A Fresh new start!

[choychoy12]

Hey guys,
I'm only an 18 yr old teen. My whole life up to this point has pretty much been evolved around Girls Girls, ladies, ladies and more ladies. Getting a girlfriend, keeping a girlfriend.

With the current gf i'm with now. I'm not getting much mental stimulation, we dont have any conversations intellectually.

When i plan exciting dates, like bowling, or
or arcades, go karting.. Or even special time for us, like walks in the forest, walks to a museum, a park. Quite time.

She always rejects, and says she cant be bothered with things like that. We always end up just staying at my place and watching tv. "BORING"!

My brain is going completely wacko. I've decided i need a fresh new start. I'm sick of having these great ideas for dates and having them rejected then having a boring night at home.

I'd like to focus more on my career, or other things in life. What is the best place to start at, to get a fresh new passion about life. I've been in a 6month relatinoship with my gf.. and i've spent so much time with her, that i feel i've lost my zest for life.

You know, you become like those you hang around. I want to go out there again and explore all that life has to offer.
I was also talking to a cous'n of mine, and he suggested that i get out there and meet more stimulating friends. Friends that are more like minded and enjoy doing hte thing syou want. Even friends that are in the position of life that you would like to be.

So my question is? Where to start, after all that i've been through. I'd just like to start afresh. I'm realize i'm way to young to be worrying about the girl at this time of life? Am i right to say this.

So if anythign i wanted to keep the gf at a lower priority in life, as there is no stimulation happening between us. There's sex and all that. But there's not mental or intellectual stimulation.

Help me out guys.

 

[JackPrescott]

You are 18, and have no compatability with this boring woman. Take some college courses, and get a job you love, and pursue LIFE without her, let her sit home and watch re-runs of "Sex and the City" while you are out living it.

 

[choychoy12]

I like that... Pursue life without her.. haha

Hmm it seems that the only things she enjoy doing are..

Getting absolutely **** faced with her friends..

talking about dramas on the phones with her friends..

sitting at home watching tv.
Watching tv with friends.. re-runs..

And if not... "I cant be bothered doing anything".

Its odd, anything i suggest she'll shrug off....

I try to spruce up her life, she is doing nothign with her life. She is not even in college. I try to help her figure out other avenues but she can not even be bothered to look for other options in her life..



Suggestions? Is it time to next her??? I do care alot for her though... I dont know why.

 

[medjaun]

If shes really good in bed then maybe keep her for a while , otherwise it looks like this relationship will go nowhere. You need a girl that is passionate about something, if not things will get very boring.

 

[bullmoose]

Your first mistake was giving a crap about someone who doesn't do anything to enrich your life. Your second mistake was doing it for six months.

My suggestion is to move on and then find a whole handful more like her. You can date (read: "sleep with / shag / bang / dog") three or four of those at a time; personally, it's the ideal I strive for. You never get attached to them, and when it gets tiring listening to her talk about her friends' drama (or lack thereof, as is so often the case), you just say, "We have nothing in common. Later."

Meanwhile, if it's that important to you, keep an eye out for a girl who actually brings something to the table. The more girls you date, the more you'll meet. Eventually, one will come along whom you'll be worse off without, and then you can act like half the guys on this board of late, looking for a way to never lose her.