I'll be honest, given the severity of your case, I wouldn't discount the option of a call girl, at least to pop your cherry. I wouldn't normally recommend that, but if nothing else it will show you that sex is supposed to be an enjoyable thing to look foward to, not a milestone to fret over. Once you've had it, and in a no-pressure sort of way like that, you'll want more and more, and you'll do what it takes to get it however you need to. I know it sounds stupid, and I know most of the people here would disagree with it, but just take it into consideration. It's a drastic measure, but 30yo and no nookie is a drastic situation.
Other routes would be to get slightly tipsy (if you have to) and find the hottest girl you can find and just try to chat her up. Go in expecting her to blow you off, that way if she does, you're not disappointed and after that, chatting up every other girl that isn't as hot as the first one will seem easier and easier, but if she doesn't blow you off, well, score and a half for you.....
I did that with this gnarly hot redhead (HB9.8) I used to see all of the time. She smoked out in front of the place I used to work, and one day I saw her walking past the door, so I went outside and asked her for a light. She handed me matches and when it was too windy to light my Lucky with them, I just pulled a Zippo out of my pocket and used that, all with her watching. This was before I was really comfortable approaching girls, and it took every ounce of balls I had to do it, but I managed it. We went out a few times and talked everyday I was at work, and while I never ended up banging her, it was still a huge ego boost to be "in" with a girl that hot. After that talking to 6/7/8s was ten times easier, because if the 9.8 was that receptive, then surely these girls would be.
