It might sound stupid but that's the way it is. Most geeks/dorks read fictional stories and that's why they're geeks/dorks because their relation to the world happens through the stories they read and they keep fantasizing about having that kind of life or whatever. If you saw a rich guy and how he lived or you saw how a good family treat each other you'd have much more realistic expectations out of life.
Books won't get you sex. Book will get you rapport build up with other book readers especially ones who read similar stuff to you. I say learn what works for you and not what others tell you works. When I heard this one when I was younger I was like how the **** do I do that until I started going out more often hanging out with buddies, etc. having fun and then I started realizing what they meant by that. That's how people learn, through experience. Every single human needs simulation.