A chick 10 years my junior is punking me??

[Chunkydo]

It's been a long time since I've been on this site but here we go.

I've been seeing this girl from my gym for the last 3 or 4 weeks. She's 10 years younger than me (24), and is a personal trainer. She's super cute (a lot of the guys in the gym like her), fit, and has an ass like you would not believe. We started out just smiling at each other at the gym, which led to us simple chit chat, to me contacting her on facebook, to me banging that sweet booty a few weeks later. For some reason I find myself really attracted to her and I'm not sure what I should do about it.

The reason I am not sure is because she is not affectionate, outgoing, positive, etc. We don't hang out that often because she doesnt like to see someone more than once every few weeks. She lives at home with her parents out in the country (45 minutes away), and prefers to be at home with her dogs every night. The only time i really get to talk to her in person is at the gym (unless she comes over once a week), otherwise we chat on facebook most nights and she sends me pics of whatever she is doing at home (it appears she really is at home every night).

This girl was in a bad relationship a year ago to where her bf broke down all of her confidence (mental and physical). All she seems to want to do is push me away, which of course pulls me in more and makes me more interested. We had a serious talk the other night and she said she doesnt know why she continues to push me away but maybe she just isn't ready for anything. She also said that she wishes we didnt have sex so soon and she has stopped sending nice good morning or good night texts. we went out 5 days ago and she would not even let me kiss her, However, she continues to contact me every night and send me pics (some of that naked delicious ass) so I am just at a loss.

I have 4 other girls that are constantly trying to come to my pad to bang but my focus is on this damn 24 year old.

I know why I'm being a *****, but I need some of my brothers to reinforce it.

 

[compleks]

Doesn't sound like she's messing with you. Just sounds young and confused.

Occasional naked selfies and sex once a week sounds like a pretty good deal.
However I would tread lightly and limit texting/contact between hook ups, sounds like a few red flags already.

 

[Greasy Pig]

Post the pics man!!!

 

[bmp2cpm]

Some of my random thoughts. Your mileage may vary though....

...She's ....24.. and is a personal trainer....a lot of the guys in the gym like her.....

Some women that go into personal training have image issues and low self esteem. Being a trainer helps them with all of that, plus gives them the male attention they crave. Any daddy issues here?

...The reason I am not sure is because she is not affectionate, outgoing, positive, etc.....she doesnt like to see someone more than once every few weeks. She lives at home with her parents out in the country (45 minutes away), and prefers to be at home with her dogs every night....

Sounds like she's an introvert, perhaps? All that sounds like introvert behavior to me. Do you not like introverted women? This is a biological trait she will always have. She seems to like her alone time. The gym and going out could be exhausting for her and she "recharges" by being at home (consider quiet date locations that help her "recharge", i.e. bookstore, arboretums). Although..... sounds like she has close ties to her parents....however they are probably the ones responsible for her image issues.

...This girl was in a bad relationship a year ago to where her bf broke down all of her confidence (mental and physical).....All she seems to want to do is push me away...

Again, family issues here. Perhaps she goes into abusive relationships that are bad for her because it is familiar? What's her dad like? Eventually she'll end up with someone like her dad and finally when that doesn't work out, she'll just settle with a complete beta right before her clock stops ticking, i.e. late thirties. Hate to say it, but perhaps you're too nice and too kind and that's pushing her away because it's unfamiliar to her based on her childhood? Don't blame me for woman logic though.

Good luck!

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

Sounds like she's put you in the "sex but not a serious relationship" box in her head, which explains the naked asses but not the affectionate good nights.

Not such a good category to be in if she's turned off the kino completely.

As another poster said, she's young and confused. Just keep her on the back burner and see if she comes around. You may have to just deal with flirty texts for a while, while banging your other plates.

I'd keep it light and don't push the heavy stuff. Let her think it up her own.

But you gotta ask yourself, what will if mean if she DOES come around, and it DOES turn into something serious?

Is it really worth the effort? What would it take? How long would it take?

