A girl keeps asking me about the number of women I've "charmed"

[Lostsoul19]

Okay, so she has now asked me this twice. I've read this many times that you don't let a woman know much about your past.
First time she asked, "How many girls have you accumulated with this non-chalant game of yours?" and I just replied, "My grandma's friends text me secretly and fancy me very much so ig a few old woman."

Yesterday, she asked me again, in a different way. She had called me a few names so I told her, so many terms of endearment she must be in love with me. Her reply was
"You make me laugh. I just want to know how many girls have fallen for your charms(I find it amusing and low-key dumb at the same time)"

 

[EyeBRollin]

“Not that many.”

Then stop texting!

 

[manfrombelow]

I don't kiss and tell *wink*

 

[Bokanovsky]

Okay, so she has now asked me this twice. I've read this many times that you don't let a woman know much about your past.
First time she asked, "How many girls have you accumulated with this non-chalant game of yours?" and I just replied, "My grandma's friends text me secretly and fancy me very much so ig a few old woman."

Yesterday, she asked me again, in a different way. She had called me a few names so I told her, so many terms of endearment she must be in love with me. Her reply was
"You make me laugh. I just want to know how many girls have fallen for your charms(I find it amusing and low-key dumb at the same time)"

She actually said that your charms are amusing and "low key dumb"? Lol, what a b!tch. In any event, any time a woman asks you how many girls you've slept with, the right answer is "I don't keep count".

 

[Lostsoul19]

She actually said that your charms are amusing and "low key dumb"? Lol, what a b!tch. In any event, any time a woman asks you how many girls you've slept with, the right answer is "I don't keep count".

That has been the whole interaction. Her calling me names and all that. So I just tell her I don't keep count? Not anything brash or absurd?

 

[Bokanovsky]

That has been the whole interaction. Her calling me names and all that. So I just tell her I don't keep count? Not anything brash or absurd?

Why are you even talking to her if she's being obnoxious and disrespectful? What am I missing?

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

So I just tell her I don't keep count? Not anything brash or absurd?

Tell you use your charms after every lay on yourself.

To give yourself amnesia.

So you can keep popping your own cherry like in those time loop movies.

So your honest answer is:

I hope you'll be my first.

 

[Barrister]

Tell her you lost count and move on. This isn't a bad thing she is bringing this up. It means she is interested.

 

[wifehunter]

Magically delicious!!!

 

[Von]

The only math I know is 1+1= Heart

 

[Willie Naylor]

"You make me laugh. I just want to know how many girls have fallen for your charms"

Your response: "Just this week, or.....?"

 

[oldmanofthesea]

Dodging the question is your best course of action. Many humorous example replies have already been provided. But one point I need to make is that you should never be concerned that a woman will be "mad" at you or lose interest in you because you won't tell her what she wants to know. While she might be "mad" at you if you don't tell her and she may press harder and harder as a result, that's actually a good thing. Women love to experience the full range of emotion and anger/frustration is one they absolute love, ESPECIALLY if it is in response to you not giving them their way and not giving-in to their pressure. This is one of the major ways women covertly express to you that they want to feel your masculinity - even the "low-key dumb" comment is an attempt to feel your masculinity and a masculine man would either ignore it or say something amused in response. I can tell from the examples you've given that you are pretty good at that so you are on the right track.

As for those who said her "low-key dumb" comment is disrespectful, I would agree with them. Women who are willing to test a guy this much are not relationship material but they can be great in bed.... usually the best.

 

[Lostsoul19]

Dodging the question is your best course of action. Many humorous example replies have already been provided. But one point I need to make is that you should never be concerned that a woman will be "mad" at you or lose interest in you because you won't tell her what she wants to know. While she might be "mad" at you if you don't tell her and she may press harder and harder as a result, that's actually a good thing. Women love to experience the full range of emotion and anger/frustration is one they absolute love, ESPECIALLY if it is in response to you not giving them their way and not giving-in to their pressure. This is one of the major ways women covertly express to you that they want to feel your masculinity - even the "low-key dumb" comment is an attempt to feel your masculinity and a masculine man would either ignore it or say something amused in response. I can tell from the examples you've given that you are pretty good at that so you are on the right track.

