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[tamales]

Talk about brief! For me this is short. WHen a guy says, call me, email me sweetie, or do whatever... if a girl has her game on should she.. or make him work a little. COme on DJ's give some input here. This is a new guy and he is as far as I can see a real player. I thought about just emailing him as he requested and saying, "well, I would gladly send you a juicy email if you first tell me why I should..." I know it's playing games but hey, a new romance and games can be fun. It's the best stage in a romance, don't you think. Why rush it... Maybe silly but I sometimes wonder if a women being a challenge is more attractive then one that is not. I mean on here it seems if she plays games, acts hard to get, you have better things to do. But I have to think that the game and back and forth is fun. I dunno?

Challenge or not? WHat attracts you all. Not those looking just to get laid, okay

 

[RazzleDazzle]

Are you interested in him? Obviously, but email, call, whatever with him you want. What if he isn't a player? What if he is nice and sweet and all that crap?

That's why you should email him and see what he does after that. No games, games are for amatuers and women with nothing better to do. Don't be one of those, just enjoy and see what kind of person he is. You don't have to screw him in one night or something. Nice and slow, works for love making (i know from experience) and it works in dating too. Keeps you from falling for the wrong person (done this too dam it.).

good luck.

 

[Eternal]

If guys wanted to play a game, we'd buy a Monopoly board. Call him in a few days though...but be warned...

 

[RazzleDazzle]

I'm attracted to intelligence, wit, personality, and beauty. She doesn't have to be the prettiest but come on, you have to be able to look at her. I like personality because, well, it lasts.

 

[xblitz44x]

Challenge does not attract. Period. When a guy likes you and is REALLY into you, all that challenge will do is give him reason to believe that he is doing something wrong, or that he's not showing you that he is into you enough - so he comes on stronger because he thinks you're too stupid to realize that he really does like you. So it 'appears' like he cares more when really all he's doing is displaying it more out of desperation. It does NOTHING but stroke your ego. We do it because it feels good and comfortable to see that we are desired. It does nothing to control the attraction and can only mess things up. The guy could easily give up in frustration and consciously stop himself from trying because you're not giving the same effort back and he doesn't want to get burned. Be real, be you. Either he'll love it or he won't.

-Blitz

 

[516]

Hmmm I personally think that a chick who is a challenge is more appealing to me. As a general rule, people want what they can't have. If you "play" with him a little, tease him a little, he will want you that much more. But be careful not to over-do it, cuz he will give up if you are being TOO much of a challenge.

 

[Bonhomme]

Be just enough of a challenge

A woman being a bit of a challenge makes her more attractive to me, but if she makes herself too scarce, the novely wears off, and I write her off on account of my having a life.

She has to show some interst, or she's out -- regardless of what she feels.

As for your idea, I would find it difficult to respond to something like that without coming across as arrogant, i.e., "because I know you're hot for me..."

If he's a real player he probably has a lot of others on the line anyway, and will probably go for the one he finds hottest who he thinks is a solid prospect -- without passing up the others.

 

[tamales]

Gee thanks guys! I mean it. No slams even Anyhoo, this guy knows I like him or at leat that I have the hots for him. I try and hide it but I just can't so I thougt teasing a little might help. I was trying to be C&F but hard to do. LOL.. Add a little spice, was what I wanted. I don't know him that well, but from what I do know he is a player but I know he has the hots for me too. Mainly attraction at this point. Nothing more. THanks tho. I sincerely appreciate it. We'll see. At least I am keeping busy. And well, I won't put my eggs in one basket. Learned that lesson the hard way. Thump on head.

Thanks!

Tamales

PS Yeah, I said I left, LOL but lately, I could use this place. Hope ya's understand.

 

[DreamyChick]

Hey Tamales PM me sometime soon please.

 

[STR8UP]

Re: Be just enough of a challenge

Originally posted by Bonhomme
A woman being a bit of a challenge makes her more attractive to me, but if she makes herself too scarce, the novely wears off, and I write her off on account of my having a life.

Yup, yup. I'm pretty impatient. If the woman doesn't reciprocate early on I got better things to do.

Maybe it's a character flaw of mine. But you never know who you are dealing with when you first meet someone, he could be just like me.

Aside from that he shouldn't have left the ball in your court this early on in the first place. I learned that lesson the hard way.

 

[Dee-Zy]

Oh my god - I hardly understood a word you said.

but if I go by that last line u wrote - definitely challenge. What's easy to grab is boring because EVERYBODY can and people doesn't really like to be[/b] like everybody. People wants to feel better then the mass - to feel unique and special.

GHOST