Rizilki said:
So there is a girl I have been crushing on for a few months now.
Pedestal.
It has been just recently that I have been trying to make advancements in the relationship and now I thought she may not be interested in ne, because he is so nice it is very hard to tell. But I just spent two hours talking with at her dorm about some things we really have in common. You see the thing is I don't know if she is interested. I know this may sound homo but I am afraid to scare her away because we are really developing a good rapport.
Pedestal.
BTW, keep wasting time, she probably has friendzoned you by now mentally.
The longer you take, the harder it's going to be for her to erase her mental label of "FRIEND" that hangs over your head everytime she sees you. Are you developing good rapport as someone who is interested in screwing her brains out or is this friendly rapport?
Is there any kino involved?
How can you be afraid to scare her away when it seems like you haven't even indicated what your interest in her is?
I used to be so nervous around but lately since I have come here I have been A LoY more natural around her. She is one of those girls that come around 1/1000.
Pedestal is getting higher.
The reason why is because she is so morally right it is inspiring.
What in the BLUE HELL is this? Morally right? Few sentences about her and you can't even say MANLY things like: She's got great legs. Her boobs are incredible. I'd love to suck the living hell out of her lips.
Where's all of that? Morally right?
Man up. I want to hear about her breast size and how good she looks in heels or how when you threw a pencil on the ground, her ass looked so nice as she picked it up for you.
Talking with her about our beliefs is good.
I'm........ *sigh*
I may still be somewhat infatuated but I am working on it.
How are you working on it? By presenting her with moral situations that inspire you? I don't get it.
But her religion forbids her from bonding a long term relationship
SCORE. Awesome, LTR's suck anyway. There are loopholes to everything and this is one. No LTR's? No problem.
it's too bad because she makes me happy to around. We know each other from XC. But I don't know if I should try to pursue anything, I don't want to make things wired between us. I know this sounds maybe gay but I really like this girl and respect what she is. Anyway any opinions?
Yes, unfortunately, it sounds REALLY gay.
You've yet to describe anything about her other than being morally right and discussing beliefs.
Is there NOTHING else that turns you on about this girl? Do you NOT have a carnal desire to infiltrate this woman's cave of pleasure?
Listen, the basic problem here is that you haven't even touched this girl, asked her out... and you're already thinking about a long term relationship. Baby steps. Yes, baby steps. You can't start the car if you don't have the keys, and right now, you don't even have the keys.
So what if you make things weird? How are you going to get her to go out with you if you DON'T? You think she's going to see what a wonderful guy you are first and then she'll make the moves FOR YOU? This isn't Hollywood and this isn't the little movie about the two morally correct people with common beliefs that go through friendship first and then end up happily ever after. Sorry, but the movie isn't playing that way. At the core of it all, women want men to be MEN. I don't care what her background is or what she believes, this is true for ALL women.
Start acting like a man. It's time to REALLY man up.
But I will prepare you mentally with this... you probably are already friendzoned. And here's the underlying beauty of "making things weird"... AT LEAST YOU'LL KNOW WHERE YOU STAND.
By playing the friendship game, you are raising that pedestal higher and higher and setting yourself up for an undeniable crash and burn. The longer you wait, the worse off you will be. Don't be surprised if one day she asks you what you think about some other guy. Personally, I'd rather ask her out NOW while I still can and actually KNOW what her thoughts on me are.
You man up and you ask her out... and I can almost guarantee that this woman will say: ON A DATE?
And you say: YES.
Then you will know the truth.
But stop playing the friend game, it's setting yourself up for failure.
And this 1/1000 crap... stop it. She's a woman just like every other and she has her virtues AND her vaults. I'm just glad you didn't say she was one in a million.
Just ask her out. Stop messing around.
