20Humble5050's Thousand Approach Ascension Crusade (Field Reports)

[20Humble5050]

In this thread I will log my field reports as I restart in earnest my crusade to no longer be a 24-year-old (and counting) adult virgin. I have done 69 approaches so far and do not plan to stop until I complete 1,000, or the year is 2030, whichever comes first. Below is the log of approaches I have run so far (poorly formatted as most of them are originally from Discord posts):

2016 (still in high school in Hong Kong):
Girl 1: Rejected me with excuses
2017 (USA from this point unless otherwise specified):
Girl 2: Pretended to flirt with me, then rejected me with excuses
2018:
Girl 3: Rejected me with excuses
2019:
Girl 3bis: Was so rude that I ended the conversation before asking her out.
Girl 4: Flirted with me, but then suddenly "remembered" she had a boyfriend when I pushed to make a time for the date.
Girl 4-1/2: Said she had a boyfriend even though I wasn't even hitting on her and just wanted to be friends.
Girl 5: Ignored the DM
Girl 6: Excuses (also already had a boyfriend)
Girl 7: Same as Girl 4
2020 (lone approach was in Korea):
Girl 8: A girl I met in a bar seemed happy to flirt with me and wanted me to move closer on the seat, but didn't respond when I DMed her to meet up again on a date.
2021:
Girl 9: Same as Girl 4
Girl 9bis: Same as Girl 4-1/2
Girl 10: Actually rejected me upfront for once instead of using excuses; I admire her confidence.
Girl 11: Excuses.
Girl 12: Claimed to be busy at work on Friday and that weekend. Never responded.
Girl 13: Rejected me with excuses over a DM after I flirted with her in person earlier.
Girl 14: Nervously said she "didn't know" when I suggested a date.
Girl 15: Approached me by offering me a donut in the dining hall, but wouldn't read the Snapchat proposing a date. Finally met me again two weeks later and gave me her number. Turned out to be staying chaste for her sugar daddy down in Florida.
Girl 16: Said she was too busy studying for a test to go out on Saturday.
Girl 17: Claimed to be a lesbian. Didn't look like one; most likely Chadsexual.
Girl 18: Claimed to already have a boyfriend
2022:
Girl 19: Flirted with me at a party but did not respond to a Snapchat asking to meet up again.
Girl 20: Claimed to have a boyfriend.
Girl 21: Said she wasn't free when I snapchatted her, after meeting her in person.
Girl 22: Claimed she had a boyfriend. She gave his name on the spot without stopping to make one up when I asked so there's a tiny chance she might have been truthful.
Girl 23: Said she already had a date.
Girl 24: Said she already had a boyfriend.
Girl 25: Claimed to have other plans.
Girl 26: Said "no" to my date honestly.
Girl 27: Claimed to be a lesbian - didn't look like one.
Girl 28: The guy sitting next to her turned out to be her boyfriend and told me off.
Girl 29: I asked her out on Snapchat and unfriended her after not getting a response for a week. She eventually did read my message in the end; she told me she thought I was a nice guy, but already had a boyfriend.
Girl 30: I flirted with a Certified Brunette Cutie™️ at a party attempting to get a kiss. It didn't work, but she complimented me on my boldness.
Girl 31: At that same party, I approached another girl (who was also well-endowed) and we flirted and cuddled. Her friends tried to pull her away and take her to another party, but she said she might see me for lunch someday. Sadly, this offer never materialised.
Girl 32: I was swimming in the local river when I saw this petite blonde high-tier Becky with her friends. I asked her about her shirt, then told her she was cute and offered to take her to a local bar afterwards. She declined saying she was on a girl's night out, but she was flattered, and her friend group appreciated that I called her cute.
Girl 33: I slid into the Instagram DMs of the blonde hottie that my friend said found me attractive and offered to take her out for drinks or something the next time she’s back in town. Unfortunately, the guy was just trolling me and she never said that; she was flattered but said she had a boyfriend.
Girl 34: The hot blonde clerk at the front desk of the apartment complex I was staying at claimed to be meeting her parents for dinner tonight when I offered to take her out for drinks after her shift finished, but said she might be willing another time. She did not follow up.
Girl 35: A blonde high-tier Becky arrived at the outdoor terrace area of my apartment complex, so I sat down at the same table as her and noticed she had lovely eyes when she smiled at me. I made the same offer of taking her out for drinks after she was done barbecuing, but she said she had plans with her friends.
Girl 36: I snapchatted a girl that I met the day before inviting her to a bar. She ended up flaking.
