6 reasons to date girls you're not attracted to

[Manure Spherian]

I'd say there is a difference between having realistic standards and dating girls you are not even attracted to. In the case of the latter, what is the point? You might as well start playing for the other team.

Right. I don’t agree with the linked article 100 percent. I meant some would do better going for women LESS attractive than they hope for. I didn’t mean no attraction.

 

[kzar_kzar]

One of latest newsletters from alan thompson goes against the advice given by posters on these forums. If a man listened to advice on these forums he would have blue balls waiting for a unicorn to show up. Below is the newsletter :- Today's tip is guaranteed to be controversial. Some of you are going to read it, nod along, and think this is great advice. And some of you are going to get mad, email me and tell me it is the worst tip ever. LOL! Read on, and let me know what you think...

6 Reasons to Date Girls You Are NOT Attracted To by Joseph Here's the number one all-time most important tip that you will ever get. Get a girlfriend! "What?" I hear you say. "But that's exactly why I'm getting these tips, because I can't get a girlfriend." Really? Are you being completely honest with yourself? What about that chubby girl that used to smile at you a lot? Or that slightly nerdy girl that seemed interested in you? You know what I mean don't you? You know that you have passed up girls that you aren't interested in because they don't meet some standard, because they are not the one you could consider falling in love with. Well, my friend, you are making a huge mistake. If you are alone and the only girl that seems interested in you is a "2" and is 100 lbs. overweight, go out with her! You don't have to marry her. You don't have to be long term. You don't have to even get intimate with her. But for goodness sake, take her out somewhere and have a good time together. Why? Well, there are lots of reasons. 6 Reasons to Get a Girlfriend - Any Girlfriend 1) You will not be lonely and isolated. Even though you will feel less than content and satisfied, at some level in your subconscious you are having basic human needs for affection, attention, and company with the opposite sex met. You will, even without realizing it, be more relaxed and confident. 2) You will prevent yourself from sliding down a black hole of alienation, social isolation, depression and loneliness. You will "have a life." This is good for you generally, and good for the vibe you will radiate at other women. 3) She will introduce you into her social circle. You will meet potential friends, you will have a social life, you will feel even better about life, and you will meet more women in a social setting. 4) You will be getting practice and experience just hanging out with and conversing with a woman. You will be learning more and more about how to act around women. This will come more naturally. 5) You will be seen about with her. DON'T be embarrassed by this! Believe me, the 3-5's will notice and wonder what she's got that they haven't. There is nothing worse than being constantly seen about town moping about by yourself. 6) Now, assuming you don't fall in love with her (don't laugh, it happens), you will be in a perfect position to start dating a 3-5 when she starts showing interest in you... And then that will lead to you being noticed by the 5-7s... and then you are pretty close to being noticed by the ones you really like, by which stage you will be ready to interact with them more naturally. Get it? What's Stopping You? What stops you from doing this? Is it really because a less than beautiful girl repulses you? I doubt it. It is probably because you are a decent and good young man who doesn't want to lead on a girl that he isn't REALLY interested in. You don't want to hurt her. You don't want to date her for a while and then dump her do you? You are scared of "using" her. You don't like hurting females, and that is a good thing and something you should be proud of. So, how to get around this? Well, the first thing is that you keep it casual and you don't promise any more than you are ready to give. Don't lead her on! Date her, enjoy each others company, but don't deceive her and don't use her. If and when the time comes to move on, say this: "Look Julie, I've had a good time with you over the last few weeks/months, but I just don't feel any romantic vibe happening between us and I think it's time to move on." DON'T tell her that you are not attracted to her, and don't tell her you want to be "just friends." If you tell her that you don't feel romance happening between you, then this is a language that females understand. Do It Now! So get out there and get a girlfriend, ANY GIRLFRIEND! DO IT NOW! ===== I would like to thank Joseph for submitting this tip. I'm sure that many of you will find it quite insightful. And some of you will not like it at all. But when it comes to dating, there is no substitute for practice and experience. Good luck! Allen SoSuave.com I want your thoughts and opinions. What do you like about this newsletter? What do you dislike about this newsletter? What topics interest you the most? What questions do you have about women and dating? Just hit reply and let me know.

