A Difficult Situation

[ARGH_Dude]

Hey all.

About a week ago one of my ex's friends, Laura, came up to me and told me that she knows a girl who likes me. She wouldn't tell me who at that point. Seeing as though I am very good friends with my ex, I phoned her up and we talked for a while. My ex said that Laura had just pulled a fast one on me and it should be nothing to think about. So I ignored it for a week. Two days ago Laura pulled me to one side and actually told me who it was - it's a girl in my art class that I hadn't really spoken to very much before, Ashley. She said she would have a word with Ashley after I told her I was interested. I haven't been able to speak to Laura again because she hasn't been around.

This has left me really confused. Everytime I see Ashley it's like I don't know what to believe. I'm still not too sure if it's some kind of "joke" that Laura's pulled or if Ashley really does like me. I'm not afraid to approach Ashley and ask her out, it's just if I make an ass of myself on Laura's behalf then I wouldn't know what to do. I'd really appreciate some help.

 

[Vigilante7]

WHO GIVES A FUKK, talk to her anyway.........and normally, if she is interested by body signs, go from there

 

[ARGH_Dude]

Yeah, I appreciate it. It's just I have absolutely no idea what to do here apart from that. I don't have a problem speaking to girls, it's just that I have no idea if Laura's spoken to her about anything yet or what Ashley might think when I make the initiative topic of discussion (yep, that's right, I've basically never spoken to her about anything before...considering we're only in the one class together). I am friends with some of her friends, although I have no idea what to say in this situation. I'm just totally confused. Could anyone please give me a little more advice?? I'm probably confusing you all right now, but I'm really in need of help.

 

[Trogdawg]

"it's just that I have no idea if Laura's spoken to her about anything yet or what Ashley might think when I make the initiative topic of discussion"


Okay, are you ready for this? WHO THE FVCK CARES!!! You do NOT rely on someone else to GET YOU A GIRL. Do you even read the tips or the DJ BIBLE? Seriously, grow some balls, walk up to her and just start talking. If you are too scared to ask her out than say it. Quit trying to find excuses. Yes you might get rejected. Oh well, you won't die. Don't even mention that someone else has been 3rd partying you two. Just say Hi, and start a convo. When it's over if you still want to see her ask for her #. That's all it takes.

Grow some balls and don't ever give a fvck what some High School, "i set people up" chick tells you. Women love doing that kind of stuff and it always seems to be for the betterment of her friends. (her girlfriends anyways).

 

[manmindset(dot)com]

Like he said, get some confidence and just get think that "laura" was joking with you. That way it cant turn out bad, you either get a normal rejection or laura laughs and says it was a joke, then you can say "obviously, but i just wanted to approach her anyways". OR if she was telling the truth, the girl will be more nervous that you and you can have your way with her, make her laugh and leave her liking you even more than before

 

[ShizamDaMan]

Listen man, this is very important advice I'm going to give you.

When girls give you advice/tips/hints about other girls there is a big, and I mean BIG chance that it's BS. Even though they may be your friend, hell BEST friend, you owe it to yourself to find out on your own. Back in my AFC and RAFC days, I used to believe what my one friend Kristen used to tell me about all the girls I was into that she knew. I followed her advice, and sure enough I either missed my chance with them or f*cked things up badly between us.

It's not that they are intentionally trying to hurt you, it's just that they don't want you to succeed in relationships while they're still alone and desperate. At the core girls are extremely compeditive and don't want to see others happy before them. That's why when one girl gets a boyfriend, all her other friends will want one too.

Just talk to this Ashley girl like you haven't gotten any info on her. If she brings it up, deny hearing anything about her. The best way to learn something is to experience it yourself.

Oh yeah, as a rule of thumb don't trust your ex and her friends

 

[ARGH_Dude]

Yeah, thanks very much for the advice, dudes. It seems the only way I'm gonna find out if Ashley is really interested is to ask her out. As a final decision, I'll be doing that tomorrow. I've got nothing to lose...I don't even know Ashley. If it turns out Laura was just BS'ing and I get rejected, f*ck it. If Laura wasn't BS'ing, then whahay.

Thanks again.

 

[ARGH_Dude]

Oh well...as it turns out Laura was lying...

 

[ARGH_Dude]

Hehe, no matter. I'm now in a relationship with another girl that caught my attention. We've been going out for 2 days now.

 

[JSH]

Well done, but id liek to reinforce the earlier points by the others, never go via a girls friends, its like a 10yr old first date kinda thing and nearly always ends up in pain. I had it pulled on me and still came out lookin stupid despite the fact that i said that if the gal wanted me she had to spk 2 me and impress me but that i wasnt really bothered.