28 year old "virgin" leaening game but "scared" of sex??

[Earlhickey]

I didnt have much lufk when i was younger. I occasionally attracted women because im not bad looking and can talk, but they would get bored quickly.

I have "had sex" twice but both times the girl on top and i wasnt very particapatory.

Foreplay um fine with and enjoy i just have a weird hangup about full sex.

Since starting to learn about attraction etc i have been getting a fair number of ioi from women.

But at the weekend i had a hot girl in my bed who i had "gamed" at the club. We did everything except sex.

Like i cant blame my situation on "not being able to get girls" because finally i attracted a really hot girl who i wanted (first time i did that, all girls in the past were average)

At the time i told myself we were both too drunk.

But if i stop bull****ting myself its because i didnt escalate. Sure enough 2 nights later she hook up with sone other dude.

Would probably have made a good fwb for practice

Any advice guys? How do i get over this **** i mean its like a mental block for some reason

 

[wifehunter]

Being scared is healthy, regardless. ..

See:

 

[shesabranchswinger]

so your not a virgin if you had sex twice.
The simple answer to your question is just get over it let it go.

Don't get to hung up in your own mind. If you meet a woman through OLD or in person don't focus on sex try to focus on connecting with her that might turn you on a bit more to wanting to having sex in the future with her.

 

[CMNILS87]

It's all mental for you dude. Your living out situations in your head before anything happens. That sexy girl that quickly looked over at you, she wants you to grab her hair Toss her on the bed and bang her doggystyle while getting spanked. Just do it once and understand the dominance and it's easier the next time

 

[cola]

I got some out the box advice..

Pay a hot escort and explain to her the situation.
Ask her to teach you a thing or two..

I'm not talking about a street walker crack whore blowing cab drivers for 10 bucks.
I'm talking a smoking hot co ed who has businessman clients.

They will be sympathetic and they may actually enjoy teaching you.

 

[Milano]

I know all about this man, was a virgin til 26 and was in a horrible first relationship with a single mom. We were on and off for a bit and I couldnt let go of the emotions so she started banging the guys with tattoos and older men with money, you know the drill with these hores.

Anyway, after my first girlfriend was finally gone I developed a mental block when it came to sex. I was used to her body and big boobies in my face to get turned on, now I met girls who had smaller t1ts and my system didnt understand it, I was all in my head and couldnt enjoy what I now had before me, even though some of those girls were more pretty overall.

Funny thing is, if you experience limp d1ck a few times with a woman because you are nervous and up in your head, you BELIEVE you have erectile disfunction and so it manifests and keeps on going!

A month or so ago I tried having sex with a girl I didnt care about that much without using dikpills, and even though I have problems with getting it hard with a condom (not sure if I can cure that, but trying to help the system by going nofap/no porn to help it out among the other things it brings) at least it worked well without one lol, as the girl was so horny that we decided she was gonna get the pill later. (she was staying with me a weekend)

Point is, if the woman you are sexing is not a big deal to you lookwise, not a big "loss", you can make it work! Somehow you gotta tell yourself that a woman is not a big deal and that you can get a new one, I am still learning myself so.

What Cola says about a quality hore is also a good idea, I even tried this last summer and it helped me after a bad breakup. It gives you a confidence boost, specially if you feel like you connect with the hore under sex.

 

[Infern0]

try nofap

 

[Mike32ct]

Or maybe have a short term gf or fwb for say a few weeks or months. Then you can get really comfortable with sex.

One night stands are somewhat stressful because, all the "game" stuff aside, you have to perform sexually on the spot. That's not easy for an inexperienced guy. But if you bhang the same chick say 10x, then you should be more relaxed next time you pull from the club.

 

[corrector]

You need to use Viagara or Herbals.

 

[SuckItUp]

Yohimbe! In all seriousness you need to get to the bottom of why you are scared about sex. Success comes from being a sexual being and giving off a vibe that you are ready for sex at a moment' notice.

 

[Infern0]

Or maybe have a short term gf or fwb for say a few weeks or months. Then you can get really comfortable with sex.

One night stands are somewhat stressful because, all the "game" stuff aside, you have to perform sexually on the spot. That's not easy for an inexperienced guy. But if you bhang the same chick say 10x, then you should be more relaxed next time you pull from the club.

it'll be hard for him to get a gf before he has sex with her.

I used to have performance anxiety when i was younger, it goes away by getting rid of all anxiety.

 

[peterm]

I think you should do something about your confidence, that is how this sounds to me. You said that you were with girl , done everything except sex, so that is not very usual, if she come to your bed, she expected to do everything with her and sounds to me that you didn't understand that.