True,

But she asked me to get married lmao, I couldn’t even have sex with her because I wasn’t that attracted to her . Not that shes ugly but I couldn’t lmao.

however I did sleep with another girl albeit small bxxbs who wasn’t that attractive and after that i was open to having sex with the average looking girls as long as we are getting good.
So basically once you get experience you won’t mind sleeping with normal average girls.! Because that hottie might be dirty than that sweet weirdo who stay away from everything lol

 

[Rainman4707]

To be fair, i thought the newsletter was more along the lines of no harm having a girl as a friend with benefits until you find a better one.

Not worth my time entertaining a girl if i'm not getting my di** wet.

 

[The Duke]

And yet you're trying to shame me for saying what I want. You're too easy for me, grandpa, pick on noobies

Pedrito is that you?

 

[New_Journey]

Pedrito is that you?

Yeah, but bigger and better

 

[Guitar_Whizz]

Have to say I disagree with this! It's silly to date someone you're not attracted to.

It's no big deal being seen about town by yourself either....and you don't need to be 'moping' if you're by yourself. Confident, alpha men don't need to swan around in packs or always be seen with women, they can hunt alone and enjoy their own company.

This whole post is just way off the mark.

 

[corrector]

Came late to this party, but agree with @Gamisch. Also there is a factor that if you are embarassed to be seeing with such a girlfriend in public, or if people looks at you as a couple, or ask questions like, is the lady you are with your mother, etc..... or your folks/family/friends are in shock that you with someone that looks like her, then there are allot of negatives involved.

I of myself am not that picky in terms of looks when it comes to women, but as @Gamisch pointed out, if that hb4 feels she is the best that I can get and I need her more than she needs me then that's a set-up for more disappointment, heartbreak and anger. You'll just inflate her ego, she'll think she can actually do better, and will treat you poorly and have one foot out the door the whole time.

A girlfriend and yourself should at least look somewhat "natural" together with you as a couple. People should not wonder if she is your mother, daughter, or what is the deal with you both together. Sometimes, you have less attention if you are by yourself then if you are with someone that doesn't look natural with you.

 

[devilkingx2]

If a man has a problem with simping he should definitely find a less attractive woman he doesn’t feel like he needs to give all his money and always say yes to

or if a man has nobody at all and is depressed or hateful but he has less attractive options he should probably take them.

but otherwise lowering your standards too much is a bad idea. There’s still ugly 304s and gold diggers. If you think your girl is ugly you probably won’t be happy with her. Etc.

 

[DJ Novice]

Nothing wrong with having junk food from time to time but don’t make it your regular diet.

 

[BadBoy89]

The OP does have some points, but it collapses when he says “not attracted to”. For the points to make sense, a man HAS to be somewhat attracted to her, want to her sex with her. Otherwise, there is no point.

You are telling me men would rather be with a fat chick on a Friday night than be alone watching the game or reading about WW2 or improving their minds?

I don’t think so.

 

[SW15]

For the points to make sense, a man HAS to be somewhat attracted to her, want to her sex with her.

Some level of attraction is necessary.

Men are willing to drop their standards quite far for short term sex. There are plenty of examples of subpar women getting a lot of interest from men.

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For a longer term dating relationship, the man needs more attraction.

The article might make sense in dropping from the 7-8 range to the 5-6 range, but at least the 5-6 range is passably attractive.

 

[Mike32ct]

If you date someone you aren’t attracted to, she will sense it and preemptively dump you or ghost you. (I can’t really blame her for that either.)

I tried this twice. It does not work.

 

[jhonny9546]

This sounds good, but I've also always thought that if you go with a certain woman, then all the women around you will define your value based on her.
And if you're actractive, let's say a 7 or 8, and she's a 5, you'll be perceived as a 5 or 6