 

[Cloudtopsun2100]

Looks like you are next in line for a 10 lesson workout session package with her, female trainers need to be fawned over or their status at the gym (and income) decreases. Shes no doubt real hot, but you shouldn't waste your time chatting with her when you could instead be out daygaming and creating new leads.

 

[Chunkydo]

Thanks brothers. Appreciate the feedback. No doubt she does like me, but she's not good at showing it at all. She does have a good relationship with her dad, but her mom makes her feel bad about herself and her body, similar to her last boyfriend. If I give her a compliment, she ignores it, and the times I have gotten much better responses from her was when I wasn't as nice or acted what she calls, "annoying".

 

[speed dawg]

I disagree with the advice given so far in this thread. My opinion:

I've been seeing this girl from my gym for the last 3 or 4 weeks. She's 10 years younger than me (24), and is a personal trainer. She's super cute (a lot of the guys in the gym like her), fit, and has an ass like you would not believe. We started out just smiling at each other at the gym, which led to us simple chit chat, to me contacting her on facebook, to me banging that sweet booty a few weeks later.

You did something right, since you f*cked her.

For some reason I find myself really attracted to her and I'm not sure what I should do about it.........The reason I am not sure is because she is not affectionate, outgoing, positive, etc. We don't hang out that often because she doesnt like to see someone more than once every few weeks. She lives at home with her parents out in the country (45 minutes away), and prefers to be at home with her dogs every night. The only time i really get to talk to her in person is at the gym (unless she comes over once a week), otherwise we chat on facebook most nights and she sends me pics of whatever she is doing at home (it appears she really is at home every night).

You lost the frame and went AFC. That much is obvious. If she wanted to be with you, she would have made it happen. Actions, actions, actions.

This girl was in a bad relationship a year ago to where her bf broke down all of her confidence (mental and physical). All she seems to want to do is push me away, which of course pulls me in more and makes me more interested. We had a serious talk the other night and she said she doesnt know why she continues to push me away but maybe she just isn't ready for anything. She also said that she wishes we didnt have sex so soon and she has stopped sending nice good morning or good night texts. we went out 5 days ago and she would not even let me kiss her, However, she continues to contact me every night and send me pics (some of that naked delicious ass) so I am just at a loss.

D*mn, now she even regrets f*cking you. IL really has bottomed out. It appears she's also an AW, which goes along with the personal trainer stuff most of the time.

I have 4 other girls that are constantly trying to come to my pad to bang but my focus is on this damn 24 year old.

More evidence of one-itis.

I know why I'm being a *****, but I need some of my brothers to reinforce it.

That's what I'm here for, although the other posters in this thread haven't done a good job.

No doubt she does like me, but she's not good at showing it at all.

She DID like you, but not anymore. I suggest going after your other 4 girls, if in fact they really exist.

If I give her a compliment, she ignores it, and the times I have gotten much better responses from her was when I wasn't as nice or acted what she calls, "annoying".

OK, so what more advice do you need?

Fighting reality will only end up painful for you, pal. Game works on all women, and all you are doing is making excuses for this one, with the daddy and ex issues. It doesn't matter, at least when it comes to pure Interest Level. That being said, this probably isn't the type of woman that would make for a good LTR, due to those issues.

 

[Chunkydo]

Speed Dawg, you nailed it. that's the kind of tough love I was looking for. Thanks buddy.

I have a chick coming over tonight to lick my wounds. I have absolutely zero interest in this girl but it should help take my mind off of it.

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Chunky,
Many very fit people have a low Svex drive...this is her...at 24 every fortnight?...so after she pumps out a Sprog...that will be it except Birthdays and Pancake days!...sad,but of course an ideal Plate...bang the other little Ladies...The reason you have done your Bvalls on this one,is she pushes you away!

 

[Romjuan]

I actually agree with Speeddog except for the statement how she doesnt like you anymore. In the end shes STILL driving 45 min to be with you. Someone with low interest in you would not be driving that far to be with you.

I think the OPs in his first post is either trying to make us believe she has personality/relationship issues or she really does have them
My guess is she really does have relationship issues
younger girls can easily be scarred from abusive relationships because they have not had too much life experiences.

