Hey it happens to the best of us. I just wanted to write em down. Maybe someone can learn from 'em.
After browsing around and finding this I realized I actually failed one on the weekend. I was vibing with this HB that I've known for awhile but never to any great extent. I then ran off and was chattin to my guy mates no not long after we went to leave. She was almost in our way as we went out and I went and put both arms around her (sexually, kind of like a 'im going to make out with you' stance') and said "hey we're heading to the other party, will you head there after?". She said yes and I said "I'll see you there". About to leave she grabbed me back and said "Do I look good? Is my hair OK?".
Now I missenterpreted this for "do I look good for YOU". Well maybe she did mean that at that stage. I stroken her hair and looked her in the eye and said stuff like 'of course you do, you always do' thinking I was being smooth and with the perfect kino she would be all over me. Then she got me to hold her drink for a second... which i did, while she fixed her hair.
Ok can you guys pick the mistakes? First I flattered her too much in AFC style, perhaps. Instead of a C&F line I told her she looks good. Hmm maybe not so bad. But can you see what else went wrong? Then I obeyed her order and held her drink for her. To be honest I just wanted to see what she was drinking, and I should have vocalised it "Well alright, what you drinking? I'm gonna have to have a mouthfull now". But it would have came across as a FAIL. She then ran away from me surprisingly quickly and I had no idea why. My confidence was so high at this point that I thought nothing I could have done would have turned her off
Seen her later that night, she was warm but not too responsive. I barely tried anything because I had just been full on making out with another girl anyway.
So in my confidence I've actually reverted back to a few little AFC mannerisms. Interesting. I only realized tonight, after thinking I was smooth for so long. It's good I wasn't overanalyzing in the field but I've learnt from it now. Got to keep fine tuning that game.
Another mistake I made that night was when I was chattin to this really hot girl I had got with before was instead of just vibing socially I tried to say something meanigfull. In a life affirming sense not like 'omg i love you' or anything. Still, another lesson, just viibe. Thanks to this that helped me realize this. I thouht it would be smooth and maybe I could get a LTR somewhere along the line, but it was out of context in the party. I was once again shocked by how fast she turned away and wondered what I did wrong and quickly tried to fix itby jumping back into the party context. Mistake. I needed to have just been funn.
Ok so maybe I'm overanalyzing but those 2 events had been bugging me and I've just had an epiphany thanks to those to articles. Just lets you know that your game is never perfect and you can't win 'em all.
After browsing around and finding this I realized I actually failed one on the weekend. I was vibing with this HB that I've known for awhile but never to any great extent. I then ran off and was chattin to my guy mates no not long after we went to leave. She was almost in our way as we went out and I went and put both arms around her (sexually, kind of like a 'im going to make out with you' stance') and said "hey we're heading to the other party, will you head there after?". She said yes and I said "I'll see you there". About to leave she grabbed me back and said "Do I look good? Is my hair OK?".
Now I missenterpreted this for "do I look good for YOU". Well maybe she did mean that at that stage. I stroken her hair and looked her in the eye and said stuff like 'of course you do, you always do' thinking I was being smooth and with the perfect kino she would be all over me. Then she got me to hold her drink for a second... which i did, while she fixed her hair.
Ok can you guys pick the mistakes? First I flattered her too much in AFC style, perhaps. Instead of a C&F line I told her she looks good. Hmm maybe not so bad. But can you see what else went wrong? Then I obeyed her order and held her drink for her. To be honest I just wanted to see what she was drinking, and I should have vocalised it "Well alright, what you drinking? I'm gonna have to have a mouthfull now". But it would have came across as a FAIL. She then ran away from me surprisingly quickly and I had no idea why. My confidence was so high at this point that I thought nothing I could have done would have turned her off
Seen her later that night, she was warm but not too responsive. I barely tried anything because I had just been full on making out with another girl anyway.
So in my confidence I've actually reverted back to a few little AFC mannerisms. Interesting. I only realized tonight, after thinking I was smooth for so long. It's good I wasn't overanalyzing in the field but I've learnt from it now. Got to keep fine tuning that game.
Another mistake I made that night was when I was chattin to this really hot girl I had got with before was instead of just vibing socially I tried to say something meanigfull. In a life affirming sense not like 'omg i love you' or anything. Still, another lesson, just viibe. Thanks to this that helped me realize this. I thouht it would be smooth and maybe I could get a LTR somewhere along the line, but it was out of context in the party. I was once again shocked by how fast she turned away and wondered what I did wrong and quickly tried to fix itby jumping back into the party context. Mistake. I needed to have just been funn.
Ok so maybe I'm overanalyzing but those 2 events had been bugging me and I've just had an epiphany thanks to those to articles. Just lets you know that your game is never perfect and you can't win 'em all.