Today, I have been thinking about the power of simple observation. Sometimes I put myself in zombie mode and forget to observe the world around me. I look but do I really look close enough? Take for instance the place you work; have you ever noticed how other guys act around the women they are working with? Better yet, have you noticed how the girls respond to these guys? I will tell you from my experience, most guys fall in the "friend zone" and dont even know it. They think they are one step closer to getting in their co-workers panties! We know we shouldnt "dip our pen in company's ink" but for some reason the consequences are not enough to reinforce our limitless sexualities. We talk about being the alpha male and what it means to do so. A-Unit does an excellent job of explaining what it is do be the alpha but do some of us actually display these dominant traits? In the animal kingdom, the alpha is always the first of the pack to make a new trail or lead the way. So why do all the males act the same cowardly way everytime they are interacting with women? They act all the same! Where is the alpha at? Lets break out some scenarios to see where these guys have went wrong:
1. Following a girl around like a lost puppy dog.
This is pathetic and I see it all the time. These guys are always asking where this girl is at so he can be around her every chance he gets. He flocks to her like flies on a freshly sqouzen shiit. This behavoir is not only needy and desperate but also a major turn-off. If you do this, you are consequently following the herd and landing yourself in the friends zone. Some of you may envy guys that are doing this and think because they are hanging out with this girl all the time, that they have the advantage. WRONG, they are friends and most will never get to taste her pvssy, ever! She strings them along like puppets and whenever she needs an ET (emotional tampon) or a favor, these guys fill the supplicating role. Yes you will hear about them hanging out and doing things but you can be sure they are not doing things to her! They are only boosting her self-esteem. Girls will also try to do this to display "social proof" or they think that you will want them more if they have lots of guys hanging off them, stand out above the rest! Dont be a pawn, like Pook says "be a king!'
2. Putting others down in front of a potential hottie.
This shows that you have major insecurities and that you have to try to one-up a guy to prove that you are better than him. This is a form of ****-blocking that reeks with insecurity and makes you look pathetic. It also says that you are intimidated by other men and that you need to throw a low blow to undermine this threat. This does about the equivalent of bragging about yourself, chicks dont care and it shows that you are weak! weak=beta not alpha.
3. Stupid fairy-tale innuedos.
Let me explain, saying to a girl that is committed, that you and her are going to run away together and get married.
These come off as not only desperate but LAME. Quit thinking that she is going to magically run off with you and leave her husband/bfs! This hinting around that she'll sleep with you or that "youll run away together" is nothing but a frivolous pursuit. Focus your energies elsewhere. She knows what your doing and it comes off as needy. I dont know where some guys learned this, I see it all the time and it gets them nowhere.
4. False perception
This one is a deciever. This is when you read verbal signs from a girl and think she is into you. Just because a girl talks to you or laughs or smiles at you does not mean she wants to sleep with you. If she is nice to you, so what? If she displays a high level of comfort around you, dont think it is because she likes you necessarily. In many cases a girl that is totally herself around you and treats you like all the others, usually means that she doesnt like you in that oh so special way, hence the comfort level. We are comfortable around our friends too. So if she acts a little standoffish, nervous, or snotty to you but not too others, she may have a thing for you. The key here is to look and see how she treats you versus everyone else, OBSERVE. Are you different from the rest of the schmucks? Action is value, words are just that, words. If she SHOWS you certain actions like wearing perfume only when your around or looking real good only when she knows she'll see you, or finding ways to creep into your life somehow, then she likes you. See if they go out of there way for you, and dont listen to her words explaining the action. Usually her actions will be very subtle and make it so she uses some other purpose to validate her reasoning to be around you.
5. Brown nosing her (and not in the good way : )
Look, if a girl wants to repeatedly tell you a bunch of emotional garbage about herself, her boyfriend/husband, her looks, then have the ballz to just walk away or find some excuse to leave. All this is negative energy and you dont want to be related to it in anyway. Its ok to listen to her problems and respond being playful, teasing, and funny. But dont sit there and repeatedly take her trash out for her. Its not only a waste of your time but it makes you look like your her friend, its a supplicating role nonetheless, so dont do it! If you first met her and she does it, than thats fine. But if youve known this girl for a longtime at work or whatever and she just keeps talking about herself and never inquires about you ever, than she is just an AW, leave that shiit alone! If you cant help but being in the vicinity of her while she is spewing diarrhea from her mouth, just turn her off and dont look at her or keep breaking eye-contact with her and say stuff like "oh yea" like your not really paying attention, this will make her see you as different and unfazed by her magnetism.
