Hey guys! Narcissist here, and I figured that it would be a good idea to compile all of the characteristics that are unattractive as a good reference point for what we should eradicate out of our personality. Sometimes becoming more seductive is merely rooting out those bad qualities that are within each of us. the majority of posts on here are what make a man attractive, but unless we all make aims to clean up our unattractive traits, we will never have the chance to seduce women, charm our way through social environments, increase our SMV, and reach the heights of our social world. So without further ado, lets begin this list. [ps. If I have missed any qualities, feel free to add on to the list!]
Mind the typos, i wrote this on my phone!
A compiled list of unattractive qualities
1. Insecurity
It goes without saying that insecurity is the absolute number 1 quality that repels people from you. Insecurity will be a causal factor in the majority of the other unattractive qualities, and for this reason it is paramount that you eradicate any insecurity that you have within you. Dealing with your insecurities and accepting who you are is a fundamental requirement for being seductive and appealing to everyone. A person who cannot get out of their own head because they are too worried about how they look, or that they are balding, or that they have a stutter (or any insecurity for that matter) is vastly unattractive. It shows that you cannot be in the moment, and that they only thing you are worried about is yourself, which screams selfishness. It also has the added effect of heightening the insecurities of those around you, and they start to ponder their own insecurities, as you make it such a big deal to your own life. Its infectious. At all costs figure it out, do not be insecure.
2. Impatience
Impatience is the second pillar of unattractiveness. This is because it leads to so many anti-seductive qualities. An inability to be in tuned to the nature of timing in our reality is a vast limitation on your character and your rise to the top of the social ladder. When you are impatient it shows that you have not learned that everything good comes with time. It shows that you are rushing life, and are in a hurry to live it. Consequently, when things inevitably do not pan out according to your rushed timeline all sorts of negative characteristics appear. You become frustrated, easily upset and rattled, your need to control things increases to a domineering level, and ultimately revert back to a childlike sulk. Impatience is a catalyst for numerous anti-seductive qualities. Impatience in seduction leads to neediness of attention when you cannot wait a couple days to see the girl (leads to compensating by texting and calling, etc), hurrying sexual intercourse with an inattention to detail, and rushing the seductive process. These are all anti-seductive. Once again, at all costs, you must foster an unwavering patience, and people will revel and respect your level of grounded calmness and how in tune you are with the nature of time and reality. Patience goes along way in seduction and social climbing.
3. Neediness
The needier you are the more explicitly you show your inner lack of confidence. You essentially project your inner "need" of validation from other people which is your way of being able to live comfortably. This derives from your inability for self-validation with your own insecurities, hence why it is so important to root out any insecurities you have as best as you can. When you let people know, through your neediness, that you "need" them for validation they lose respect for you as a person, because you have not taken the time and effort it takes to be comfortable with yourself, to be grounded and secure as a person. Without respect, there can be no seduction; no social climbing. With becoming a more secure person, neediness dissipates. Eradicating neediness is integral to being an attractive man.
4. Domineering/controlling
One of the worst traits you can have, which is a sure fire way to destroy any attraction, is having a domineering and controlling attitude to the point of getting angry if you do not get your way. There is a healthy level of control and dominance that a man must exert in social environments, of course, but an inability to have it any other way is an anti-seductive trait. If you cannot for the life of you bend your desires and wants for other people in the right social context you will be surely disliked in the social realm. Find the happy medium between domineering and wavering. A confidence and aura that makes people WANT to do what you want them to do, is much more effective than coercing them into them doing your bidding by means to argumentation, and forceful exertion.
5. Reactive
Being excessively reactive in social environments when your ego is slighted, or a joke is made at the expense of your character is a major social faux pas of our culture. It is awkward and reeks of insecurity. Do not be the guy that loses his sh*t when someone cracks a joke about him. It is endlessly seductive to be able to make light of your own character and laugh at yourself. That shines confidence. If someone makes fun of you, tries to get a rise out of you, or simply tries to corner you into an argument, etc, the best defense is to laugh/smirk with a mild indifference. Practice this. It will be awkward if your shield is weak.
6. Big Mouth/Excessively Talkative
Talking nonstop, endlessly revealing information about yourself, and not allowing others the courtesy of speaking is a major turn off. It reveals a inherent selfishness, being unable to read the needs of others, and what the social environment calls for. Being able to shut the f*ck up every once in a while in the right situation will go along way in the seductive process, for it will show a control over your being. It will show a comfortability with silence, a trait many people today do not have. It will spark the hamster wheel, as the woman tries to figure out what you are thinking. She will often explicitly express this desire to know, by literally asking you "what are you thinking?" A cheeky smirk will serve as a good response. Nothing more. It will enhance her desire and curiosity. Talk too much and all she will want is for you to stfu. You want her to want to be with you when she is alone; you dont want her to have the desire to get as far away from you as possible when she is in your presence.
7. Criticism
One of the worst traits someone can have. Constantly criticize people and they will resent your presence. When they see you they will scoff. They may outwardly express gratitude for your critique but inside they will feel deep-rooted contempt at every remark you make. Let other people criticize. Simply refrain from telling people what to do, or how to do things. They can either learn by themselves or suffer the consequences of not being intuitive enough. But the more you try to "help" people by criticizing their actions, the more they will hate you. They will feel as though you think you are superior to them in your thinking and rational agency. In a relationship or seduction, it is the same situation. The girl will ultimately grow a deep-rooted disgust at every criticism you make, her pvssy will dry up. No more criticism.
8. Whining/Complaining
There is nothing more anti-seductive than a adult male who has not shed off his childlike trait of whining and complaining when he doesn't get his way. It is the epitome of unwarranted entitlement. This is very similar to criticism in that it will breed large amounts of resentment from social peers, relationship partners, friends , etc.
9. Timidity
This shouts "A man that is incapable of taking/getting what he wants in life." Timidity comes from fear of rejection and the insecurity of not being worthy enough of getting what one truly desires. This is extremely anti-seductive because a woman wants a man who knows what he wants and know how to get it. It all comes down to evolutionary factors for why women find boldness endlessly seductive. The bold get what they want and cane survive better than the timid who are afraid to take what they want when they want it.
