A lot of software engineers are introvert, incel types. I actually had someone connect with me on OLD that sort of went a little cold when she found out what I did because of her previous interactions with those types. I pushed through and made it even more obvious that I was outgoing, not shy, masculine/dominant through my messages. She said a few times after a few dates that she couldn't believe that I was a software engineer because my personality wasn't anything like what they usually are. So yeah, the stigma is there... you just have to make sure that you break through the stereotype.