6 months dating her, no sex and she broke up with me

[SW15]

We do need to remember that many Asian countries males DEFINE incel. So six months may not be a big deal to the OP. But damn.

There are a lot of East and South Asian men in the USA who are incels too.

 

[SW15]

If you regularly had more options, you wouldn't have felt so attached - you would just say, "eh, this is a dry hole - time to drill a well somewhere else".

"The One" is a Blue Pill construct.

Yes to both

This relationship was simply you as a Beta orbiter both to entertain her while she continued to look for a higher-tier replacement and also to have as an "in case of hitting The Wall" fallback husband - and she had come to the conclusion that you weren't good enough to keep around for the latter, probably because she realized that she would need to put out to keep you around. IOW, she hated the notion of your peniis in her so much that she would risk hitting The Wall without a fallback.

I have had a few girlfriends like this, and I seethe in anger when I look back at not being able to get poon from them.

I can see why you seethe.

Is there such a thing as X number of sexless dates before a man must exit? I don't think there is. I would be frustrated if 5 dates and no sex. I usually get sex within the first 3 dates. 3 dates + an in-person approach is more than 5 hours together. In the book "Mystery Method", Mystery made the claim that 7 hours together is usually enough time for a woman to know if she wants to have sex with you. Guys like Mystery and his protege Neil Strauss often got sex on the same night as an approach, often within 2-3 hours.

 

[Mike32ct]

Recently, she broke up with me saying "You're a very cool, smart guy. You are very generous, knows how take care of a woman, you organized amazing dates, gifts. But spark is not there"

I know that might sound stupid, and lots of guys gonna critize me. But is there a way to get her back?

Unfortunately no. See paragraph #1. She fired you as a potential boyfriend. You can’t reapply for the job now.

All that aside, I am sorry to hear this. I’ve been there a few times. It’s no fun.

 

[Robert28]

Attention, validation, free dinners, gifts. And she didn't even have to sleep with you. What's not to like?

But why’d she give it up? It’s not like she’s going to have that deal again anytime soon.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

Women are fickle, it could’ve been anything.

 

[Bokanovsky]

But why’d she give it up? It’s not like she’s going to have that deal again anytime soon.

Got bored and/or found another sucker.

 

[Hal9000]

A woman will absolutely string along a guy for months who showers her with gifts and great dates. She knew within a date or two if you gave her the tingles so everything after that was her taking advantage of your generosity and naivety for free stuff. Going forward, remember that if a woman isn't having sex with you within a few dates she's friend zoned you permanently and you need to move on. I especially like how she blamed your lack of discussion about your personal life for not wanting to have sex with you. This is total nonsense and just her way of making her taking advantage of you for months all your fault. You need to run in the opposite direction.

 

[Robert28]

A woman will absolutely string along a guy for months who showers her with gifts and great dates. She knew within a date or two if you gave her the tingles so everything after that was her taking advantage of your generosity and naivety for free stuff. Going forward, remember that if a woman isn't having sex with you within a few dates she's friend zoned you permanently and you need to move on. I especially like how she blamed your lack of discussion about your personal life for not wanting to have sex with you. This is total nonsense and just her way of making her taking advantage of you for months all your fault. You need to run in the opposite direction.

Karma will get women like her in the end. Karma always keeps score. She may not get it today or next week, but karma will catch up with her when the time is right. She will never connect the two, she will play the victim but she won’t go unchecked.

 

[SW15]

A woman will absolutely string along a guy for months who showers her with gifts and great dates. She knew within a date or two if you gave her the tingles so everything after that was her taking advantage of your generosity and naivety for free stuff. Going forward, remember that if a woman isn't having sex with you within a few dates she's friend zoned you permanently and you need to move on. I especially like how she blamed your lack of discussion about your personal life for not wanting to have sex with you. This is total nonsense and just her way of making her taking advantage of you for months all your fault. You need to run in the opposite direction.

5 is around the maximum of dates for sex to typically happen. For me, I think I've gotten sex within the first 3 dates in my cases. A couple of people in my social circle waited longer than 5 dates for sex with their girlfriends (later wives), violating an Iron Rule of Tomassi. I was astounded to hear the waits that some people in my social circle had for sex. They got 5+ year relationships out of those waits.

 

[BadBoy89]

Recently, she broke up with me saying "You're a very cool, smart guy. You are very generous, knows how take care of a woman, you organized amazing dates, gifts. But spark is not there"

The reason she told me was that she tells a lot about her life to me, while i talk very little about my personal life. And she can't fell in love with me due to that.

A woman talking about her personal life has nothing to do with her falling in love, it has the opposite effect. The more time you spend with a woman without having sex, the less likely she will give in.

While she says i'm a perfect guy who takes her to best dates she has ever been to, give amazing gifts, etc (from her words).

I know that might sound stupid, and lots of guys gonna critize me. But is there a way to get her back?

To get her back? Well, you could contact her and ask her if you could “continue a relationship with her where you buy her gifts and she doesn’t give you sex.“

Remember men, if they don’t give you sex for your efforts, they are full of it. Apparently this girl got tired of being full of it after 6 months.

 

[Don732]

A woman talking about her personal life has nothing to do with her falling in love, it has the opposite effect. The more time you spend with a woman without having sex, the less likely she will give in.



