A bit hard getting results with women lately

[mrmuscles2]

I've been a college student for over 2 years, had a gf gor 2-3 months of my first year (met her at my pervious job) and wasnt looking for anyone, then broke up and i began looking for women at my college, i would say in the past two years i went out with 10+ girls and talked to dozens, even been approached few times, sure most of them wanted something "Serious" but still i was getting some makeout and 2nd base kind of sh*t (better than nothing) ... i get a lot of attention from women and many show interest in me, stares, eye contact, smiles, compliments ...etc

My style is rather blunt i see a woman i like showing a lot of interest in me for a while, i talk to her face to face or online few times and set up a date (not caring much for rejection), go out, have fun, joke around grab a bite and proceed from there (usually i try to find out what she truly wants) and its been working for me but lately ... and by lately i mean the last 6-7 months i have been finding a huge problem approaching women, talking to them or getting out with me ... I admit i had some tough exams, and iam poor af with no car so money is indeed making me stressful sometimes plus had some issues with my stomach ... overall though its been more than 9 months since i ever had a date or went out with a girl, lately iam not even looking for girls to date i just wanna get laid or have some fun.

I know that women find me very good looking, they never hide it or even attempt to, and i have attracted a lot of taken girls over the years (one was engaged) but idk if its me or what, but lately i dont seem to be able to get anything done ,I feel down, i feel girls are playing me and getting the recognition they want then ignoring me in favor of another dude who has money or they've known for years .... i did read a lot about the "game", how to talk and approach women and all to find out what could be my issue and they all boil down to this :

1- Iam not confident/fast enough with women
2- they think iam out of their league/a player and they avoid me
3- Tought competition / bad timing

not sure which one is it but what do you suggest i do ?

 

[mrmuscles2]

I'm curious as to how you have parted ways with these women previous to your slump.

All it takes in a relatively close-knit community like a college campus is for one girl to feel like you played her and it's all whispers and rumor mill from there.

Well my gf moved away to another college hundred of miles away so we just ended it (she liked me a lot though) .

as for the college girls, i usually dont go after girls that are friends or know each other well, i do my best to never be seen with a woman on campus (even though sometimes it happens cause i do have a lot of aquantices that are female) , two chicks were from another college, another three approached me so never had to work hard ot go out with them and the remainnig 5-6 girls were very interested in me and very open to my approaches and it didnt take long to take them out ... actually come to think of it i went out with 4 girls that approached me not 3.

 

[Alvafe]

your 2nd on your list is bull, there is not out of her league for woman, as long you pursue her in some degree and ask her out she is more willing to go, lack of escalation, that needy action is more likely to make you less, just ask yourself this did a guy with a player rep had a lack of females? his rep did come from somewhere.

what you should do is first stop caring if people will see you or not, being seen with girls is better for you then otherwise, if you are going out only with girls who aproach you, that means you are too passive.

the way you are saying here is looking like you find you are not good enough, afraid of things passive and too meek, not a good thing if you want to date around

 

[mrmuscles2]

your 2nd on your list is bull, there is not out of her league for woman, as long you pursue her in some degree and ask her out she is more willing to go, lack of escalation, that needy action is more likely to make you less, just ask yourself this did a guy with a player rep had a lack of females? his rep did come from somewhere.

what you should do is first stop caring if people will see you or not, being seen with girls is better for you then otherwise, if you are going out only with girls who aproach you, that means you are too passive.

the way you are saying here is looking like you find you are not good enough, afraid of things passive and too meek, not a good thing if you want to date around

I'll be honest you do have some truth in your words, iam kinda passive, half the women i went out with approached me, i did approach women before not that i havent but i need to better my game i guess ... thing is i have a lot of ego, if i message a woman 2-3 times first and she never initiates then i take that as disinterest and move on , if i ask her out and she says she cant or something and never gets back to me for another date then i assume she is not interested, some of my friends tell me i should push harder m in fact one friend told me the only way for him to stop messaging a girl he wants to date is if she blocks him ... needless to say iam far form that, i lose interest as fast as i get interested and surprisingly i was getting a lot girls despite not putting much effort into it ..

these days though iam feeling down most of the time and cant bring myself to talk to women, i am trying to overcome this but i have no idea how or why this is happening, as i said i have no problem when it comes to attraction and i am not shy nor a creep or clingy in fact i pretty assertive and on point when it comes to that ... but i feel that sometimes i need to humilate myself a little to reel girls in, yet iam not exactly in the right state of mind to do that yet .

 

[Alvafe]

I wouldn't do like your friend do, msging a girl till she blocks him, but work little by little you will not change over night, calling a girl out 2 or 3 times before moving on is ok. its the same as anotehr poster asked once if it was bad to ask the same girl out over and over, I told him its not, as long she is the not the only one, you should have several in line and if not at least be busy with friends, also note you should adapt what you read here with the culture with your region and with what works with you, there is not a single recipe, only what work and what don't for you

 

[wifehunter]

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