I typically just read this website from time to time, just to see what's up and how other guys are handling their situations. I like learning from you all, and in the end we all benefit one way or another.
I consider myself pretty good with women, I don't have too many insecurities and I pretty much just have fun, control my emotions, and focus on my work.
Somehow I've noticed that when you're focused on other things, such as doing your college work or focusing on your career, the women somehow gravitate towards you. It's kinda funny really, it just happens. I can't really explain it.
But anyways, a few things I've learned that I wanted to share and get some feedback on. These are just off the top of my head:
1) If you got nothing going for yourself, women won't be too interested. If you're just getting by in life and doing nothing, women will look at you wrongly. Even if you're a cool guy or attractive. Have something going for you! And if you don't, find something to work towards.
2) Similar to 1, focus on whatever it is you have going for you. Whether you're in college or professional school, or working, focus on that because it does matter to you. Make it a priority. And if you meet a nice girl, she'll want to be included in your life and goals.
3) Nice and good-hearted girls do exist. Ones that have actual values, won't give you any trouble, will respect you, smart, giving, act like a lady in public and ***** in the bedroom. These girls do exist. They're just rare. These are the quality women. They're out there somewhere.
4) Avoid girls that drink too much and spend too many nights a week going out to bars. Nothing good comes from this unless she's a rare specimen. Most cases, she's going to be trouble down the road.
5) Avoid girls that have essentially all male friends. If she's one of the guys and "hangs" out with them while you're seeing her, you're in for some trouble down the road. (you can mix this and 4 together in one...)
6) Be wary of girls with family issues/daddy issues. Unless she has some great character persona, she's likely carrying a lot of baggage.
7) If she has an ex-boyfriend prying into her life, this is never a good sign. Be on guard. That's all I can say about that...
8) Use your instincts and gut feelings. They're often more right than wrong.
9) If you think it's time to walk away from a girl because something isn't right, you're getting a bad vibe from her, things aren't working, or she has done something to disrespect you, do it. Leave her in the wind. No contact until she yields to you. Women often can take men for granted and they never think they have the balls to walk away or reject them because the woman thinks she has the man. Show her she doesn't have you anymore. This is one power we have but rarely ever use. It's a nuclear option, keep it on the table, and use it when you need to. It'll make you feel bad for going through with it, but you do what you gotta do for yourself. Stick to your guns. If you never hear from her again, oh well.
10) There's always a prettier/better girl. Remember this.
I consider myself pretty good with women, I don't have too many insecurities and I pretty much just have fun, control my emotions, and focus on my work.
Somehow I've noticed that when you're focused on other things, such as doing your college work or focusing on your career, the women somehow gravitate towards you. It's kinda funny really, it just happens. I can't really explain it.
But anyways, a few things I've learned that I wanted to share and get some feedback on. These are just off the top of my head:
1) If you got nothing going for yourself, women won't be too interested. If you're just getting by in life and doing nothing, women will look at you wrongly. Even if you're a cool guy or attractive. Have something going for you! And if you don't, find something to work towards.
2) Similar to 1, focus on whatever it is you have going for you. Whether you're in college or professional school, or working, focus on that because it does matter to you. Make it a priority. And if you meet a nice girl, she'll want to be included in your life and goals.
3) Nice and good-hearted girls do exist. Ones that have actual values, won't give you any trouble, will respect you, smart, giving, act like a lady in public and ***** in the bedroom. These girls do exist. They're just rare. These are the quality women. They're out there somewhere.
4) Avoid girls that drink too much and spend too many nights a week going out to bars. Nothing good comes from this unless she's a rare specimen. Most cases, she's going to be trouble down the road.
5) Avoid girls that have essentially all male friends. If she's one of the guys and "hangs" out with them while you're seeing her, you're in for some trouble down the road. (you can mix this and 4 together in one...)
6) Be wary of girls with family issues/daddy issues. Unless she has some great character persona, she's likely carrying a lot of baggage.
7) If she has an ex-boyfriend prying into her life, this is never a good sign. Be on guard. That's all I can say about that...
8) Use your instincts and gut feelings. They're often more right than wrong.
9) If you think it's time to walk away from a girl because something isn't right, you're getting a bad vibe from her, things aren't working, or she has done something to disrespect you, do it. Leave her in the wind. No contact until she yields to you. Women often can take men for granted and they never think they have the balls to walk away or reject them because the woman thinks she has the man. Show her she doesn't have you anymore. This is one power we have but rarely ever use. It's a nuclear option, keep it on the table, and use it when you need to. It'll make you feel bad for going through with it, but you do what you gotta do for yourself. Stick to your guns. If you never hear from her again, oh well.
10) There's always a prettier/better girl. Remember this.
