22 Things You Can Do To Improve Your Sex Life
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Go dancing. Whether you go by yourself or with a partner, whether you dance well or not, dancing creates sex appeal. It’s also an easy way to meet people. Dancing also builds confidence which is extremely important to a good sex life.
Work Out. Working out helps create a sexy body. It gives you the energy and stamina to have sex for long periods of time. It gives you flexibility to get into some of those positions you’ve often wondered about. You feel better about yourself when you work out causing you to be able to get in the mood more often. Couples working out together can create a tighter bond in their relationship. Working out also boosts your self-esteem which is a critical component to having a good sex life.
Music. There are all types of music and ways that it can help in the sex department. During the physical sex act itself, just the rhythm of music can synchronize your internal physiological state and cause you to be in perfect timing with each other. Music can create the mood for sex, particularly some Sade or Marvin Gaye. Very tranquil music can also create an atmosphere of peace and calm which can be a nice setting for sex. Additionally the words within some songs trigger emotions and feelings of sensuality.
Learn various ways to give yourself an orgasm. In most cases, until you learn how to do it yourself, no one else can do it for you. Sometimes there are a variety of ways to stimulate yourself to an orgasm. It helps to know what feels good first before trying to show somebody else or much less explain it to them. Then, teach your partner how to give you an orgasm. Before delving straight into intercourse, one of the best and easiest ways to develop intimacy and mutual pleasure is to show your partner those various ways you like to be touched and have them bring you to orgasm both manually and orally.
Communicate. Challenge yourself to give very specific requests to your partner to perform sexual pleasures. Use only verbal instructions, without showing them or touching them. Don’t ever give up. This is a great exercise to learn to see the results of what you are communicating.
Play games. If you want to lighten things up a bit or bring about a little variety to your sex life, play a sex game. There are plenty of games you can buy at game stores or online that will stimulate anyone’s fancy. You can play them one-on-one or you can play with a group of people. They can be fun and arousing. They are designed to break up any nervous tension you might have about trying new things. You can also play other “regular” games like monopoly or poker with a spin. Be creative.
Share fantasy’s. Make it a point to tell each other at least one fantasy that you can imagine them filling one day. Make it safe to share by listening to their fantasy. Be vulnerable when sharing. Sometimes it helps to explain how the fantasy came about. Don’t share any fantasy’s that you are not sure you are ready to experience because this could lead to a misunderstanding. Or at least be very specific that you are not ready for that fantasy to be fulfilled.
Positions. There are hundreds, if not thousands of books on the various sexual positions. Every bedroom should be equipped with at least one. When you get bored with your more “typical” positions, you can simply go to the book and find something new to try together. Sometimes it may be just for the fun or challenge of it and wont necessarily lead to orgasm. Trying new positions together may generate laughter and is also a form of bonding and intimacy.
Wear sexy clothes. Do you find yourself getting comfortable in the company of your partner, wearing oversized around-the-house clothing. Do you remember how you dressed when you first met? There’s something sexy about dressing up for each other. It shows care and consideration and when you put some effort into how you look, like it did when you first met.
Be honest about what turns you on and what doesn’t. If there’s that one thing your partner keeps doing that you really don’t get any excitement from, it’s better to tell them than to stay frustrated. Also, if there is something you think you’d really like for them to do with you, tell them. Confidence is extremely important to a good sex life.
Freshen up. Good hygiene is important and sexy. It’s a great habit to always be prepared to be kissed all over your body. Make sure your mouth is clean and that your genitals are clean. You never know when you’ll be caught in the mood and it’s so much nicer for the kisser and as well as the one being kissed to know that you are clean and fresh.
Sensual Massage. This is one great way to get in the mood or put your partner in the mood. Once the massage begins with the back, then the back of the legs, you can lead to other more sensitive parts of the body. You can use sensual oils and aromatherapy oils to aid in creating that special state of mind. Sometimes just the relaxing effect of a massage can calm you down enough to feel those intimate feelings. A word of caution however, you can go overboard with relaxing your partner and put them right to sleep so make sure you incorporate something in your technique to keep them and yourself aroused.
Leave love notes. There is something stimulating, simply knowing that your partner was thoughtful enough to write down on paper that he or she is thinking about you. - Leaving love notes describing how sexy they are or what you have planned to do with their body that night is very sexy.
Look into each others eyes. That’s right, it’s okay to peek when you’re kissing and especially when you are making love. Try to keep your eyes open and look into your partners eyes right at the point of orgasm. Always look into your partners eyes when speaking with them.
Practice deep breathing. You can actually get a little more stimulation just from the way you breath. You can take in a deep breath and imagine as you are inhaling, sending the breath down to your genitals. It is amazing what happens. You can not only increase the feelings of stimulation, but you wake up the kundilini (Sexual) energy. Some people can have orgasms by deep breathing with no other stimulation at all.
Practice Visualization. Visualize yourself having the best orgasm of your life. Also visualize this for your partner. Mentally rehearse for great sex. Visualize your body parts being stimulated with sexual energy. See yourself as a great lover.
Take time for yourself. It takes energy to be around other people. Sometimes we feed off of each others energy. Other times it’s out of balance and so the demands of being around another person or the same person all the time can take it.
Watching a Romantic Movie. Can definately rekindle that romantic sparkle. Gives you creative ideas to bring the romance back into your life, which ultimately leads to more pleasureable sex.
Communicate. Challenge yourself to give very specific requests to your partner to perform sexual pleasures. Use only verbal instructions, without showing them or touching them. Don’t ever give up. This is a great exercise to learn to see the results of what you are communicating.
Take a Retreat together. Maybe one where you learn about Tantric Sex or Kuma Sutra. But any kind of personal growth retreat will certainly deepen the emotional and spiritual bonds and invite more passion into your life.
Share fantasy’s. Make it a point to tell each other at least one fantasy that you can imagine them filling one day. Make it safe to share by listening to their fantasy. Be vulnerable when sharing. Sometimes it helps to explain how the fantasy came about. Don’t share any fantasy’s t every crevasse of each others bodies. You can do this one at the same time or take turns being the one being explored. Put your finger into their belly button, not too deep. Examine their genitals very thoroughly and explore the anus. Notice every freckle and every scar. You can reach new levels of intimacy by exploring the body at new levels.
Take a bubble bath together. There is almost nothing more sexually arousing than to sit in a warm bubble bath together. The intimacy of sitting naked in the same bath water creates a wonderful bond. It gets particularly arousing when you include washing each others bodies, paying particular attention to the genital area.
