A discussion: Women love mystery. But what traits make a man mysterious?

[narcissist]

So clearly women love mystery. Obviously not too much to there point where you are a social recluse. And obviously not to little where you are an open book. What we want is the golden mean between the extremes of deficient and excess.

This discussion is to find that mean. That perfect conbination of mysterious but socially confident. One has to act almost paradoxically. Bein mysterious is counterintuitive to being out there and approaching women. But I think it exists.

Let's figure out how to be mysterious. A puzzle for women to figure out.

You could write a whole paragraph or essay, or maybe just one little sentence but if you are in this thread you are obliged to reply. Im declaring it a rule of SS that when in a discussion we all have to contribute.

 

[LMFAO]

Don't always give straight answers. On the second or third date the interrogation really begins. I had dinner with a plate last weekend and she was asking me all sorts of questions "What do you like about me?", "Are you planning on seeing anyone else apart from me?", "What do you know about me?".

A straight AFC would give her direct questions to all those questions and remove all mystery he may have and tell he how much he likes her. I told her a combination of "Maybe", "Are you always this inquisitive?", "My mother told me not to talk while eating", with at most a small compliment here and there. All with a smile on the face. I banged her an hour later.

She even told me at one point having looked at her phone over dinner that someone's asking her out on a date the following night. A typical sh!t test. I told her "OK" with a smile. Later on she suggested we should do something that day. A completely non-reactive and not giving a fvck attitude gets you far.

 

[Tictac]

Get her to talk about her favorite thing - herself. Interject whatever you'd like about that. Don't kiss a** or be agreeable. Just let her talk.

When she wants to know anything about you, reveal as little as you need and redirect conversation back to her favorite topic - herself.

Sooner or later she'll realize that she knows almost nothing about you. But because she's been talking nonstop she'll feel like she's known you forever.

And if you listen closely she'll all but tell you how to get in her pants.

If you can't get a chick to talk about herself, you're doing it wrong.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Maintain mystery, just be a man

Have a dream, a purpose, a mission bigger than her
-We are men. MEN, you hear. We are not subsidiary beings, only here to service the needs of women.
-Live the dream. Be a cowboy, a spaceman, a pirate, a spy, an accountant. Be willing to leave to pursue your real passion.

Leave her, regularly, but don't go too far
-Go to work, go out with your mates, go pursue a hobby. Allow her to miss you; allow yourself to miss her.
-IRON RULE OF TOMASSI /4: Never under any circumstances live with a woman you aren't married to or are planning to marry within 6 months.
-"He knows if he stays, if he quiets his spirit for her, if he calms the warrior in him, it will slowly kill his heart, kill the light in his eyes, and just as surely kill her desire for him." - The Alabaster Girl

Never let your passion, personality nor outlook stagnate
-To maintain interest, be interesting. Don't become the proverbial wall of drying paint. Become bored, and we become boring.
-Educate yourself, constantly. Have unique thoughts and opinions, tell irreverent jokes and do spontaneous things.

 

[Yewki]

She even told me at one point having looked at her phone over dinner that someone's asking her out on a date the following night.

They' tend to be so pretty, until they open their mouths.

One has to act almost paradoxically. Bein mysterious is counterintuitive to being out there and approaching women. But I think it exists..

I wouldn't call it a paradox. You can approach every woman you see and talk them up, without revealing too much about yourself. The problem is when you try to impress them, they usually pick up on it. They know. And at that point you've revealed your cards. They know you think you're above them. Game is over. The biggest thing is just being detached as much as possible from the outcome. When you no longer feel pressured to impress someone, you become a puzzle to them. They will crave your attention. They will want you to care more. In effect you become a mystery.

 

[Yorkex]

Have a dream, a purpose, a mission bigger than her
-We are men. MEN, you hear. We are not subsidiary beings, only here to service the needs of women.
-Live the dream. Be a cowboy, a spaceman, a pirate, a spy, an accountant. Be willing to leave to pursue your real passion.

Leave her, regularly, but don't go too far
-Go to work, go out with your mates, go pursue a hobby. Allow her to miss you; allow yourself to miss her.
-IRON RULE OF TOMASSI /4: Never under any circumstances live with a woman you aren't married to or are planning to marry within 6 months.
-"He knows if he stays, if he quiets his spirit for her, if he calms the warrior in him, it will slowly kill his heart, kill the light in his eyes, and just as surely kill her desire for him." - The Alabaster Girl

Never let your passion, personality nor outlook stagnate
-To maintain interest, be interesting. Don't become the proverbial wall of drying paint. Become bored, and we become boring.
-Educate yourself, constantly. Have unique thoughts and opinions, tell irreverent jokes and do spontaneous things.

Really wish everyone can read this , print it and post it on a wall so they can read it every morning.
An athlete that has women flocking over him is not worried about women ...his main focus is his passion , his job and most importantly his career.

 

[Eph]

I'd say it's a blend of avoiding the questions you don't want to answer gracefully, by not giving straight answers or deflecting altogether, not talking non-stop, and not answering every possible follow-up question in the answers you do give. Let her work to get more out of you.

 

[Poon King]

Women love what a man can do for them and a man who can fulfill her physical, emotional and/or psychological needs.