As for those who said her "low-key dumb" comment is disrespectful, I would agree with them. Women who are willing to test a guy this much are not relationship material but they can be great in bed.... usually the best.

You're absolutely right. I told her, "I don't keep count of the women I've" Charmed" and that not to call them dumb because she's one of them " and she has gotten a bit angry. Before, there was a little playfulness along with other stuff. But not anymore. Her exact response was," I'm not one of your puppets who you try to charm. Refrain from counting me among them. "

How should I keep my approach from here? And I agree about the disrespect. If this goes on like this, it can't be a long term thing.

 

[BadBoy89]

"You make me laugh. I just want to know how many girls have fallen for your charms(I find it amusing and low-key dumb at the same time)"

‘What do you consider falling for my charms, girls laughing at my jokes or having sex with me?”

Be careful with ****y/funny easy going idgaf attitude. It may be funny for the first few times, after that it gets annoying and isn’t sexy.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Frankly it's a trap. If it's too low "he isn't good at sex" if it's too high "he's a ****boi".

Best to avoid it altogether. It's like when a chick gives you amazing head, do you wonder how many knobs she's slobbed?

 

[oldmanofthesea]

"I don't keep count of the women I've" Charmed" and that not to call them dumb because she's one of them

Brilliant brother; better than I would have come up with. There is an art to deliberately misunderstanding something a woman says to you, and then replying to a different statement that suits you better. This was fantastic.

Before, there was a little playfulness along with other stuff. But not anymore. Her exact response was," I'm not one of your puppets who you try to charm. Refrain from counting me among them. "

She sounds to me like an angry 3rd wave feminist who doesn't understand what makes her tick and is programmed to do the exact opposite of what her biology wants (either that or she is trying REALLY hard to test you to see how thirsty you are - which isn't really a great sign either). Romance and sex should be light, fun and playful. Sounds like she doesn't know how to play like that - you, however, do. If it were me, I'd go silent on her at this point since she is no longer fun and playful. If she initiates contact and she changes her attitude to being fun and playful, then re-engage her. If she initiates contact and there is no playfulness, don't engage her. If she doesn't initiate contact at all, then that's the end of it. I'd say odds are, 70% chance she is looking for a blue-pill beta pushover she can completely control and dominate (while being horribly sexually unsatisfied at the same time and having no clue why other than to blame the guy), and 30% chance she's thirst-testing you. Neither is good.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

I always just say I've been super busy with work or whatever and that I'm just getting back into the dating field. Frame it as an opportunity for her (get me before I'm snatched up).

This is both an attraction shi1-test and a comfort sh1t-test. If you attempt to answer the question honestly ("I've lost count"), with denial ("I'm not a player"), or with deflection ("lol that's a cute thing to ask", etc) you're going to fail one of the tests.

This is definitely a trap if you're not careful.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

If she asks you a third time, cut bait.

 

[BeExcellent]

Advice from the old lady:

“Enough that I’ve learned what works….”

(Deliver with a wink & a grin & then you change the subject).

If she persists you simply say sweetly that you have already responded. Let her mind wonder. She will create a whole story of what that means in her head, which means you are occupying mental real estate.

Anger or irritation is interest. Indifference is lack of interest. Remember that.

 

[Willie Naylor]

Advice from the old lady:

“Enough that I’ve learned what works….”

(Deliver with a wink & a grin & then you change the subject).

Anger or irritation is interest. Indifference is lack of interest. Remember that.

True that. It's not my thing, but I have many guy friends who will purposefully p!ss a girl off shortly after he opens her, just to get her emotional rollercoaster going.