4 year relationship (violence abuse but she's hot)

[Flashguy]

She's 25 Iam 27 started off like a pro with her things were going well good sex fun to be around , but cracks started to appear when she's drunk she causes arguments gets personal and stupidly sometimes I react and she will lash out , I've only ever restrained her she has hit me thrown drink at me thrown anything at me only when she's drunk I seriously think she has got issues I like her but don't know what to do!!?

There's been a few issues in the past We split up and she went to meet her ex boyfriend the next day ....... I met mine in retaliation but never told her this , she then rings me and we got back together and 9 times out of ten she's fine when she drinks, I have my own place and drive she lives at home with her mum who hates me and won't let me in her house because of every time we have ever had an argument she will run home to mummy and make me out to be the big bad wolf , she's a 5 without makeup and a 9.0 with makeup

Recently when she is not with me she will text me blaming me for saying things to make her violent ive basically played this well as I will completely blame her and not accept any guilt I know she is still into me as the number one guy and I know I could have nearly any women I want cause I got my shlt together looks wise and car place etc.....

The point is I want to just be able to just move on but for some reason I can't I don't know if I love her but I love banging her but there's so many mood swings and *bltch* fits that come with that . Don't want the aggro

 

[zinc4]

Wow...sounds just like my ex wife...dump her...she will never change and violence and abuse is nothing to play around with...she WILL drag you into a world of trouble and destroy your sense of self....dump her and go NC if you value your future...just do it and don't look back and thank me later...doesn't matter how hot she is...

 

[Flashguy]

Don't you think I should line another hot one up?? As the thought of anyone else with her would be slightly annoying especially if I wasn't balancing some hottie on my balls at the time,

 

[Flashguy]

Just to add : she was sexually assaulted before we met not raped just attempt and got a pay out from that which she spent some of on me .... And has never let me live it down throws it in my face every argument even though I have paid her back a million times over.....

When I pick her up I sit in the car outside while her younger sister looser immigrant mongrel boy freind is allowed in ....

I need to know how I can dump her without her seriously ****ig me up as she has had me arrested before after she was violent .... She would be the type to do some serious **** to get me either physically or jail time fckd

 

[Flashguy]

Zinc4 thanks for advice it's so haaaard though and I know there might be comebacks if I just went completely n c on her she's a psycho

 

[betheman]

Just to add : she was sexually assaulted before we met not raped just attempt and got a pay out from that which she spent some of on me .... And has never let me live it down throws it in my face every argument even though I have paid her back a million times over.....

When I pick her up I sit in the car outside while her younger sister looser immigrant mongrel boy freind is allowed in ....

I need to know how I can dump her without her seriously ****ig me up as she has had me arrested before after she was violent .... She would be the type to do some serious **** to get me either physically or jail time fckd

Im trying to figure out who the real crazy b1tch is in this 'relationship'!

you have been together 4 years and she doesnt let you in the house when you pick her up?
yeah, she might cry rape/abuse etc etc, get all your stuff and get away from the crazy, if you dont, you must be nuts yourself

 

[HalfPUAHalfAFC]

Every guy on here is going to tell you to get out NOW. They are right. You should listen to them, or end up dead or in jail. The collective experience here is invaluable.

That said, having read these boards for a while, you'll not do it. You come up with excuse after excuse not to pull the trigger immediately. You already are, in fact, making excuses to do what needs to be done.

So, you'll fail. Then come back either for more advice or with an apologetic "you were right" post.

Grow some testicles. Be a self-respecting man. Do it. Do it now. Get out.

Somewhere down the road, when you have a clearer perspective, you'll realize it was the best thing you ever did.

 

[Flashguy]

Every guy on here is going to tell you to get out NOW. They are right. You should listen to them, or end up dead or in jail. The collective experience here is invaluable.

That said, having read these boards for a while, you'll not do it. You come up with excuse after excuse not to pull the trigger immediately. You already are, in fact, making excuses to do what needs to be done.

So, you'll fail. Then come back either for more advice or with an apologetic "you were right" post.

Grow some testicles. Be a self-respecting man. Do it. Do it now. Get out.

Somewhere down the road, when you have a clearer perspective, you'll realize it was the best thing you ever did.

Iam moving house in a month and am and will pull the trigger

I appreciate the advice but its so easy for people to say things on here without being emotionally attached or knowing how it feels inside to be in this situation even as we speak receiving texts that are argumentative but with kisses at the end I know the right thing to do and I guess your right it's about kahunas

Iam more needing advice how to make it as painless as possible I.e lining a new hottie up?

