2nd date - how to go for the kiss?

[wonderer]

Had a drinks date and went well, good conversation, was CF, made her laugh, lots of kino - holding hands for long periods of time, hand on thigh, elbow, shoulder, she would hold my hand, put her hand on my knee, out legs were constantly touching. Walked her back to hers however no kiss, I did try but dont think she noticed. She texted me straight after the date, Ive been busy so will reply tomorrow afternoon.

Are there any tips/routines for a kiss on the second date? I don't want to get friend-zoned.

Should it be natural, or should I say something like "I could kiss you right now"

 

[devilkingx2]

sounds like she'd let you kiss her so just go for it whenever you get the chance(meaning not at obviously inopportune moments, but unless it's blatantly a bad time then it's probably a good time), as long as the kiss isn't too sudden and doesn't' completely surprise her you can say whatever you want and it'll be fine

 

[Trump]

Had a drinks date and went well, good conversation, was CF, made her laugh, lots of kino - holding hands for long periods of time, hand on thigh, elbow, shoulder, she would hold my hand, put her hand on my knee, out legs were constantly touching. Walked her back to hers however no kiss, I did try but dont think she noticed. She texted me straight after the date, Ive been busy so will reply tomorrow afternoon.

Are there any tips/routines for a kiss on the second date? I don't want to get friend-zoned.

Should it be natural, or should I say something like "I could kiss you right now"

Don't worry about how to go for a kiss. By the time you respond to her text she'll be pregnant from her ex.

Can I kiss you right now? No bro, don't do that. Asking for permission to get physical affection from a girl you want to sleep is the worst thing you can do. It should be natural, not forced.

 

[dustmuffin]

Just kiss her. Kino is going good......Just do it. I don't understand how a lot of guys are so shy. I am an introvert but when it comes to women I take action. I know what I need to do and do it.

Don't ask her, Don't think about it.....Just do it.....

 

[marmel75]

Just kiss her. Kino is going good......Just do it. I don't understand how a lot of guys are so shy. I am an introvert but when it comes to women I take action. I know what I need to do and do it.

Don't ask her, Don't think about it.....Just do it.....

Exactly...way too many guys are acting like kissing and fvcking are things they have to trick women into doing instead of things they love to do...

 

[Bible_Belt]

The old trick is to touch her hair first. If your hand is on her head, she will feel you lean in to kiss her, and know you are coming. That keeps you from just awkwardly lunging at her face-first.

 

[Fireballs]

Try and do it mid date .. trust your instincts - you will know when the time is right but don't hesitate ..

 

[dustmuffin]

Not to women it isn't. To them if you try to kiss when they don't want it its date over if not worse.

That's fine. Then you won't waste anymore time on them.....kiss rejection.....move along....

 

[dustmuffin]

Obviously you are wrong because all women just want to kiss and **** the hot players.

No he is right. You are new. Why don't you read the dj bible and learn something. You are 45. I'm 52. One year ago I found this community. It has changed my life. It can change yours too.

 

[wonderer]

Right went on the second date - no kiss. Was t as good as the first, we went for coffee then a walk, she wanted to sit 90 degree to me at coffee but they wouldn't let us do to the fire escape, this made a big difference to kino. she was playing the whole time with her hair and also touching me, I was kino'ing but not as hard as first date. We then went for a walk - she doesn't seem to like to hold hands which was the same as the first date. But she didn't link my arm this time.

She wants to go on another date to the cinema. I'm annoyed with myself that I haven't kissed her yet....

Gunna add that she's 18 next week(I'm 25), don't know if that makes a difference or not

 

[Igetit!]

Right went on the second date - no kiss. Was t as good as the first, we went for coffee then a walk, she wanted to sit 90 degree to me at coffee but they wouldn't let us do to the fire escape, this made a big difference to kino. she was playing the whole time with her hair and also touching me, I was kino'ing but not as hard as first date. We then went for a walk - she doesn't seem to like to hold hands which was the same as the first date. But she didn't link my arm this time.

She wants to go on another date to the cinema.

Well it's a good sign that she wants to go on a third date,but dude.......you're gonna have to make a move......you are GOING TO HAVE TO go for the kiss. In your first post,you said you don't want to get friendzoned.

Well you're headed that way. You can already sense a slight shift in her,by her not wanting to link arms like before.

I got a date with this one chick in another 6 hours....(11am,central time). We kissed on the first date,by the 2nd we were making out and I had my hands all over her boobs. You need to get on the ball man. I'm pretty sure she's wondering what the hold up is.

I'm annoyed with myself that I haven't kissed her yet....

Well what's the hold up? Why are you hesitating? You DO realize that the longer you wait,the more difficult it will be to try to initiate the kiss....right? You'd been better off going for the kiss and getting turned down.....rejection is better than regret.

Kinda like baseball. I'd rather swing at the ball and miss than just stand there,let a good pitch go by,and have the ump call it a strike. At least you have a chance by swinging.

Gunna add that she's 18 next week(I'm 25), don't know if that makes a difference or not

The only difference her being younger might make is she might be less patient in waiting for you to man up and go for what you AND SHE may both want.

 

[Reykhel]

Right went on the second date - no kiss. Was t as good as the first, we went for coffee then a walk, she wanted to sit 90 degree to me at coffee but they wouldn't let us do to the fire escape, this made a big difference to kino. she was playing the whole time with her hair and also touching me, I was kino'ing but not as hard as first date. We then went for a walk - she doesn't seem to like to hold hands which was the same as the first date. But she didn't link my arm this time.

She wants to go on another date to the cinema. I'm annoyed with myself that I haven't kissed her yet....

Gunna add that she's 18 next week(I'm 25), don't know if that makes a difference or not

You're probably thinking about it too much....and she's picking it up from your sub communications (awkward vibe)

Here's a go to: Imagine she has an eyelash which has just fallen below her eye....go in to remove it saying
"ooh you've got something" and move into her personal space with your thumb know touching where the
eyelash "would be"........this is an act of familiarity.........which you need to assume with all women that your with.....
(...if not, you end up keeping distance and she's reminded by the vibe that you are strangers....)

.....look her in the eyes, which will be very close eye contact by now, glance down at her lips and back to her eyes.....
if she doesn't move into you right there for the kiss.....(which they should most of the time) you move in and kiss her....

......voila....

if she turns her head (no kiss after 3 dates!!!!) I would take an L.........seek other options...........

 

[blind_one]

All good advice. While you are sitting in a lounge setting and she comes back from the toilet pull her in closer with your hand on her shoulder/back. Your thighs are then preferably touching. You could use your other hand to playfuly tuck her hair behind her ear. I've heard/read a long time ago that is signals familiarity and safety from people childhood as our parents used to do that, plus if she lets you its fair game. You just wanted to see her earrings if she acts all pissy.
In that position you could also smell her hair/neck just for the hell of it, bonus points if she smells really good
I love when a girls hair smell like coconut, its like kryptonite hehe

 

[wonderer]

Thanks guys. On our walk she would stop and we would talk standing, I would open myself up and invade her personal space and attempt to look in her eyes but she would then walk away.

I like the eyelash idea and will try it! Went on our date yesterday and I am working all next week so can only see her tomorrow, unfortunately two dates quite close together, wanted to give time for scarcity but guess its not the best timing for that anyway!

Gunna go with the cinema date idea she wants, think its better than a date which includes walking as I haven't been able to kino, I could whisper in her ear, hand on leg, etc.

What do you guys think?

 

[wonderer]

Actually I'm not going to submit and do what she wants and let her control the frame - ill do something I want instead and will invite her now.