living.

You've upped your game and can choose whoever you like to have sex with. Youve become the prize...and you know what? You DIDNT DO IT TO ATTRACT WOMEN. You did it to become superior to your old self. That is the meaning of life.