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I was originally going to post this in the Mature Man forum, but I think it would be of better use here. I borrowed some of the titles from a RoK article, but the descriptions are my own.
1. Don't take girls too seriously.
When I was younger (teens and early twenties), I took to heart some really hurtful stuff that in truth had nothing to do with me. Nothing a young girl says or does is really that important, and most of the time it is a reflection of her own chaotic emotions, insecurity, and even personality/mood disorders.
Take both compliments and insults with a grain of salt, an most importantly do not take any dating advice you receive from the opposite sex to heart. Consider it objectively, then make your own choice. They are usually wrong even if they are trying to help you.
2. Dont get so down on yourself as a young guy.
I really used to beat on myself mentally when I failed or got rejected. I let it get to me to the point I was clinically depressed. Today I realize I was dealing with selfish, horrendously insecure, unstable creatures who couldn't think their way out of a paper bag. I was way too hard on myself.
Now, I do acknowledge that my disgusting beta herbsim was partially to blame, and I think as a man you should always be taking personal inventory and ruthlessly working to correct your weaknesses and bad habits. But cut yourself some slack. It's a journey, not an overnight goal.
3. Don't try to argue or reason with them.
You'll lose. Not because you aren't intelligent and the more rational of the two, but you can't level with someone who isn't stable and level-headed to begin with. Let it go. Give yourself the gift of freedom.
4. Take them off that pedestal.
Do not, under penalty of death, EVER put a female on a pedestal, unless she is your own dear mother. When you get a bit older you realize that girls and women are imperfect people who sit down to poop just like you. They fvck up all the time, and half the time they don't even know what they want, much less what they need. Be a realist. Even that gorgeous HB 9 virgin you are crushing on has imperfections and poor ways of dealing with problems, and will tool you if you pedestalize her. Expect this, and be free.
5. Don't ever cry over spilled milk.
I'll let you guys in on a little secret: She's never "the one" at 19. Or 21. Or even 23. If it doesn't work out with a particular girl, MOVE ON. Do not be that guy who goes back to the garbage after it's been dragged to the curb. The effort and pain you will suffer to try and mend a screwed relationship will be far better spent meeting NEW girls who like you and gaining more experience. Remember---you can never go wrong by getting more experience with women. It's like currency you store away for yourself that builds a steady interest. When you are 30 you will be able to draw off of it comfortably, and make decisions like a boss.
1. Don't take girls too seriously.
When I was younger (teens and early twenties), I took to heart some really hurtful stuff that in truth had nothing to do with me. Nothing a young girl says or does is really that important, and most of the time it is a reflection of her own chaotic emotions, insecurity, and even personality/mood disorders.
Take both compliments and insults with a grain of salt, an most importantly do not take any dating advice you receive from the opposite sex to heart. Consider it objectively, then make your own choice. They are usually wrong even if they are trying to help you.
2. Dont get so down on yourself as a young guy.
I really used to beat on myself mentally when I failed or got rejected. I let it get to me to the point I was clinically depressed. Today I realize I was dealing with selfish, horrendously insecure, unstable creatures who couldn't think their way out of a paper bag. I was way too hard on myself.
Now, I do acknowledge that my disgusting beta herbsim was partially to blame, and I think as a man you should always be taking personal inventory and ruthlessly working to correct your weaknesses and bad habits. But cut yourself some slack. It's a journey, not an overnight goal.
3. Don't try to argue or reason with them.
You'll lose. Not because you aren't intelligent and the more rational of the two, but you can't level with someone who isn't stable and level-headed to begin with. Let it go. Give yourself the gift of freedom.
4. Take them off that pedestal.
Do not, under penalty of death, EVER put a female on a pedestal, unless she is your own dear mother. When you get a bit older you realize that girls and women are imperfect people who sit down to poop just like you. They fvck up all the time, and half the time they don't even know what they want, much less what they need. Be a realist. Even that gorgeous HB 9 virgin you are crushing on has imperfections and poor ways of dealing with problems, and will tool you if you pedestalize her. Expect this, and be free.
5. Don't ever cry over spilled milk.
I'll let you guys in on a little secret: She's never "the one" at 19. Or 21. Or even 23. If it doesn't work out with a particular girl, MOVE ON. Do not be that guy who goes back to the garbage after it's been dragged to the curb. The effort and pain you will suffer to try and mend a screwed relationship will be far better spent meeting NEW girls who like you and gaining more experience. Remember---you can never go wrong by getting more experience with women. It's like currency you store away for yourself that builds a steady interest. When you are 30 you will be able to draw off of it comfortably, and make decisions like a boss.