Girl 37: Whilst checking to see if a package had arrived, I noticed this blonde hottie lounging on a deck chair in my apartment complex's common patio area. I did not intend to approach at first but then thought I’d be kicking myself later, so I made a bungled attempt to invite her to a bar that night. She declined saying she had work.
Girl 38: I decided to joke around with a girl and asked her how the Certified Brunette Cutie™️ Society:tm: was doing and she was flattered. I then gave her my number, but nothing came of that. The other thots there with her looked at me like I was a subhuman, but for some reason, this time I forgot to give a **** about foids' feelings and continued socialising with them regardless. I seem to have been smooth enough that I actually got on their good side by the time I left and they no longer saw me as a creep.
Girl 39: I went swimming in the river again and saw these three girls sitting together. I chatted with them for a bit and swam down the river intending to make a move on the cutest one when I walked back up, only to find out that they had all left. I then noticed this hot redhead with wavy hair and walked up to her, lamenting about how the girls I were about to hit on left, but then I told her that it didn’t matter because she was cuter than all three of them. She was flattered, and was a very funny girl with a great attitude who let me tease her some more. Finally, I got her number, asked her out to a bar tomorrow night and she agreed. She ignored my texts and ended up claiming to have a boyfriend.
Girl 40: I talked to this bisexual hippie girl in the dining hall who claimed to not care about looks, only personality. We will see how true that statement is based on whether or not she accepts my invitation to coffee tomorrow. Spoiler alert: She did not.
Girl 41: Despite having missed two classes due to food poisoning and deciding not to approach on that day, this 8/10 blonde Stacy that had said hi to me two days before found me in the dining hall and ate dinner with me, even though I was scruffy and smelled bad. She complimented me on my appearance and my shirt nonetheless and offered to refill my drink. She was so sweet, and I gave her my number so we could meet up later in the week. She did not reply in the end.
Girl 42: The Brunette Cutie™️ I approached gave me her number. I couldn’t ask her out in person due to the class finishing and everyone leaving but I called her later that day, because the next day is her birthday. She did not respond.
Girl 43: After flirting with a Certified Brunette Cutie™️ that I saw at a tailgate party, and who randomly asked me for a selfie, she gave me her number and told me she might see me later at another event that day. I did see her later, but she didn't give me any cues to escalate and was distracted.
Girl 44: A girl who remembered me from last year introduced me to her friend. This girl proceeded to come close and rub my arms, and briefly touched my chest. She then came really close when I was teasing her and rubbed her nose against mine. Unfortunately she didn’t escalate any further, but some time later after her friend pulled her away, an even hotter Certified Brunette Cutie™️ that I knew from last year came up to me.
Girl 45: I saw a scantily-clad tanned girl (who was well-endowed) sitting at a picnic table and chatted her up. It was then that I realised she was the girl I almost tried to make out with at the end of last semester. Her and her friends stood up and we chatted for a bit, her teasing me slightly, and then she dropped her ring in the mud. I reached down to pick it up and decided to put it back on her ring finger as a joke. After she wiped the mud off it she let me, but then she knelt down for some odd reason and I knelt down with her. At that moment, one of her friends said “Okay, now kiss”. SHE DID. This is the point at which I lost my Kissless status.
Girl 46: A friend of Girl 44 came up, teased me a little bit and also said she was looking forward to seeing me tonight. She called me “babe”, and I called her “babe” back.
Girl 47: I saw a Brunette Cutie™️ at the Halloween party hosted by a fraternity I know and asked her to come dance. At that point it was already late and I wanted to go home, and the basement dance floor was completely packed so we couldn’t really dance, so as I said goodbye she brought me closer for a hug and I (very boldly, without thinking twice this time) kissed her on the cheek. Then I asked to go out again with her; she said she already followed me on Instagram and that I could DM her for plans. Then she brought me closer again for a final hug and I kissed her on the lips. Her sister was there too, and I expected her to ****block me, but instead she looked me in the eyes and giggled.
Girl 48: Another girl I met at the same party gave me what I thought were signals. I moved in for a kiss but she turned her cheek.
Girl 49: Unfortunately, I waited too long before logging this approach and have forgotten the details. Needless to say it wasn't significant.
2023:
No approaches this year

