Hi everyone,
I've been reading this forum in the past, but never posted. So here is my first post. It's a bit of a story, but aren't they all?
I recently started a new job at a mall that I've worked at before. I actually knew the staff from my job from the time I worked at the mall, so it wasn't really hard getting that job. So as you may guess, there was a girl. I liked her before, but chose not to pursue because she wasn't single back at the time.
After a few days of working there, I noticed she was showing interest in me (although I suppose I could simply be getting the wrong idea). I continued on and the signals started getting stronger. I'm not one to really dive for it without making sure first. She would always say hi to me, or compliment me on whatever, every time I'd come in, or she would touch me a lot (like grabbing my arm, or sometimes tickling). It didn't really make much sense, since I was under the impression that she was taken. Later I found out from a buddy that she broke up with her bf a few months back. So I figured I would start showing interest as well.
One day, I came in and for some reason she was crying (never really found out why), so I figured I'd try to cheer her up. I asked if there was anything I could do...so it kinda led me to offering her some ice cream.
One day she showed me her modeling pictures, and I gave her a compliment. Throughout the weeks, it seemed to me as if she was trying to get me to ask her out. Maybe I'm an idiot, but **** like "oo I wanna see that movie", or "I wanna go drinking" really made me wonder if it's something more than just saying it. Anyways, I asked her out, along with another co-worker, who was also a girl. Figured we would start off easy, and just hang out. The other girl gave me her number few hours before we left work, to call her to tell her once I'm ready.
Before we left, the girl mentioned that she was broke and didn't know if she should come, but the other girl said that she'll cover her, and told me that they are both coming. So they picked me up hours later, and we went to some bar. It went well. We sat inside first, got some drinks, and just hung out talking for an hour or so. I was sitting across from our DD and the girl was sitting next to her. Throughout the conversation, she told me that I had to come to a club with her one day. So I figured, good signs so far. At some point she would hit my legs under the table. I actually asked them if they wanted to go out again next weekend. I bought her a couple of shots (the other girl wasn't having any as she was driving), and then we moved to the patio. There, she sat right next to me, and our DD was stranded by herself across from me.
The night went on, and at some points I would put my arm around her, and she seemed fine. She seemed to get drunker every shot though (we've had 5 each in total), and very soon she ended up waving over our male neighbours. At this point the other girl was giving me looks as if she was gonna kill her. As predicted, they sat next to our DD and one of them started hitting on her. They seemed discouraged to approach the girl beside me. Anyways, we left shortly after, as at that point it wasn't really fun. I paid for the shots that I bought her. Before we left, she gave me a big hug, and I grabbed her by the waist and we strolled out.
So I thought it was going pretty smooth. In the car, I gave her a massage, as I was sitting behind her. We went to some other bar for a little bit, but at that point the night was left short and uneventful. The dropped me off, and I crashed satisfied.
This is where I get confused. I found out that she wasn't feeling well the next morning, and had to leave early. I myself wasn't working until about 3 days after. I texted the other girl to try and find out her number to see if she was alright, but received no reply. I tried to add her on facebook, but no reply there as well. I dropped by the mall a few days later, just say hi to the people, and found them both working. The manager was there, so we couldn't really chat it up. The girl wasn't her cheerful self, which kinda threw me off. I stayed for a few minutes, and just before I left, I asked them if they were still up for the weekend. Both said yea.
I haven't seen her since. I talked to the manager the next day (as I was in to work) to see if the girl was OK that day, and she said that she hasn't slept the night, hence she wasn't herself. I figured, OK well that's not that bad then. Then I went for my break with a friend of mine, who actually works across from the store. He told me that he overheard her talking about me to some of the people that work at his place. She asked if I like her, and she mentioned that when I touched her she felt uncomfortable. So at this point, I don't really know what to think, or do.
The weekend is approaching, and to my surprise both of them are still planning on coming (although I will ask them again to make sure). From what I know, the other girl actually said that she had fun that night. I'm working with both of them the day we are going out, and I'm not really sure how to act anymore.
I will say that the girl doesn't seem like an attention *****/drama queen. She actually seemed very cool and down to earth in the beginning, which is why I got interested in her. So I don't really believe she is out to get me to pay for her ****.
So that's my story. Any pros willing to have a crack at this?
