A girl with Low Interest said "You look sexy"

[ChaoticGamer]

Hello there,

Here's the scenario, there's this girl who used to be very attracted to me but I blew it. I came on too strong and she backed away, then I backed away. I did a hard No-Contact on her for 4 months, she's returned a couple of times but only in the form of replying to some WhatsApp Story (same as Instagram Story), a week ago I decided to reconnect with her, I asked her "How are you?", and then she asked me what I've been up to (very short responses showing low interest). Anyways, I changed my WhatsApp profile pic and she messaged me saying...

Her: "Hey, you look good in that picture",
Me: "Which one? Oh the profile pic, thanks! you're very cute too"
Her: "But that pic of yours is something else! "
Me: "Then you're too kind, lol... What is it that you like so much about it?"
Her: "You look sooo sexy hahahahaha"

I need to know if this could be taken as an indicator of interest? I want to know if this could be enough of a signal for me to ask her out again? IMHO she seems to have low interest still, or I'm not sure if it's because we've just started talking once again. I would like to continue dating her, What do you guys advice I should do next?

PS. We had 2 dates (No sex) before I backed off, at the beginning I can assure you, her interest level was very high.

Let me know what you think!
Thanks

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Follow up on her sexual interest. If she continues to display sexual interest (i.e., wasn't fronting) then ask her out. Let her lead any sex talk since you came on too strong before.

Her low interest could be simple shyness.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Sounds like she's playing orbiter maintenance game.

With you as the role of the desperate orbiter hoping for ANY shred of a clue of an idea of a hint of a whiff that you might still get some.

 

[oldmanofthesea]

1. Fishing for compliments ("what is it you like so much about it") is a no-no. Very weak and beta. Same for acting surprised by the compliment ("You're too kind") etc. Shows lack of confidence and also insecurity about your looks. A good looking guy knows he is good looking and expects he will get compliments. Doesn't need to fish for more validation in the form of specific details as to what a girl likes about his pictures.
2. You are suffering from analysis paralysis. If you follow the red pill rules of dating, you don't need to wonder or worry about indicators of interest or flashing neon invitation lights. If YOU are interested in the girl, you make your move by forcing her to show her cards, and you do this by asking her out on a date at a specific time and place and anything other than a yes means a no. It's a win-win situation for you. If she says yes, that's a win because you get the date. If she says no or maybe or we'll see, that's a win too because now you no longer have to agonize over wondering what is going through this girl's head and if she's interested or not or what her motivations are, and you can avoid investing ANY additional time, communication, or thought on her.

 

[SW15]

Pursue her now if you are interested. Strong frame. No bullshiit. If she misbehaves, you're gone. You're the catch.

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

Hello there,

Here's the scenario, there's this girl who used to be very attracted to me but I blew it. I came on too strong and she backed away, then I backed away. I did a hard No-Contact on her for 4 months, she's returned a couple of times but only in the form of replying to some WhatsApp Story (same as Instagram Story), a week ago I decided to reconnect with her, I asked her "How are you?", and then she asked me what I've been up to (very short responses showing low interest). Anyways, I changed my WhatsApp profile pic and she messaged me saying...

Her: "Hey, you look good in that picture",
Me: "Which one? Oh the profile pic, thanks! you're very cute too"
Her: "But that pic of yours is something else! "
Me: "Then you're too kind, lol... What is it that you like so much about it?"
Her: "You look sooo sexy hahahahaha"

I need to know if this could be taken as an indicator of interest? I want to know if this could be enough of a signal for me to ask her out again? IMHO she seems to have low interest still, or I'm not sure if it's because we've just started talking once again. I would like to continue dating her, What do you guys advice I should do next?

PS. We had 2 dates (No sex) before I backed off, at the beginning I can assure you, her interest level was very high.

Let me know what you think!
Thanks

Four billion women in the world and you go back to the one that rejected you as soon as she
compliments you.

Do you qualify women at all? Do you have any criteria for what is acceptable behavior for the women you give your precious attention to?

She had her chance, I say be friendly and flirty but never ask her out again. Tease her and if there's any chemistry she'll be begging to hang out and make it extremely obvious. Maybe she'll invite you somewhere, maybe she'll do something more blunt, whatever it is you should be on the fence and let her convince you.

If you do hang out, have the mindset that you'll have a good time whether she's there or not.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Orbiter maintenance...once they have a guy in orbit, they know it doesn't take much to keep them there.

OP, don't fall for it and unless she is begging to come spend time in person with you, don't think it means ANYTHING.

 

[ChaoticGamer]

Sounds like she's playing orbiter maintenance game.

With you as the role of the desperate orbiter hoping for ANY shred of a clue of an idea of a hint of a whiff that you might still get some.

Well, nothing's impossible. But I backed off for 4 months. And in this time, I didn't even follow up with her pseudo-attempts to reach out. What do you think the outcome will be if I point-blank ask her out?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

What do you think the outcome will be if I point-blank ask her out?

You'll never know till you try.

But do it directly and honestly.

Something that conveys this as clearly as you can:

I like you and I'd like to date you.

But if you're not into me, like I'm into you, I'm afraid we can't be friends.

Are you in or out?

 

[Billtx49]

What do you think the outcome will be if I point-blank ask her out?

Your peace of mind. Ask her out. The worst you get is a yes or no.