 

[20Humble5050]

2024 (Approaches #50-60 were in the Ukraine, Approach #68 in Korea):
Girl 50: I asked a cute girl to dance with me on the dance floor. She said no. Fair play for being honest!
Girl 51: Late in the night when everyone else was pairing up, I asked this petite girl who was dancing all alone to dance with me. She started to do so, but then decided she’d try to hold a conversation with me, asking me where I’m from and all that, above the loud music, instead of either dancing or bringing me somewhere quieter to talk. So I got bored and left her; I don’t have time for that crap, and she can come find me if she really wants me.
Girl 52: I was chatting to this cute “alt-looking” girl with her hair dyed pink with the intent of asking her out. She liked snowboarding so I asked her if she was going to the local ski hill this Sunday, when I was considering going. This wasn’t supposed to be the approach, but she misinterpreted it as me asking her out and told me she had a boyfriend. She seemed flattered by that though, encouraged me to come back tomorrow night and kept talking to me with a smile until I left the bar, almost as if she was trying to justify going behind her boyfriend’s back (or dropping the charade if she was making him up initially). In the future I need to continue to flirt with the girl after this sort of thing happens and tease her so that we can determine whether she really does have a boyfriend or is testing me.
Girl 53: Approaches 53 to 57 were not logged quickly enough and got lost in a Discord server reset, but just involved me asking girls to dance in a club and were neither noteworthy nor successful.
Girl 54: See above
Girl 55: See above
Girl 56: See above
Girl 57: See above
Girl 58: The girl came back and I complimented her on her hair. She was insecure about it saying it wasn’t the color she wanted, but I reassured her that it looked great and that she was cute. I then took a photo of her and her two friends using this mid-2000s digital camera she had as a retro curiosity and gave her my number, which she didn’t immediately decline and took a picture of, and also followed her on Instagram. Then I left the bar to head home.
Girl 59: I chatted up this Certified Brunette Cutie™️ at the bar who was wearing a tight shirt that showed the outline of her perky tits. I asked for her phone number and she gave me something (didn’t verify its veracity); then I said I was going back downstairs and encouraged her to meet me on the dance floor. But when I did later she didn’t want to dance, so I ignored her and moved on immediately. I then tried to dance with this gorgeous blonde girl with big boobs who made eye contact, but she claimed to prefer dancing alone.
Girl 60: As the bar was closing I asked for the phone number of this other girl who seemed eager to make eye contact and dance alongside me. She politely declined but didn’t seem creeped out.
Girl 61: At a tailgate party I chatted to a group of girls, including this busty one with a cute ribbon in her hair who was giving me the best signals, so it was her I decided to ask for her number when I left. She said she just got a new phone and didn’t know her own number, and that she’ll give me her number when she sees me again at the football game. When I saw her a week later she claimed to still have a broken phone and to not have remembered her OWN PHONE NUMBER. This has to be the second lamest excuse I've ever heard after the two girls that pretended to be lesbians.
Girl 62: I chatted to this cute girl sitting behind me in class before it started and asked for her number. She gave it to me, but then said she had a boyfriend. I don’t know why she didn’t say that right away.
Girl 63: I approached this nerdy-looking cute girl in the dining hall and complimented her. She said she was working on weekends so I wrote my phone number on a piece of paper and gave it to her telling her to give me a call in case she was free tomorrow or next week. She was flattered, but said she was engaged, surprisingly enough.