If i was the OP, id look into if parents are together and see how the ex abused her
My belief is the chick still has high interest level in him.
because she still sees him once a week
she still goes out with him even though theyre not having sex
if a girls interest level is lowered, she wouldnt make that 45 min drive or see him
shes regretting the sex, not because her interest level dropped, rather its because shes scarred and sees (probably) the ex in him or doesnt want it to go there
if anything, i think interest level is high because dispite all this, shes still sticking around
if i were him, id keep doing what im doing. dont push her over the edge and dont OVER call her, but not call her less.
meaning, just keep the same pace that theyre going. IF she starts being distant, thats when I pull back. 1 text for every 3 she sends and if she stops texting, i go dark for 2 weeks and test that interest level that Im really believing is high.

 

[Peaks&Valleys]

Seems to me like you're her fvck buddy, and that's it.

She's regretting fvcking you so soon into the relationship because she's starting to realize you could have been something more than just a fvck buddy. However, she inherently knows that once that fvck buddy train gets going, it's very difficult to turn it into something more. It's just how the dynamic is, how it's set from the beginning. Kind of like once you get put in the friend zone, it would take a major wrench thrown into the relationship, either that or an act of God, to turn it into something else.

As what was pointed out above, she's not showing affection but she is sending you nudes..... It seems to me she's doing her best to keep you as a FB, and not confuse you.

My suggestion: Just roll with it, and don't fvck it up.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=212292

 

[speed dawg]

Chunkydo, how often are you f*cking her? Be honest. Can't help you unless you're honest. Does she initiate? From what I read, you said you only see her in the gym, then you put in parentheses "if she comes over once a week". Which one is it?

 

[Chunkydo]

She's initiated everything. the few times we've had sex. I've never forced the issue with her because she claims to be "old fashioned" so I was just trying to be cool. the last time we had sex was 2 weeks ago and she literally ripped off her clothes, then took mine off. We hung out last weekend and she barely even let me kiss her. 2 weeks ago we would straight up make out like we're shooting porn, and on this past Sunday, she would just peck and wouldn't even open her mouth.

This past Sunday we were laying in my bed and she had no problem letting me feel up her ass or finger her, but that was the extent. I tried to do a little bit more and she got all frazzled and left my pad upset that I was trying to "force" sex on her.

 

[apprenticedj]

NEXT!

Her IL has dropped to dangerously low levels, I would recommend limited contact (much lower than the current level). Work on those four plates and let her exist on the back burner.

This MAY bring her back around but it's irrelevant. Focus on gaming the other chicks and detach yourself.

 

[Romjuan]

NEXT!

Her IL has dropped to dangerously low levels, I would recommend limited contact (much lower than the current level). Work on those four plates and let her exist on the back burner.

This MAY bring her back around but it's irrelevant. Focus on gaming the other chicks and detach yourself.

I still strongly disagree. Her IL is not lowered for clear reasons. 1. It was two weeks ago he banged her. 2. 4 days ago, she STILL drove 45mins to see him.

I dont know about you guys, but I would never drive 10 mins away for a girl I have low interest for.

Shes obviously fighting a battle in her head with something.. Doubt its lower IL in OP.

 

[apprenticedj]

I still strongly disagree. Her IL is not lowered for clear reasons. 1. It was two weeks ago he banged her. 2. 4 days ago, she STILL drove 45mins to see him.

I hear where you're coming from but I think the reasons you outlined perfectly demonstrate her low IL.

Two weeks is a loooooooong time for a woman. Hell, chicks these days can go from being in love with one guy to riding a new c*ck within that time span.

Also, though she did drive 45 mins to see him, she would barely give him a closed mouth kiss during their last visit.

Anytime a chick goes from porn star sex and make out sessions to not wanting to even kiss you it screams low IL to me.

She does seem to have issues going aside from the OP so it's probably a combination going on. My advice is still the same regardless, NEXT!

 

[Chunkydo]

Yeah I am definitely going to pull back on any texts/messages, avoid the gym when she is working and see if she makes a move in the next few weeks. Otherwise, I am going to focus on my other plates in the meantime.