6 Signs You Are MORE Attractive Than You THINK

[CornbreadFed]

Today, my massage therapist( I went back to the one I made a topic about previously lol) told me I was a 9/10 and I said I don't feel like I am a 9/10 because I only care about the opinions of girls that I find attractive. She told me that I was trolling and to stop being a Debbie downer because I am tall, muscular, hot, and have nice hair. I didn't feel like arguing back, so I responded with I guess you are right. This lead me to this video which I found pretty helpful for Chadlites with low self-esteem & confidence which can impact dating performance.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

Confidence is an internal thing. If you are truly confident outside noise makes no difference in your opinion of yourself.

If you require outside validation to be confident, that's not truly being confident.

 

[zekko]

Confidence is an internal thing. If you are truly confident outside noise makes no difference in your opinion of yourself.
If you require outside validation to be confident, that's not truly being confident.

That's what they say, but I don't fully agree. If you are good looking, you will receive feedback to that effect (like the OP being told he is a 9). If you don't ever get that feedback, chances are you're not really good looking. Statistically people tend to overestimate their own attractiveness. You can go around thinking you're good looking if you're not, but you're just deluding yourself. At some point being confident about something should be based in some sort of reality.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Confidence is an internal thing. If you are truly confident outside noise makes no difference in your opinion of yourself.

If you require outside validation to be confident, that's not truly being confident.

I guess this needs to be said. I withheld the racial aspect of the conversation to avoid any controversy on this topic. With that said, I said as an African American male, you are either a 1/10 or 10/10 depending on the beliefs of the female. If you were to grow up and go to university in the same environment I did, this could easily permanently destroy your confidence. In addition, I may make a topic on that subject about how being a Chadlite is actually harder depending on the responses in this topic.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's what they say, but I don't fully agree. If you are good looking, you will receive feedback to that effect (like the OP being told he is a 9). If you don't ever get that feedback, chances are you're not really good looking. Statistically people tend to overestimate their own attractiveness. You can go around thinking you're good looking if you're not, but you're just deluding yourself. At some point being confident about something should be based in some sort of reality.

And yet eventually people will believe it if you keep at it long enough. When people don't know you, they tend to believe what you believe about yourself.

Wonder why so many hot women are with fat or ugly dudes that aren't rich? Because they believe they are deserving of them and act accordingly. They don't believe what others think about them nor do they care.

It's a mindset thing in the end and not everyone has it or may even be capable of it. Those people tend to have it naturally. Can it be learned? Perhaps.

 

[corrector]

Today, my massage therapist( I went back to the one I made a topic about previously lol) told me I was a 9/10 and I said I don't feel like I am a 9/10 because I only care about the opinions of girls that I find attractive. She told me that I was trolling and to stop being a Debbie downer because I am tall, muscular, hot, and have nice hair. I didn't feel like arguing back, so I responded with I guess you are right. This lead me to this video which I found pretty helpful for Chadlites with low self-esteem & confidence which can impact dating performance.

You said her opinion does not count because she is ugly.

 

[CornbreadFed]

You said her opinion does not count because she is ugly.

Lol, she's not ugly, but I can see how that could be interpreted as such.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Wonder why so many hot women are with fat or ugly dudes that aren't rich? Because they believe they are deserving of them and act accordingly. They don't believe what others think about them nor do they care.

More than likely the fat or ugly dude is a losing submissive position to the female. I wouldn't recommend any male put himself in that position for some pvssy if that even continues to happen. If you seriously think this hotter woman is overlooking this guy's looks for some inner beauty within him then you are in a Disney mindset broski. I know plenty of guys in this situation and they are extremely insecure about the relationship behind closed doors and let their women get away with a lot of shvt that would be revolted against on this site. These be same overly controlling guys that track where their women are because they know they can't do jack shvt if a normal guy approaches her.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

More than likely the fat or ugly dude is a losing submissive position to the female. I wouldn't recommend any male put himself in that position for some pvssy if that even continues to happen. If you seriously think this hotter woman is overlooking this guy's looks for some inner beauty within him then you are in a Disney mindset broski.

The longer a woman knows a man the less important his looks become and the more important other qualities become. This has been studied and has been shown repeatedly in study after study.

 

[CornbreadFed]

The longer a woman knows a man the less important his looks become and the more important other qualities become. This has been studied and has been shown repeatedly in study after study.

I agree that a lot of relationships are not running off of looks alone, but why would any rational man want to be in a sunk cost or transactional influenced relationship? The genuine interest from the girl is gone, she is constantly acting masculine, she is more prone to cheating & manipulating the man, dead bedroom relationship, and etc. I would rather date a 7/10 that is submissive, feminine, and conducive than a 9/10 that confidently knows that she can do better than me looks or fiscal wise. Last, these relationships are speculative at best. You do not know what if the guy had a higher smv during the budding stage of the relationship and lost smv as the relationship progressed. At the end of the day, women are humans just like us, so expecting them to operate on some fantasy mindset is purely delusional IMHO. I am sure guys like Rick Ross and Donald Trump can get laid, but I would rather be Micheal B. Jordan or Chris Hemsworth dead srs.

Last, I just want to state that I am talking about relationships with obvious SMV disparities. A lot of couples are actually pretty even looks wise, but factors like makeup, over-valuing women due to being a man or dry spell and undervaluing a guy's smv because he doesn't fit the typical stereotypical Chad Greek Body masculine frame look lead to us thinking that the guy is pulling above his weight.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Today, my massage therapist( I went back to the one I made a topic about previously lol) told me I was a 9/10 and I said I don't feel like I am a 9/10 because I only care about the opinions of girls that I find attractive. She told me that I was trolling and to stop being a Debbie downer because I am tall, muscular, hot, and have nice hair.

Do you realize you told her that you’re not attracted to her?