Girl 64: It’s a long story that I can expand upon later, but I met a girl who said I have beautiful eyes.
Girl 65: I stopped at the local craft brewery for a pint of ale, and noticed a table with three girls at it, one of which was a blonde Stacylite in a nice outfit. She turned out to have a great sense of humor and started teasing me; noticing the faded reminders I wrote on my hand, she asked me jokingly if they were a girl’s phone number. I said they weren’t, but I reached out with my hand and suggested that she could change that if she wanted. She said she had a boyfriend, unfortunately, and double-confirmed this when I asked her again, assuring her that I had heard every excuse in the book. But we kept talking, and later, she asked me if I ever had a girlfriend. I said no, and she was surprised; I told her about the 65 failed approaches and she gave me a pickup line to use on the next girl I approach. I will try it and report back to her with a field report.
Girl 66: At this party, I met a Certified Brunette Cutie™️ whom I teased. As I promised the previous girl I approached, I used the lame pickup line where I asked her to write her phone number on my hands in the guise of a magic trick, and against all odds, she actually did it. I mentioned that she was a Certified Brunette Cutie™️ (and made sure to say the trademark symbol out loud) which amused her. I got her phone and Instagram, but she revealed that she had a boyfriend when I contacted her for a future date.
Girl 67: A girl I met in the dining hall said she had a boyfriend when I asked for her number.
2025:
Girl 68: I decided at the last minute that I would go clubbing that night instead of rotting in my room playing video games. I visited a nightclub that was buzzing despite it being a weekday. I noticed this cute petite girl who had ordered a bottle of champagne to her table and was wearing a sash with Chinese characters on it. I asked her if it was her birthday (it was) and whether she was Chinese (she wasn’t - she was actually from Taiwan and was taken aback at the suggestion that she was Chinese). I replied that I was from Hong Kong and that I knew what it was like to be wrongly called China, and we both laughed. A bit later I asked her if she wanted to dance; she insisted that her dance moves were “ugly”. I called her cute (but I am not sure if she heard) and reassured her that virtually nobody else in the club was a trained dancer. However, she pointed out that her friend was thoroughly soused and could barely stand upright, so I excused myself and wished her friend a speedy recovery. Either she did miraculously sober up quickly or some other hottie joined her, because a few minutes later her and another girl did join me on the dance floor, where I asked for her Instagram. She gave it to me (and had no problem leaning in close so I could hear) and asked if she could call me a pet name. Of course, I was flattered and said yes. It was at this point that I called it a night, since it was getting late, and walked away happy that I had finally made an approach.
Girl 69: I went to a party hosted by the rugby club and almost ragequit when a girl decided to be incredibly disrespectful. However, I came back to my senses and went back in. This mid-tier Becky danced next to me enthusiastically, and whilst I was relieved to be treated like a human again, I wasn’t particularly into her. However, her friend, a Certified Brunette Cutie™️ in a little black dress that showed off her tight body, came up and started dancing with me too. When I sat down with her at a table, she complimented me on my suit jacket. I asked her for her number shortly before leaving and she gave it to me. It turned out to be fake.

