Hi,
I'm facing a strange issue. I have an office colleague who's a 9 and has all men ass kissing her. She's already cheating on her husband as I found out the name of the guy recently. She's emotionally connected to me and likes spending lot of time with me. I call her sweet names like sweety and sweet heart and many more. She says it's flirting and it will affect our friendship and keeps maintaining friendship. When I said sweet heart once, she exclaimed oh you saying sweet heart and once when I called her moon, she asked me if I can do it infront of my wife and I said yes.
One day she told me that she met a professor in a community college and he was the perfect man she ever encountered but he was a guest lecturer. She also told me that someone who's married told her I love you and that person belonged to the same community I belong to. This lady belongs to a different religion altogether.
Another time, I simply told her when another 40 year old woman friend of ours (both of them know each other) was flirting with me, I said I don't date 40 year old women. This lady took it offensively a couple of days back and told me I should not have told like that. Today, she brought up that topic and told me that I'm confused and I took revenge on our common 40-year old lady friend but I dismissed it as the context was different.
This lady and I met three times for coffee on the pretext of getting into some TRAINING business but it was bull, now when I call her out she says there's no personal thing between us and it's okay to discuss in the office. I said I can't and she finally agreed to come out. Still, when I call her with sweet names she's all fine and dandy.
A week back I gave a sex survey to her to read and she read it and gave it back to me. I also told her that as part of our training business we should offer sex courses to some people and she said she does not have any issues with that as long as I find the right audience. In our next meeting in the coffee shop, she brought up this issue of sex training again.
By playing up the game, looks like she's also confused or I might have confused her. Can someone tell me how to take it to the next level?
I'm 41 years old and I have a question to those who replied. Why would she entertain me saying sweetheart, sweety and darling?
I'm facing a strange issue. I have an office colleague who's a 9 and has all men ass kissing her. She's already cheating on her husband as I found out the name of the guy recently. She's emotionally connected to me and likes spending lot of time with me. I call her sweet names like sweety and sweet heart and many more. She says it's flirting and it will affect our friendship and keeps maintaining friendship. When I said sweet heart once, she exclaimed oh you saying sweet heart and once when I called her moon, she asked me if I can do it infront of my wife and I said yes.
One day she told me that she met a professor in a community college and he was the perfect man she ever encountered but he was a guest lecturer. She also told me that someone who's married told her I love you and that person belonged to the same community I belong to. This lady belongs to a different religion altogether.
Another time, I simply told her when another 40 year old woman friend of ours (both of them know each other) was flirting with me, I said I don't date 40 year old women. This lady took it offensively a couple of days back and told me I should not have told like that. Today, she brought up that topic and told me that I'm confused and I took revenge on our common 40-year old lady friend but I dismissed it as the context was different.
This lady and I met three times for coffee on the pretext of getting into some TRAINING business but it was bull, now when I call her out she says there's no personal thing between us and it's okay to discuss in the office. I said I can't and she finally agreed to come out. Still, when I call her with sweet names she's all fine and dandy.
A week back I gave a sex survey to her to read and she read it and gave it back to me. I also told her that as part of our training business we should offer sex courses to some people and she said she does not have any issues with that as long as I find the right audience. In our next meeting in the coffee shop, she brought up this issue of sex training again.
By playing up the game, looks like she's also confused or I might have confused her. Can someone tell me how to take it to the next level?
I'm 41 years old and I have a question to those who replied. Why would she entertain me saying sweetheart, sweety and darling?
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