 

[pdx1138]

I appreciate the advice but its so easy for people to say things on here without being emotionally attached or knowing how it feels inside to be in this situation

Most of us HAVE been in that situation and as painful as it would be to have to do it...it MUST be done.

I went through something similar 2 years ago. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I'm a better
person now. We all need to go through it at least once, so we don't ever again.

After you heal from it, you'll truly understand it was the right thing to do.

 

[zekko]

she's a 5 without makeup and a 9.0 with makeup

That's not possible.

 

[Purefilth]

Most of us HAVE been in that situation and as painful as it would be to have to do it...it MUST be done.

I went through something similar 2 years ago. It was the hardest thing I've ever done, but I'm a better
person now. We all need to go through it at least once, so we don't ever again.

After you heal from it, you'll truly understand it was the right thing to do.

THIS^^^
most of the guys who give advice only give it based on their own life experiences - when you get a chorus of "GET OUT NOW!!!!" Best believe its because many know the storm youre going through - and the others can see its JUST PLAIN WRONG!

Noone says dropping 4 year relationships was easy, but theres threads dedicated to helping you recover (see NC sticky).

she's a 5 without makeup and a 9.0 with makeup

That's not possible.

He's right. Thats NOT possible, mr. rose coloured glasses.








WHY DO SO MANY THREADS HAVE THE EXCUSE "but she's hot...."


SO? Get over her genetics already - SHE IS TOXIC AND DISRESPECTFUL -


Get over her looks especially if she's a closet warpig - no way she is hot enough for you to have to deal with all this S H I T

You need to get some self-respect. No wonder she treats you like her B I T C H!!








Peace.

 

[BeDJ]

That's not possible.

Unless she is Korean...Some of us have taken the morning after Red pill.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

This advice will likely sound a bit harsh, but its coming from a good place, so know that because I'm not trying to hate on you, I'm trying to wake you up so you can see what's really going on.
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This is just a sad @ss situation.

One because the OP completely realizes that this chick is whacked 3 sides to Sunday and continues to deal with her shiat because he's sprung on her pu$$y.

Don't EVER let pu$$y determine what you should or shouldn't do.... EVER!

There are two reasons why you don't have the ballz to walk away from this situation.


1) Lack of options: If you were actively spinning plates, and had 3-4 other mentally stable, sexually available girls who were interested in you, do you really think you would put an energy into this 5, who magically morphs into a 9 with pounds of make up? Or were you two busy letting her punch you?

2) Lack of self respect: Anyone with self respect would say enough is enough regardless of how good the shexx is. If you truly respected yourself you would have realized right off the bat that all she ever SHOULD have been was a girl you bang on the side here and there.

Work on yourself first..... unless you learn to love and respect yourself you will constantly attract this gutter trash.

You are enabling her behavior simply by being with her. And by communicating that its okay for her to get hammered and get violent, you are telling her that is acceptable behavior since there is no REAL consequence for her actions.

If you truly care about her and aren't just about the booty you will drop her and work on yourself.

And although I've never been with a girl who was violent, I def have dated some crazzzzzzy @ss byatches over the years and unless you can control your emotions, you aren't the right person to know how to deal with these types.








PIMP

 

[ScottMustaine]

If you stay she will one day go and accuse you of rape or something and you wil lend up in jail. Or killed or something.

BPD man. BPD. Get out dude. The show should be over. And get more girls.

 

[AriMamba]

You think it makes you a man talking bad about immigrants?

 

[Flashguy]

Thanks for all the replys would say there's a lot of truth in there .... The only part I've left out is I've schlonged every hot bird I've ever met while being with her and even a girl at the end of my road it just doesn't feel the same as with this girl though...... No jokes on the violence I run things with us in every other way In our relationship ...... One of the big things I've missed out is when we do argue is I do say a lot of hurtful stuf about her and her family no excuse I knw but evens it up slightly .... Being a boxer by trade I can take a lil ***** slap now and again to say the least

 

[Flashguy]

And ari camba when did I talk bad of immigrants .... Maybe you and your immigrant freinds should learn to read and understand the queens English before commenting. I don't like her sisters mongrel immigrant boyfriend is what I said . Simples .

 

[ScottMustaine]

He's trolling you Flash. Don't feed the troll.