(This episode of Peak Autistic Hornyposting™️ has been brought to you by Blandy's Madeira, official beverage sponsor of post-ascension celebrations!)

 

[BPH]

You've only approached 69 girls in 9 years?

In the words of Matthew McConaughey; "you gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers".

I don't remember 90% of the girls I approached unless they resulted in at least a phone number.

 

[20Humble5050]

You've only approached 69 girls in 9 years?

In the words of Matthew McConaughey; "you gotta pump those numbers up, those are rookie numbers".

I don't remember 90% of the girls I approached unless they resulted in at least a phone number.

I know, it's pathetic. And I keep a precise count of the approaches so that I can know when I will allow myself to give up, and not one approach more. Part of the reason for me posting this is to have some accountability and to never let several weeks (or ideally even one week) go by again without an approach.

 

[SW15]

I don't remember 90% of the girls I approached unless they resulted in at least a phone number.

That would be similar for me.

I can't remember some women from "one date, no sex, no second date" type dates.

 

[BPH]

I know, it's pathetic. And I keep a precise count of the approaches so that I can know when I will allow myself to give up, and not one approach more. Part of the reason for me posting this is to have some accountability and to never let several weeks (or ideally even one week) go by again without an approach.

How about instead of trying to hit a quota, you just keep going until you succeed?

 

[SW15]

I know, it's pathetic.

So much failure. How is your self-esteem not in the toilet?

You need to get a fit physique with some muscle mass and stop watching porn/mbating to change outcomes.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

There is no shame in losing your virginity to an escort, OP.

 

[20Humble5050]

So much failure. How is your self-esteem not in the toilet?

You need to get a fit physique with some muscle mass and stop watching porn/mbating to change outcomes.

That's the plan, though of course it is easier said than done. I find it much easier to do NoFap when there is a "light at the end of the tunnel" and I have targets pipelined, and my soft goal is to lose 20 kilograms by the end of the year. But what is telling me I've failed supposed to do? If I was basing my decisions on logic, and not a promise that I stupidly made on a Discord server and now can't go back on because I am a pathological truth-teller, I would have taken a vow of celibacy and gone MGTOW years ago. Also, the reason my self-esteem isn't in the toilet, apart from having only done a very small amount ofd approaches, is because I was still fat and had awful game when I did all of them, and I know that; what would be far more devastating to my self-esteem is if I'm still getting no results after I've achieved my fitness goals and have better game, as I know I'm maxed out.

 

[20Humble5050]

There is no shame in losing your virginity to an escort, OP.

I have vowed to not do that until the 1,000 approaches are complete or it's 2030, whichever comes first. My dad already offered to buy me one, but I declined. It is less the lack of sex itself that I have a problem with, but the lack of validation knowing that I am not sexually attractive to any woman.

 

[SW15]

the lack of validation knowing that I am not sexually attractive to any woman.

That can be troublesome. You are in the United States. It's a competitive market.

A good portion of men are ignored by women in the United States. There are even men with BMI's in the normal, not overweight range who struggle to get attention from women. While it is good that they are not overweight, they are not physically fit enough to get women to pay attention to them.

 

[20Humble5050]

That can be troublesome. You are in the United States. It's a competitive market.

A good portion of men are ignored by women in the United States. There are even men with BMI's in the normal, not overweight range who struggle to get attention from women. While it is good that they are not overweight, they are not physically fit enough to get women to pay attention to them.

Believe me, I'm Blackpilled and have spent a lot of time on Incel forums. No discouraging fact like this is anything I haven't heard before, nor will it stop me, because I am a foolhardy idiot and have already committed to One Thousand Approaches.

 

[SW15]

Blackpilled

The black pill ideology is growing faster than the red pill ideology. It's been that way for about a decade now.

The ranks of sexless men have been growing. It's not just obese neckbeards and socially awkward men anymore.

One Thousand Approaches.

How about instead of trying to hit a quota, you just keep going until you succeed?

@BPH has the right advice for you here. If you look at his signature, he went from a virgin to a stud. He's one of the most successful seducers on the forum and has a nearly 100 notch count.

 

[20Humble5050]

@BPH has the right advice for you here. If you look at his signature, he went from a virgin to a stud. He's one of the most successful seducers on the forum and has a nearly 100 notch count.

I will be sure to check out the thread. @BPH , the 1,000 approaches isn't necessarily a limit; it is the point at which I will allow myself to lose my virginity to an escort, but I can still keep going after that to achieve true ascension if I have the motivation. If I ever achieve my longer-term goal of sleeping with ten women, I will write a free book about it as a public service that is specifically for autists and other "hard cases" who don't even have the most basic prerequisite life experience.

 

[BPH]

I will be sure to check out the thread. @BPH I will write a free book about it as a public service that is specifically for autists and other "hard cases" who don't even have the most basic prerequisite life experience.

Then you might as well make it a success story.

 

[Plinco]

Believe me, I'm Blackpilled and have spent a lot of time on Incel forums. No discouraging fact like this is anything I haven't heard before, nor will it stop me, because I am a foolhardy idiot and have already committed to One Thousand Approaches.

