Greetings to all, I have been inactive for quite some time but once again I have a situation for which I would appreciate the views and wisdom of the other members!
I met Daniela about a year ago(August 2015) while travelling to Belgrade, Serbia. She is 34 and was a friend of a friend( I have quite a large circle in Belgrade as I have been travelling back and forth for a number of years). We became friends and started to chat online from time to time. Come October or so, we both got a bit flirty and we agreed to definitely go out when I visit in November. When I came in November, we went out and had a great evening and ended up kissing.
Here I must mention that Daniela has certain issues with anxiety. This means that she is often uncomfortable in certain situations and needs her time. With this in mind, I did not press anything apart from the actual kiss. The part after the kiss was a bit awkward and her anxiety kicked in or she possibly, she was not into it...I am not certain. At one point later in the night she asked where I was staying and I could have possibly brought her over but I was feeling a bit out of it myself.
As I returned her to her home, she tried to explain that her anxiety is a major problem and I did not really press the issue since it was obvious the lady had problems. The next few days we meet up again and we talk about us and she says that she doesn't think she can be in a relationship. I answer that it was fine and we can be friends...yet, as I walked her home we exchanged a passionate kiss in front of her place, which she sort of instigated. I then asked her what she was doing over Christmas, and she said she was free.
Unfortunately, after that we spoke less and less and I had some major family issued to deal with which means my mind was not really on women.
Daniela and I grew apart, and spoke very infrequently if at all. However, in spring we had a conversation and she asked if I could see her as a friend rather than romantically. I told her we are cool and can be friends which she seemed to like.
Come early July, I invite her to visit me in Athens for a week and stay at my place.
To be honest, I did not expect her to accept since we did not know each other that well and there was a small romantic history between us. Still, she said she will think about it and a few days later, she asked if she can visit in August(which surprised me completely, especially since plane travel cause her great anxiety!)
So, she is coming next week to visit and stay for 8 days at my place.
We have not talked about about what the nature of our relationship is, but again, we have started to flirt a bit.
My question is this.
How do I handle this situation?
Since I am her host, I am planning to be a gentleman yet try to escalate if opportunity arises since I do like this woman.
What advice would you offer as to how to act?
Thank you all for reading and advising!
I met Daniela about a year ago(August 2015) while travelling to Belgrade, Serbia. She is 34 and was a friend of a friend( I have quite a large circle in Belgrade as I have been travelling back and forth for a number of years). We became friends and started to chat online from time to time. Come October or so, we both got a bit flirty and we agreed to definitely go out when I visit in November. When I came in November, we went out and had a great evening and ended up kissing.
Here I must mention that Daniela has certain issues with anxiety. This means that she is often uncomfortable in certain situations and needs her time. With this in mind, I did not press anything apart from the actual kiss. The part after the kiss was a bit awkward and her anxiety kicked in or she possibly, she was not into it...I am not certain. At one point later in the night she asked where I was staying and I could have possibly brought her over but I was feeling a bit out of it myself.
As I returned her to her home, she tried to explain that her anxiety is a major problem and I did not really press the issue since it was obvious the lady had problems. The next few days we meet up again and we talk about us and she says that she doesn't think she can be in a relationship. I answer that it was fine and we can be friends...yet, as I walked her home we exchanged a passionate kiss in front of her place, which she sort of instigated. I then asked her what she was doing over Christmas, and she said she was free.
Unfortunately, after that we spoke less and less and I had some major family issued to deal with which means my mind was not really on women.
Daniela and I grew apart, and spoke very infrequently if at all. However, in spring we had a conversation and she asked if I could see her as a friend rather than romantically. I told her we are cool and can be friends which she seemed to like.
Come early July, I invite her to visit me in Athens for a week and stay at my place.
To be honest, I did not expect her to accept since we did not know each other that well and there was a small romantic history between us. Still, she said she will think about it and a few days later, she asked if she can visit in August(which surprised me completely, especially since plane travel cause her great anxiety!)
So, she is coming next week to visit and stay for 8 days at my place.
We have not talked about about what the nature of our relationship is, but again, we have started to flirt a bit.
My question is this.
How do I handle this situation?
Since I am her host, I am planning to be a gentleman yet try to escalate if opportunity arises since I do like this woman.
What advice would you offer as to how to act?
Thank you all for reading and advising!
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