That's really it. Most men waste lots of time believing the bullsh!t women "claim" to be into. All women see men as a resource and care little about his "mystery" or "witty" personality when you get down to the bottom of things. What can he do for me and what will it cost me? Is the main question women ask themselves when they size a man up.

Unless you naturally have one of the main things women get wet over.. you're just using a gimmick or "acting". Gimmicks are for the inadequate. Sure they'll get you laid.. but you pay with your dignity.

 

[VladPatton]

By YOU keeping your mouth shut most of the time! Reveal things very slowly about yourself. If they care, they'll ask for more. If they don't, you won't hear from them again, it's simple. If they dig you, you become this flawless dude who can face fvck them on gramma'so couch during Thanksgiving dinner. Interest is everything, so don't sweat trying to be a man of mystery to attract. It has to be natural, and non chalant. As soon as you fake it or give too much of a fvck, BAM! It's over.

 

[uperman]

By YOU keeping your mouth shut most of the time! Reveal things very slowly about yourself. If they care, they'll ask for more. If they don't, you won't hear from them again, it's simple. If they dig you, you become this flawless dude who can face fvck them on gramma'so couch during Thanksgiving dinner. Interest is everything, so don't sweat trying to be a man of mystery to attract. It has to be natural, and non chalant. As soon as you fake it or give too much of a fvck, BAM! It's over.

that's the difference between getting lots of fvcks and being a 50 year old virgin. this 50 year virgin i know doesn't know when to shut up and sucks with the ladies.

 

[Trump]

So clearly women love mystery. Obviously not too much to there point where you are a social recluse. And obviously not to little where you are an open book. What we want is the golden mean between the extremes of deficient and excess.

This discussion is to find that mean. That perfect conbination of mysterious but socially confident. One has to act almost paradoxically. Bein mysterious is counterintuitive to being out there and approaching women. But I think it exists.

Let's figure out how to be mysterious. A puzzle for women to figure out.

The "be ****y and funny, be mysterious and exciting, quiet and sexy", its all pickup fluff. It may work on a particular girl, but if they feel its a little forced, they will realize you don't know what you are doing and make your head spin. Your best bet is to back anything up with substance.

Instead of being a mystery and "slowly" revealing information so she will "eventually" fall in love with you, be the guy with has Power and Money who people want to work with and invest in. You are improving your own self worth, and at the same time every girl will want to be a part of it without you putting in any effort.

 

[Bible_Belt]

The idea behind being mysterious is that, whatever she doesn't know about you, she will fill in the blanks with positive stuff if she already likes you.

She wants to think that you might have other girls, but she doesn't want to know for sure. Whatever her ideal answer to the question of how many plates you have, even if you named that exact number, it would still be a letdown compared to having to wonder.

For example, a girl said to me: "If you are going to have girls over, you should probably clean up this place."

I replied, "I used to think that, too. But they never seem to care." And then we fvcked. She liked it that I could get other girls, but she didn't want to know any details. That would destroy the mystery.

 

[BrainDamage92]

Today I was writing to this girl in facebook shes an old aquaintance she was always hot for me we do some dirty talk (shes really perverted on our date yesterday she'd put a corset just for me, hehe my kinda girl) + 4-5 heavy outsmarts on diff topics but still when I sent a kiss in the end shes all like:

"Did you just kiss me?" (oops alert alert)

so me being the witty **** I am was all like

"Well thatd be too hard since youre 2 miles away."

so she was like "Ok, Ill let my fantasy work for me"

You gotta know a ****ty question when you hear one.

ofc after I outsmarted her I told her "Ofc I kissed you dummy but dont aks questions like these it makes me uncomfortable" which some may call a **** up but I like to be honest in the end. Im not a player I dont like being percieved as that. So I always switch between the sweet honest guy and the smartass *******. I do it naturally never thought about it.

ALso being the ****wit I am, I like giving advice for free. *****es never follow it, then when I turn out to be right they be like "Ooooooo wtf this guy knows ****..."

Idk man women are always like "Tell me youre a *****, tell me tell me I need to know youre a faggot so I can diss you and play with you"

nope... but **** sometimes even my wit is not on the level I mean man...

You cant let your guard down around women... never...

I guess I have to thank my borderline hellhound ex almost wifey (dodged a cannon barage) for giving me natural game and understanding of hoes...

So I love them. But trust them? Neva, not for a second...

 

[Bingo-Player]

I don’t have a fixed answer for this because I don’t have a full understanding of what it is yet ,Especially at the initial introduction phase of attraction ........the age old paradox of how to express interest whilst being indifferent still has me stumped

Its a strange one but i think the key is to constantly let her mind wonder

I’ve always been a strong believer in using a woman’s imagination against her but it’s a delicate operation

in the past I’ve purposely staged scenes where I’ve been “seen” leaving the club with a different chick to the one ive been working on all night

90% of the time this is enough to spark a wildfire in her imagination and increase her interest enough for her panties to start getting moist

“why isnt he leaving with me”

“ i knew i shouldnt of played so hard to get “

“whats so special about her”

“whats wrong with me”

“ FVCK I REALLY WANT HIM NOW”

These are the types of things you want to get her to start thinking about

NB – for this to work you have to make sure she can’t actually prove you’ve fvcked another chick ........, this technique backfired badly for me a few months ago when one of my plates caught me in bed with her best friend

All the interest i had built was destroyed in a matter of seconds because there was no plausible deniability