I've been reading this forum in the past, but never posted. So here is my first post. It's a bit of a story, but aren't they all?
I recently started a new job at a mall that I've worked at before. I actually knew the staff from my job from the time I worked at the mall, so it wasn't really hard getting that job. So as you may guess, there was a girl. I liked her before, but chose not to pursue because she wasn't single back at the time.
After a few days of working there, I noticed she was showing interest in me (although I suppose I could simply be getting the wrong idea). I continued on and the signals started getting stronger. I'm not one to really dive for it without making sure first. She would always say hi to me, or compliment me on whatever, every time I'd come in, or she would touch me a lot (like grabbing my arm, or sometimes tickling). It didn't really make much sense, since I was under the impression that she was taken. Later I found out from a buddy that she broke up with her bf a few months back. So I figured I would start showing interest as well.
One day, I came in and for some reason she was crying (never really found out why), so I figured I'd try to cheer her up. I asked if there was anything I could do...so it kinda led me to offering her some ice cream.
One day she showed me her modeling pictures, and I gave her a compliment. Throughout the weeks, it seemed to me as if she was trying to get me to ask her out. Maybe I'm an idiot, but **** like "oo I wanna see that movie", or "I wanna go drinking" really made me wonder if it's something more than just saying it. Anyways, I asked her out, along with another co-worker, who was also a girl. Figured we would start off easy, and just hang out. The other girl gave me her number few hours before we left work, to call her to tell her once I'm ready.
Before we left, the girl mentioned that she was broke and didn't know if she should come, but the other girl said that she'll cover her, and told me that they are both coming. So they picked me up hours later, and we went to some bar. It went well. We sat inside first, got some drinks, and just hung out talking for an hour or so. I was sitting across from our DD and the girl was sitting next to her. Throughout the conversation, she told me that I had to come to a club with her one day. So I figured, good signs so far. At some point she would hit my legs under the table. I actually asked them if they wanted to go out again next weekend. I bought her a couple of shots (the other girl wasn't having any as she was driving), and then we moved to the patio. There, she sat right next to me, and our DD was stranded by herself across from me.
The night went on, and at some points I would put my arm around her, and she seemed fine. She seemed to get drunker every shot though (we've had 5 each in total), and very soon she ended up waving over our male neighbours. At this point the other girl was giving me looks as if she was gonna kill her. As predicted, they sat next to our DD and one of them started hitting on her. They seemed discouraged to approach the girl beside me. Anyways, we left shortly after, as at that point it wasn't really fun. I paid for the shots that I bought her. Before we left, she gave me a big hug, and I grabbed her by the waist and we strolled out.
So I thought it was going pretty smooth. In the car, I gave her a massage, as I was sitting behind her. We went to some other bar for a little bit, but at that point the night was left short and uneventful. The dropped me off, and I crashed satisfied.
This is where I get confused. I found out that she wasn't feeling well the next morning, and had to leave early. I myself wasn't working until about 3 days after. I texted the other girl to try and find out her number to see if she was alright, but received no reply. I tried to add her on facebook, but no reply there as well. I dropped by the mall a few days later, just say hi to the people, and found them both working. The manager was there, so we couldn't really chat it up. The girl wasn't her cheerful self, which kinda threw me off. I stayed for a few minutes, and just before I left, I asked them if they were still up for the weekend. Both said yea.
I haven't seen her since. I talked to the manager the next day (as I was in to work) to see if the girl was OK that day, and she said that she hasn't slept the night, hence she wasn't herself. I figured, OK well that's not that bad then. Then I went for my break with a friend of mine, who actually works across from the store. He told me that he overheard her talking about me to some of the people that work at his place. She asked if I like her, and she mentioned that when I touched her she felt uncomfortable. So at this point, I don't really know what to think, or do.
The weekend is approaching, and to my surprise both of them are still planning on coming (although I will ask them again to make sure). From what I know, the other girl actually said that she had fun that night. I'm working with both of them the day we are going out, and I'm not really sure how to act anymore.
I will say that the girl doesn't seem like an attention *****/drama queen. She actually seemed very cool and down to earth in the beginning, which is why I got interested in her. So I don't really believe she is out to get me to pay for her ****.
So that's my story. Any pros willing to have a crack at this?