So basically got dumped by my girlfriend which I was with for the best part of a decade.
I was living 400 miles north with her after the breakup I moved south to my hometown a few weeks ago.
I own property here (fully paid for) which I'm currently renting out. I'm also living with family until I get myself sorted. No Job (apart from being a landlord). I eventually want to set up a business working with dogs, first walking then transitioning to be a trainer.
Self esteem has taken a big hit and also physically I'm a bit of a mess. I'm also feeling sorry for myself.
This threads NOT about my ex. That's done. I need to push forward.
Current plan is to focus on myself physically/weight training and mentally, connect with old friends, need to join a new schutzhund club (training my sports dog will take a huge amount of my time plus I'll be joining a new tight social circle), will be starting fishing again for some calm.
A little later down the line when I'm out my mental and physical rough patch (mabye weeks mabye months) I'll start building my business. Money isn't a concern at the moment. Although once enough income coming in, I'll evict my tenents and move in.
Regarding women. I'm in a bit of a weird place. I'm slightly introverted, so transitioning from a long term relationship to dating / sleeping with other women might be a hurdle.
Definitely not ready yet. Although I do want sex, I'm missing that quite a lot. I'm thinking about getting a massage as a reward for training , I'll probably go to a legit Chinese massage place I know, they also do extras.
Hiring hookers probably not the smartest move but I think it will be just want the doctor ordered. Paying for it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Plus if I'm not feeling it for whatever reason , I'll just get the massage.
A long period of monogamy got me all weirded out regarding women, but a sex transaction seems totally fine? Could be because there won't be a emotional connection and I'll just be getting serviced. Never been with a hooker. Definitely want to try it!
As for non hookers. I'm strangely enough getting quite a bit of attention from women when I'm out and about. I've got hit on a few times, probably because I'm with my German Shepherd and because of the sports we do together we look fancy when we're out and about, sort of something people don't see everyday.
I did have a scout on online dating. Totally not ready for it!!!! Just got curious. Don't know why but I seem to be also attracting women on that.
I keep getting messaged by women in my area that I think are way out my league (you guys will probably hate me for saying that ). I've replied to a few , like I said im not really interested or ready , so I don't want anything to come from it just yet.
Every suprised with that one. It seems a bit too easy ? (Could be the dog pictures)
I probably need to delete the dating apps as the seem like a waste of time, as I have no intention of meeting these women. If I'm honest I'm just jerking off and stoking my own ego , and realistically im burning through the local women, that I should be persuing when I'm actually ready.
I guess my relationship kinda ****ed my self esteem. Towards the end , I certainly wasn't feeling like a desirable guy! Got put down a quite bit and came out of it feeling like trash. I should have walked along time ago.
Basically this is where I am. I've tried to be as honest as possible.
Thoughts and opinions.
I was living 400 miles north with her after the breakup I moved south to my hometown a few weeks ago.
I own property here (fully paid for) which I'm currently renting out. I'm also living with family until I get myself sorted. No Job (apart from being a landlord). I eventually want to set up a business working with dogs, first walking then transitioning to be a trainer.
Self esteem has taken a big hit and also physically I'm a bit of a mess. I'm also feeling sorry for myself.
This threads NOT about my ex. That's done. I need to push forward.
Current plan is to focus on myself physically/weight training and mentally, connect with old friends, need to join a new schutzhund club (training my sports dog will take a huge amount of my time plus I'll be joining a new tight social circle), will be starting fishing again for some calm.
A little later down the line when I'm out my mental and physical rough patch (mabye weeks mabye months) I'll start building my business. Money isn't a concern at the moment. Although once enough income coming in, I'll evict my tenents and move in.
Regarding women. I'm in a bit of a weird place. I'm slightly introverted, so transitioning from a long term relationship to dating / sleeping with other women might be a hurdle.
Definitely not ready yet. Although I do want sex, I'm missing that quite a lot. I'm thinking about getting a massage as a reward for training , I'll probably go to a legit Chinese massage place I know, they also do extras.
Hiring hookers probably not the smartest move but I think it will be just want the doctor ordered. Paying for it doesn't bother me in the slightest. Plus if I'm not feeling it for whatever reason , I'll just get the massage.
A long period of monogamy got me all weirded out regarding women, but a sex transaction seems totally fine? Could be because there won't be a emotional connection and I'll just be getting serviced. Never been with a hooker. Definitely want to try it!
As for non hookers. I'm strangely enough getting quite a bit of attention from women when I'm out and about. I've got hit on a few times, probably because I'm with my German Shepherd and because of the sports we do together we look fancy when we're out and about, sort of something people don't see everyday.
I did have a scout on online dating. Totally not ready for it!!!! Just got curious. Don't know why but I seem to be also attracting women on that.
I keep getting messaged by women in my area that I think are way out my league (you guys will probably hate me for saying that ). I've replied to a few , like I said im not really interested or ready , so I don't want anything to come from it just yet.
Every suprised with that one. It seems a bit too easy ? (Could be the dog pictures)
I probably need to delete the dating apps as the seem like a waste of time, as I have no intention of meeting these women. If I'm honest I'm just jerking off and stoking my own ego , and realistically im burning through the local women, that I should be persuing when I'm actually ready.
I guess my relationship kinda ****ed my self esteem. Towards the end , I certainly wasn't feeling like a desirable guy! Got put down a quite bit and came out of it feeling like trash. I should have walked along time ago.
Basically this is where I am. I've tried to be as honest as possible.
Thoughts and opinions.
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