I met an amazingly hot woman that comes to work once a week. I asked her out ( I know, bad) and she wasnt single so we decided to be friends, but there was clear interest. A few weeks later she dumps her bf of 4 yrs and we are making out less than a week later. (the 4yr relationship was failing obviously) We had a few dates and amazing hours long make out sessions that let to a sleepover and 3rd base. I went a bit AFC on her and told her I was falling for her and she seemed to recoil a bit but came back. She later started to talk about things moving to fast (because they def were) but she didnt want to break up. I tried to back off a bit but the damage was done. She decided to ljbf me after three months saying that it was too soon and she doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone because she missed her bf. I played it cool, didnt act all weird, and became a friend (a rebound friend). This even went so far as to go to her parents for thanksgiving (and her folks def love me). She bought me a bday cake and we kept in friendly and mildly flirty contact.
This has been four months later and she still mildly flirts with me every so often at work, but nowhere near what we used to. Ive been helping her advance her career and let myself slide into the friend zone even further (flowers when she got sick, text every 3 days or so initiated by both). However, we really havent hung out much aside from a single friendly dinner date where we split the bill. about a month ago I spoke with her on the phone once to try to reconnect and it blew up in my face. She knew what I was up to and reiterated that im such a good friend and she isnt ready to get into any kind of relationship, long or short term, and what we had was good times but bad timing and that if I wanted to I could talk to her about girls and that I would find someone someday that I will click with like we did. Clearly this was a low point for me.
The kicker is that things have ever so slightly changed since then. My career prospects have changed drastically as I am an MD and I got residency secured about 45 min away from here. I hve been able to help secure a job for her as my replacement for when I leave (big big deal for her). I started to play coed pickup soccer and met some new people, got tanner. Ive kicked up kino after a long dry spell and she didnt seem to mind all that much, and seemed to escalate slightly (bumping, "accidental" prolonged boob contact init by her, playful pushing, brief neck rub). All of this is great but its not anywhere near what it was in the beginning. She started making comments in front of me that imply she is ready to be in a relationship "I need to find a husband (jokingly)" on the same day that she asked me if I would ever get married in Vegas (she said she wouldnt btw).
I have about 3.5 months till I have to leave and I will see her sparingly throughout most of this time. Although I will be training her in June for 2 weeks so I will see EVERY day then. after that im moving 45 min away (essentially the same city though)
What do I do with this?
This has been four months later and she still mildly flirts with me every so often at work, but nowhere near what we used to. Ive been helping her advance her career and let myself slide into the friend zone even further (flowers when she got sick, text every 3 days or so initiated by both). However, we really havent hung out much aside from a single friendly dinner date where we split the bill. about a month ago I spoke with her on the phone once to try to reconnect and it blew up in my face. She knew what I was up to and reiterated that im such a good friend and she isnt ready to get into any kind of relationship, long or short term, and what we had was good times but bad timing and that if I wanted to I could talk to her about girls and that I would find someone someday that I will click with like we did. Clearly this was a low point for me.
The kicker is that things have ever so slightly changed since then. My career prospects have changed drastically as I am an MD and I got residency secured about 45 min away from here. I hve been able to help secure a job for her as my replacement for when I leave (big big deal for her). I started to play coed pickup soccer and met some new people, got tanner. Ive kicked up kino after a long dry spell and she didnt seem to mind all that much, and seemed to escalate slightly (bumping, "accidental" prolonged boob contact init by her, playful pushing, brief neck rub). All of this is great but its not anywhere near what it was in the beginning. She started making comments in front of me that imply she is ready to be in a relationship "I need to find a husband (jokingly)" on the same day that she asked me if I would ever get married in Vegas (she said she wouldnt btw).
I have about 3.5 months till I have to leave and I will see her sparingly throughout most of this time. Although I will be training her in June for 2 weeks so I will see EVERY day then. after that im moving 45 min away (essentially the same city though)
What do I do with this?
