Die Hard
Master Don Juan
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So here's more on the story I started in another thread (http://sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=176166)
Since I got into this DJ thing, I've been slowly transforming myself. I keep focussing on my inner game: my thoughts, my convictions, my feelings. I can notice how my outer game, the actual changes in my behaviour, just follows automatically from the changes in my inner game. But now there's a bump in the road and I feel a bit conflicted...
So far, things have stayed a bit superficial. I've been flirting around a lot, just playing with my new found knowledge and testing how it affects my attractiveness to women. As far as tangible results, I've danced and kissed with some girls in the club but not much beyond that. I like to keep things superficial, it allows me to keep things under control. I feel that the closer a girl gets to me and the more she knows about me, the harder it becomes to keep up my "DJ aura". That's the thing: I am not a DJ...I'm still becoming one!
When I'm walking on the street, the way I move, the glance from my eyes, it all conveys self confidence and sexuality. That's something I've developed, something I've learned to do. When business gets more serious, like when I actually have small talk with a chick, I can still convey those things. But the more personal things get, the harder I have to focus in order to keep conveying that self confidence and sexuality. In accordance with this, things go much more smoothly when I deal with superficial and shallow girls, as opposed to more sophisticated girls with higher intelligence and deeper personalities. With the latter, I feel like I have to do my best to keep up my DJ appearance while she's constantly trying to break through it.. With the former, I just feel like I am a DJ, period.
Also, I feel like the more sophisticated girls don't fall for the type of behaviour I've come to develop towards girls. I feel like those girls see me as a superficial macho, a simple guy who lacks substance... You know? Looks good, knows how to dance, knows how to create physical attraction, but doesn't have much to offer beyond that. This particular girl I was dealing with last week, was one of those girls.. She didn't say this explicitly in any way, but I could sense her thoughts being: "Okay mister, your handsome and you act like a smooth operator, but I'd like you to drop the act now and show your real self... If you can't do that, you can't have me."
Now, on the one hand, I feel like: "Screw you, I don't need this bullcrap... NEXT!" She got me thinking about her way too much already, the whole fact that I'm writing this thread proves so. But on the other hand I feel like: "She's a very nice girl, she's real girlfriend material, perhaps I should indeed try to 'drop the act' and be more sincere with her?" But I don't think I'm ready for that stuff anyway... I wanna continue on the road that I've been walking for some while now, I felt content with where I was going. This girl and the considerations she causes me to have, it all feels like a bump in the road. I'm not ready to be a "decent guy", let her get close to me, open myself up to her and that sh!t. Right now, my gut tells me I should just try to win her over MY WAY, stay in that DJ mode and try to seduce her just like I would seduce some superficial slut. If she resists to this approach, I'll just 'next' her and find some easier prey to devour.
Any thoughts on this story, guys? I can imagine that some of you more experienced DJ's have been in this situation somewhere along your own paths, right?
Since I got into this DJ thing, I've been slowly transforming myself. I keep focussing on my inner game: my thoughts, my convictions, my feelings. I can notice how my outer game, the actual changes in my behaviour, just follows automatically from the changes in my inner game. But now there's a bump in the road and I feel a bit conflicted...
So far, things have stayed a bit superficial. I've been flirting around a lot, just playing with my new found knowledge and testing how it affects my attractiveness to women. As far as tangible results, I've danced and kissed with some girls in the club but not much beyond that. I like to keep things superficial, it allows me to keep things under control. I feel that the closer a girl gets to me and the more she knows about me, the harder it becomes to keep up my "DJ aura". That's the thing: I am not a DJ...I'm still becoming one!
When I'm walking on the street, the way I move, the glance from my eyes, it all conveys self confidence and sexuality. That's something I've developed, something I've learned to do. When business gets more serious, like when I actually have small talk with a chick, I can still convey those things. But the more personal things get, the harder I have to focus in order to keep conveying that self confidence and sexuality. In accordance with this, things go much more smoothly when I deal with superficial and shallow girls, as opposed to more sophisticated girls with higher intelligence and deeper personalities. With the latter, I feel like I have to do my best to keep up my DJ appearance while she's constantly trying to break through it.. With the former, I just feel like I am a DJ, period.
Also, I feel like the more sophisticated girls don't fall for the type of behaviour I've come to develop towards girls. I feel like those girls see me as a superficial macho, a simple guy who lacks substance... You know? Looks good, knows how to dance, knows how to create physical attraction, but doesn't have much to offer beyond that. This particular girl I was dealing with last week, was one of those girls.. She didn't say this explicitly in any way, but I could sense her thoughts being: "Okay mister, your handsome and you act like a smooth operator, but I'd like you to drop the act now and show your real self... If you can't do that, you can't have me."
Now, on the one hand, I feel like: "Screw you, I don't need this bullcrap... NEXT!" She got me thinking about her way too much already, the whole fact that I'm writing this thread proves so. But on the other hand I feel like: "She's a very nice girl, she's real girlfriend material, perhaps I should indeed try to 'drop the act' and be more sincere with her?" But I don't think I'm ready for that stuff anyway... I wanna continue on the road that I've been walking for some while now, I felt content with where I was going. This girl and the considerations she causes me to have, it all feels like a bump in the road. I'm not ready to be a "decent guy", let her get close to me, open myself up to her and that sh!t. Right now, my gut tells me I should just try to win her over MY WAY, stay in that DJ mode and try to seduce her just like I would seduce some superficial slut. If she resists to this approach, I'll just 'next' her and find some easier prey to devour.
Any thoughts on this story, guys? I can imagine that some of you more experienced DJ's have been in this situation somewhere along your own paths, right?