countermart
Don Juan
1. Her problems become your problems.
2. People change.
3. In love you fail to see poor character traits.
4. You get more sex when you are not married.
5. Hell hath no fury like a women scorned.
6. Life will throw things at you that you never imagined, and so may she.
7. She will put the children ahead of the relationship.
8. She will put the children’s interest as secondary to revenge on you.
9. The law favours her and she knows it.
10. Ultimately she will treat you like she treats her parents or the waiter.
11. You lose your power to easily walk away.
12. Once she has won you she will relax the effort to make herself look attractive etc.
13. Reciprocal altruism is something she will not understand.
14. She will not care that you are a nice guy, she will see her point of view primarily.
15. The provider, nurturer roles mean you will most likely be effectively working for her.
16. Going out of your way to please her will not make her happy.
17. You options and freedom with your life will reduce.
18. Children are the best contraceptive.
19. Look only at what she does, not what she says.
20. She will want more money, but expect you to make it spending less time in the office.
21. Children are much more difficult and a strain on the relationship that anyone will tell you.
22. You can end up loving your children much more that you love your wife.
23. Responsibilities increase and freedom to risk reduces.
24. Ultimately marriage is too bigger risks for the benefits, except for the lucky, or people that do not live that long.
25. Love is always conditional.
When it works it can be very, very good, but probably not as good as before you get married. These are admittedly some of the downsides to getting married for men. If you are still convinced you should get married note that society is wrong when it advocates the whole “Richer, poorer, sickness health etc” approach.
The better approach would be that two people will stay together while the partnership enhances their lives. It is far better to assume the marriage will fail and put together a prenuptial agreement. Ultimately, once you hit the Family Court you realise that marriage today is primarily a legal contract over the division of assets anyway.
Does this demonstrate a lack of commitment? No it demonstrates a realisation that the future is not predictable.
Society is wrong when it advocates that children should be a higher priority than the relationship. Many relationships breakdown because of the children focus, and this ultimately fails to benefit the children.
Society is wrong when it sees single people as failures.
Because love is a form of insanity, or at least partial incapacity for clear understanding, then it follows that under the law any marriage for love should be voidable under the law....yep, I’m only half joking!
I hope this helps some guys considering taking the plunge. If you are considering marriage I do not need to highlight the upsides...they don’t teach you at flying school what to do when the plane is flying straight and smooth in clear weather conditions, they teach you all about the downside and risks.
Good luck,
Countermart
2. People change.
3. In love you fail to see poor character traits.
4. You get more sex when you are not married.
5. Hell hath no fury like a women scorned.
6. Life will throw things at you that you never imagined, and so may she.
7. She will put the children ahead of the relationship.
8. She will put the children’s interest as secondary to revenge on you.
9. The law favours her and she knows it.
10. Ultimately she will treat you like she treats her parents or the waiter.
11. You lose your power to easily walk away.
12. Once she has won you she will relax the effort to make herself look attractive etc.
13. Reciprocal altruism is something she will not understand.
14. She will not care that you are a nice guy, she will see her point of view primarily.
15. The provider, nurturer roles mean you will most likely be effectively working for her.
16. Going out of your way to please her will not make her happy.
17. You options and freedom with your life will reduce.
18. Children are the best contraceptive.
19. Look only at what she does, not what she says.
20. She will want more money, but expect you to make it spending less time in the office.
21. Children are much more difficult and a strain on the relationship that anyone will tell you.
22. You can end up loving your children much more that you love your wife.
23. Responsibilities increase and freedom to risk reduces.
24. Ultimately marriage is too bigger risks for the benefits, except for the lucky, or people that do not live that long.
25. Love is always conditional.
When it works it can be very, very good, but probably not as good as before you get married. These are admittedly some of the downsides to getting married for men. If you are still convinced you should get married note that society is wrong when it advocates the whole “Richer, poorer, sickness health etc” approach.
The better approach would be that two people will stay together while the partnership enhances their lives. It is far better to assume the marriage will fail and put together a prenuptial agreement. Ultimately, once you hit the Family Court you realise that marriage today is primarily a legal contract over the division of assets anyway.
Does this demonstrate a lack of commitment? No it demonstrates a realisation that the future is not predictable.
Society is wrong when it advocates that children should be a higher priority than the relationship. Many relationships breakdown because of the children focus, and this ultimately fails to benefit the children.
Society is wrong when it sees single people as failures.
Because love is a form of insanity, or at least partial incapacity for clear understanding, then it follows that under the law any marriage for love should be voidable under the law....yep, I’m only half joking!
I hope this helps some guys considering taking the plunge. If you are considering marriage I do not need to highlight the upsides...they don’t teach you at flying school what to do when the plane is flying straight and smooth in clear weather conditions, they teach you all about the downside and risks.
Good luck,
Countermart