The essence of the black pill mentality is psychological determination, which is provably false.

To be blunt, you need to grow a pair. This black pill nonsense is holding you back. Max out on yourself while you're reporting on your results. Your experience will speak louder than any one else's experience.

 

[crowolf]

I know, it's pathetic. And I keep a precise count of the approaches so that I can know when I will allow myself to give up, and not one approach more.

Bro, what is this mentality? Fix your inner game first. You need to think like a winner. And don't be so hard on yourself. Pat yourself on the back for even trying. This thing requires some balls. There are many people who never overcome the fear, and just cry on forums. You are not these guys. Believe that you deserve better. And begin respecting yourself more.

Bring more value to the girls. Become a valuable guy yourself. This comes always first, before all the game and trying. You are basically selling yourself. You are the product. You are branding and marketing yourself. Why would they buy it if you yourself don't believe it's worth something?

P.S: Your goal shouldn't be to have a useless phone number collection. Connect with the girls, find out what makes them tick, screen them if they have what you are looking for in a woman (do you even have clarity on that?). Edit: Now I see you are mostly doing nightgame, which is not that much about talk and connection.

 

[SW15]

Your goal shouldn't be to have a useless phone number collection.

This is an important bit of information. There's no reason to have a phone number without an agree for spending time together at some specific time in the future. This is commonly called a date.

Trying to sell a woman on the idea of a date over text message isn't effective and isn't a good use of time.

@Isildur1 claimed in the post below that even bad daygamers can get laid on 1 in 80 approaches. It's complete fiction based on something like this. This is a man that has done 69 approaches and gotten nowhere near sex from any of them. He would have achieved the same thing doing 0 approaches.

There is scarcity in Every Aspect of dating – A call to action for Men in Pickup

The competition in big United States cities is similar to the competition level in London on the swipe apps. London has better pure street game options compared to most USA cities. Street approaching isn't realistic in most USA cities because a lot of USA cities had a good portion of their...

www.sosuave.net

Plenty of neurotypical, mid-tier men will do hundreds of approaches and get almost nothing/nothing from their efforts.

 

[20Humble5050]

Bro, what is this mentality? Fix your inner game first. You need to think like a winner. And don't be so hard on yourself. Pat yourself on the back for even trying. This thing requires some balls. There are many people who never overcome the fear, and just cry on forums. You are not these guys. Believe that you deserve better. And begin respecting yourself more.

Bring more value to the girls. Become a valuable guy yourself. This comes always first, before all the game and trying. You are basically selling yourself. You are the product. You are branding and marketing yourself. Why would they buy it if you yourself don't believe it's worth something?

P.S: Your goal shouldn't be to have a useless phone number collection. Connect with the girls, find out what makes them tick, screen them if they have what you are looking for in a woman (do you even have clarity on that?). Edit: Now I see you are mostly doing nightgame, which is not that much about talk and connection.

I'm not completely hopeless and already think that I have some worth to some women as, for all the Incel doom and gloom I've read, I've also read several counterpoints of guys similar in appearance tier to me making it at least once - too many such stories for them all to be lying or shilling. Not all Blackpillers are LDARers (laying down and rotting, i.e. giving up); the Blackpill is just a belief that girls have a hard looks and height threshhold that a man must clear to be worthy of consideration, that "game" cannot cause the girl to lower her appearance requirements, and that the vast majority of women have this threshhold above the average man's appearance level and are begrudgingly settling for a beta-provider later in life after riding the Chad **** carousel as youths. Note that I said the vast majority, not all, so high-volume approaching still has value to maximise the chances of finding one of these rare girls with different preferences who will go for a guy like me.

I am already aware that my biggest area of improvement is "quality over quantity" and flirting with the girl in person instead of just getting a number after a relatively boring short conversation only to have her flake. Also, for @SW15, I wouldn't say I have "barely come close" to sex as I did get two kisses out of those approaches and had a number of cute girls hit on me; I majorly fumbled the ball most of those times, not being nearly as proactive as I should have been in escalating with the girls that were giving me signs, because I was staggered by disbelief at the attention I was getting.