 

[ChaoticGamer]

1. Fishing for compliments ("what is it you like so much about it") is a no-no. Very weak and beta. Same for acting surprised by the compliment ("You're too kind") etc. Shows lack of confidence and also insecurity about your looks. A good looking guy knows he is good looking and expects he will get compliments. Doesn't need to fish for more validation in the form of specific details as to what a girl likes about his pictures.
2. You are suffering from analysis paralysis. If you follow the red pill rules of dating, you don't need to wonder or worry about indicators of interest or flashing neon invitation lights. If YOU are interested in the girl, you make your move by forcing her to show her cards, and you do this by asking her out on a date at a specific time and place and anything other than a yes means a no. It's a win-win situation for you. If she says yes, that's a win because you get the date. If she says no or maybe or we'll see, that's a win too because now you no longer have to agonize over wondering what is going through this girl's head and if she's interested or not or what her motivations are, and you can avoid investing ANY additional time, communication, or thought on her.

Well, in my defense, I backed-off because she turned me down for a 3rd date, twice. The first time she ignored the request, the second time, she accepted and then said she was sick the day of. I politely told her: "Hope you get better, and let me know if you want to go out sometime" and then the No-Contact began.

 

[ChaoticGamer]

Orbiter maintenance...once they have a guy in orbit, they know it doesn't take much to keep them there.

OP, don't fall for it and unless she is begging to come spend time in person with you, don't think it means ANYTHING.

I'm not delusional, I've been in this game long enough, I've had 2 serious gfs and like a couple dozen hook-ups. Lately I've been focusing on my job, so maybe I'm a little rusty, but this girl is something else! In the past, after I've given a couple of months of no-contact I'd have any girl begging me to take her back, but this one forced me to break no-contact, she's a tough cookie!

Anyways, is it possible she wants me to Orbit her after 4 freaking months?

 

[member160761]

You have to get to a level where you skip hard the texting stage. Not only with her but with women in general. Also, you must not pu$$y out when a girl declines a couple of times. When you care too much about that outcome you are not level-headed enough to deal with girls which shows with you posting about her here. Classical mistake of taking girls too serious and holding them to the standard of a man.

From my experience when you fall into the frame of the girl by caring too much you already lost. You gave your power away.

 

[ChaoticGamer]

Four billion women in the world and you go back to the one that rejected you as soon as she
compliments you.

Do you qualify women at all? Do you have any criteria for what is acceptable behavior for the women you give your precious attention to?

She had her chance, I say be friendly and flirty but never ask her out again. Tease her and if there's any chemistry she'll be begging to hang out and make it extremely obvious. Maybe she'll invite you somewhere, maybe she'll do something more blunt, whatever it is you should be on the fence and let her convince you.

If you do hang out, have the mindset that you'll have a good time whether she's there or not.

Well old boy, I do have a criteria for women. I consciously decided to back off from her when she was being flaky. I'm currently going out on dates frequently but I must be honest here, for some reason I've not been able to get this girl out of my head. I'm kind of obsessed with her because she was very interested way back at the beginning, that makes me have the "I was so close" mentality.
For now the only question i'd like to know is...

Is it possible she's still interested? and she's just playing hard to get now (because I disappeared)?

 

[ChaoticGamer]

You have to get to a level where you skip hard the texting stage. Not only with her but with women in general. Also, you must not pu$$y out when a girl declines a couple of times. When you care too much about that outcome you are not level-headed enough to deal with girls which shows with you posting about her here. Classical mistake of taking girls too serious and holding them to the standard of a man.

From my experience when you fall into the frame of the girl by caring too much you already lost. You gave your power away.

It's true. But I can only ask her out so much, right? otherwise where's my self respect if I have to constantly keep pushing for a date? Nothing more unattractive than a guy who has to Beg. Or at least that was my logic at the time I backed off. What's the right attitude, one that balances not taking them too seriously but at the same not allowing dis-respect from them?

 

[ChaoticGamer]

Pursue her now if you are interested. Strong frame. No bullshiit. If she misbehaves, you're gone. You're the catch.

Question for all of you kind readers: What is the best way to ask her out in this particular situation? After I disappeared for so long?

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I'm not delusional, I've been in this game long enough, I've had 2 serious gfs and like a couple dozen hook-ups. Lately I've been focusing on my job, so maybe I'm a little rusty, but this girl is something else! In the past, after I've given a couple of months of no-contact I'd have any girl begging me to take her back, but this one forced me to break no-contact, she's a tough cookie!

Anyways, is it possible she wants me to Orbit her after 4 freaking months?

4 months is nothing. They have dudes orbiting after several years.

 

[Modern Man Advice]

In this case, it is best to be direct and straightforward.

As other members have correctly assessed, it sounds like orbiter maintenance. Test her by leading and making it clear you want to meet up and escalate. If she is wishy-washy, there is your firm confirmation she wanted the quick attention fix and keep you orbiting (most likely due to her plates/options fizzling out). If on the other hand, she follows your lead, well then enjoy!

Modern Man Advice

 

[Dr.Suave]

Its been 4 months. Dinner at your place. Comply or bye.

 

[Gamisch]

Orbiter maintenance...once they have a guy in orbit, they know it doesn't take much to keep them there.

OP, don't fall for it and unless she is begging to come spend time in person with you, don't think it means ANYTHING.

Absolutely true .Literally . Once the object is "in space" and moves in and on desired direction and speed, there is not even fuel needed to keep it moving forever . Only the stop will be a mayor crash..

Question for all of you kind readers: What is the best way to ask her out in this particular situation? After I disappeared for so long?

Man, a girl complimenting you you like this is like a free shot for an open goal. You gotta strike with the iron when it's hot, which is now. What do ya have to lose by asking her what's she is up to? It's a bs filter; you either win peace or mind or you win a piece of azz...

Casually ask what's she is doing next weekend.