Its been said many times before but I will reiterate because it is important. There is no one method to score. You can only gain insight and gain valuable perception of whats going on around you. This is why awareness is so important. If you dont know the game, you cant defend yourself. You dont have to be a PUA, you just have to know how to counteract all the bs. It amazes me everyday the shiit chicks pull on us, in a way its very unfair that we have a bunch of psychics running around predicting our everymove, so show them that you are unpredictable and that you are different. That you FOLLOW NO ONE! Follow your heart and stay true to yourself. I have learned invaluable knowledge from this site and I learn everyday. I also think it is important to share with each other our experiences and what works and what doesnt work. Once we sift through all the bs that chicks dish out, we can become more aware and defend ourselves. Lets turn the tables for once.
1. Following a girl around like a lost puppy dog.
This is pathetic and I see it all the time. These guys are always asking where this girl is at so he can be around her every chance he gets. He flocks to her like flies on a freshly sqouzen shiit. This behavoir is not only needy and desperate but also a major turn-off. If you do this, you are consequently following the herd and landing yourself in the friends zone. Some of you may envy guys that are doing this and think because they are hanging out with this girl all the time, that they have the advantage. WRONG, they are friends and most will never get to taste her pvssy, ever! She strings them along like puppets and whenever she needs an ET (emotional tampon) or a favor, these guys fill the supplicating role. Yes you will hear about them hanging out and doing things but you can be sure they are not doing things to her! They are only boosting her self-esteem. Girls will also try to do this to display "social proof" or they think that you will want them more if they have lots of guys hanging off them, stand out above the rest! Dont be a pawn, like Pook says "be a king!'
2. Putting others down in front of a potential hottie.
This shows that you have major insecurities and that you have to try to one-up a guy to prove that you are better than him. This is a form of ****-blocking that reeks with insecurity and makes you look pathetic. It also says that you are intimidated by other men and that you need to throw a low blow to undermine this threat. This does about the equivalent of bragging about yourself, chicks dont care and it shows that you are weak! weak=beta not alpha.
3. Stupid fairy-tale innuedos.
Let me explain, saying to a girl that is committed, that you and her are going to run away together and get married.
These come off as not only desperate but LAME. Quit thinking that she is going to magically run off with you and leave her husband/bfs! This hinting around that she'll sleep with you or that "youll run away together" is nothing but a frivolous pursuit. Focus your energies elsewhere. She knows what your doing and it comes off as needy. I dont know where some guys learned this, I see it all the time and it gets them nowhere.
4. False perception
This one is a deciever. This is when you read verbal signs from a girl and think she is into you. Just because a girl talks to you or laughs or smiles at you does not mean she wants to sleep with you. If she is nice to you, so what? If she displays a high level of comfort around you, dont think it is because she likes you necessarily. In many cases a girl that is totally herself around you and treats you like all the others, usually means that she doesnt like you in that oh so special way, hence the comfort level. We are comfortable around our friends too. So if she acts a little standoffish, nervous, or snotty to you but not too others, she may have a thing for you. The key here is to look and see how she treats you versus everyone else, OBSERVE. Are you different from the rest of the schmucks? Action is value, words are just that, words. If she SHOWS you certain actions like wearing perfume only when your around or looking real good only when she knows she'll see you, or finding ways to creep into your life somehow, then she likes you. See if they go out of there way for you, and dont listen to her words explaining the action. Usually her actions will be very subtle and make it so she uses some other purpose to validate her reasoning to be around you.
5. Brown nosing her (and not in the good way : )
Look, if a girl wants to repeatedly tell you a bunch of emotional garbage about herself, her boyfriend/husband, her looks, then have the ballz to just walk away or find some excuse to leave. All this is negative energy and you dont want to be related to it in anyway. Its ok to listen to her problems and respond being playful, teasing, and funny. But dont sit there and repeatedly take her trash out for her. Its not only a waste of your time but it makes you look like your her friend, its a supplicating role nonetheless, so dont do it! If you first met her and she does it, than thats fine. But if youve known this girl for a longtime at work or whatever and she just keeps talking about herself and never inquires about you ever, than she is just an AW, leave that shiit alone! If you cant help but being in the vicinity of her while she is spewing diarrhea from her mouth, just turn her off and dont look at her or keep breaking eye-contact with her and say stuff like "oh yea" like your not really paying attention, this will make her see you as different and unfazed by her magnetism.
Its been said many times before but I will reiterate because it is important. There is no one method to score. You can only gain insight and gain valuable perception of whats going on around you. This is why awareness is so important. If you dont know the game, you cant defend yourself. You dont have to be a PUA, you just have to know how to counteract all the bs. It amazes me everyday the shiit chicks pull on us, in a way its very unfair that we have a bunch of psychics running around predicting our everymove, so show them that you are unpredictable and that you are different. That you FOLLOW NO ONE! Follow your heart and stay true to yourself. I have learned invaluable knowledge from this site and I learn everyday. I also think it is important to share with each other our experiences and what works and what doesnt work. Once we sift through all the bs that chicks dish out, we can become more aware and defend ourselves. Lets turn the tables for once.