To get her back? Well, you could contact her and ask her if you could “continue a relationship with her where you buy her gifts and she doesn’t give you sex.“

Remember men, if they don’t give you sex for your efforts, they are full of it. Apparently this girl got tired of being full of it after 6 months.

Thanks for reply! So basically even if i was sharing with her my perosnal life, past, etc. getting her more involved in my life, problems. It wouldn't have changed anything?

 

[member160292]

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Girl (27 y/o) acting hot and cold. No sex yet though

Have been dating this girl for 4 months, we kiss, hug, you pretty much name it and we do everything except sex. We been very close to have sex couple of times, but she breaks it off saying she is not ready yet. She says she only have sex while she in a relationship. But she is not ready for a...

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[Pierce Manhammer]

There’s nothing to see here folks, move along. That means you too OP. All you’re going to hear is what you have been repeatedly.

 

[Stoic]

No need to bring down Op any more.

Learn the lessons OP and move on.

Another firm lesson you need is you need to go after you want. You do need to present yourself as the sexual creature that you are. Not being thirsty, but just going after you want and then bowing out much earlier when the women isn’t reciprocating.

 

[Robert28]

Leave Karma out, she's just acting how a woman acts, stringing along weak guys? Accepting gifts without putting out? Having on dates while only giving kisses and hugs?

Women are a reflection of the men they with, she's just reflecting how weak and pathetic OP was with her. Don't blame the bee for stinging, that's what they do. And women are like that.

The only person in the wrong here is the one OP sees in the mirror.

Only immature low value women act like that. I’ve had plenty of women cut me loose when they weren’t interested instead of stringing me along and taking advantage of me.

 

[Mike32ct]

She’s just not attracted to you. She liked you as a person but didn’t want to F you. That’s friendzone in a nutshell. She’s just the wrong girl for you despite what “seemed” like a good connection to you on the surface.

You probably are reviewing the entire six months multiple times in your mind trying to think of that ONE thing you could have said or done differently. Don’t. Please don’t waste any more brain cells on it.

 

[corrector]

BS, I've had women who went to the church religiously, her parents religiously, her dad is a pastor, and I was fvcking her even in her room after meeting for a couple of dates.

Women will fvck, you just have to be the right guy.

Wow. Did you steal from the offering plate too?

 

[Robert28]

Women act as $hitty as you let them. Keep blaming women for your failures and you'll be stuck in the same place with the victim mentality.

Lol we aren’t talking about failures. At least I’m not. I was talking about taking advantage of someone who’s obviously interested in you and you aren’t in them but you use it to your advantage becsuse it’s convenient. That’s what mentally ill low value trash women do, like this woman. Not all women do this, most have the balls to tell you way beforehand they aren’t interested and you’re wasting your time, it doesn’t take them 6 months of mind games.

 

[LTG71]

A woman will absolutely string along a guy for months who showers her with gifts and great dates. She knew within a date or two if you gave her the tingles so everything after that was her taking advantage of your generosity and naivety for free stuff. Going forward, remember that if a woman isn't having sex with you within a few dates she's friend zoned you permanently and you need to move on. I especially like how she blamed your lack of discussion about your personal life for not wanting to have sex with you. This is total nonsense and just her way of making her taking advantage of you for months all your fault. You need to run in the opposite direction.

This is gold. She didn’t feel the tingles but wanted to see if they would develop over time…, I call bullish!t. This is some classic friendzone behavior. In the mean time, OP is putting in 150% while she gives 5%. She knew 5 minutes in that she didn’t want sex from him. But give up all his free attention and effort, that would be foolish. I love the how women roll like this. “He is an amazing guy. Kind and loving, very generous, treats me like gold, listens to me, he’s my rock….but”. But I really want to suck his buddy’s d!ck.

Live and learn. Forget going back and take it as a lesson. Regulate what you give to people. It should be a two-way exchange. She said you were a great guy, take that part and forget the rest. She just didn’t get the tingles. Find another woman that will appreciate you for more than free food.

 

[Dr.Suave]

Been dating this girl (27 y/o) for 6 months. Haven't had sex with her, she had only one boyfriend and she told me she only has sex during serious relationship. We were pretty close to having sex couple of times, but she break it off in the last minute. Whenever i brougt the topic that we should start officially dating and become a couple, she told me "she is not sure yet, and need more time". But she also was messaging, calling me first a lot of times. So i think interest was there.

Recently, she broke up with me saying "You're a very cool, smart guy. You are very generous, knows how take care of a woman, you organized amazing dates, gifts. But spark is not there"

While on one hand its ideal to find a girl with less than 5 notches, on the other hand I always avoided girls that have only had exactly 1 boyfriend/notch as I always thought there was a high probability of them being alpha-widowed.

She really pair-bonded with the guy. Now its gonna be really hard to pair-bond with someone else. You have to rise to the top of her Desdinova´s High Score List if you want a chance but its not so simple to compete with the 1st and only guy in the world who has had his d1ck inside her.

Here´s how to get her back: Get over her. You cant fake it, it has to be the real deal. If you really get over her, there´s a good chance she will come back. Ironically, you wont want her then.