2021 resolution - Drop all of my current plates...

[Lookatu]

I realize these are first world problems and I have it good with having 3 plates I can pretty much have sex with anytime.

However, I feel the security of having these has made me lazy, put forth less effort with new women, and even when I get dates, I don't escalate or sexualize things like I used to. Sure, I can blame it on Covid bringing out caution in people but I'm going to place the blame soley on myself.

Case in point, I had a girl that invited me over to her place after meeting up with her twice for a walk/drinks. We both hinted at sex and we were making out on the sofa but I don't think I escalated enough or acted sexual enough to progress into the bedroom.

Had I not had the 3 plates that I do, I think the outcome might've been different. So time to start off fresh again and build up some sort of hunger...

I'm just sharing here. Not really looking for advice but maybe others might be in the same situation.

TLDR; Never be complacent, lazy and do what you have to do to maintain that momentum of being on top of your game.

 

[2Rocky]

Just drop one. Or bench her for a while. There is plenty of room in the Bullpen.

 

[Bigpapa]

I realize these are first world problems and I have it good with having 3 plates I can pretty much have sex with anytime.

However, I feel the security of having these has made me lazy, put forth less effort with new women, and even when I get dates, I don't escalate or sexualize things like I used to. Sure, I can blame it on Covid bringing out caution in people but I'm going to place the blame soley on myself.

Case in point, I had a girl that invited me over to her place after meeting up with her twice for a walk/drinks. We both hinted at sex and we were making out on the sofa but I don't think I escalated enough or acted sexual enough to progress into the bedroom.

Had I not had the 3 plates that I do, I think the outcome might've been different. So time to start off fresh again and build up some sort of hunger...

I'm just sharing here. Not really looking for advice but maybe others might be in the same situation.

TLDR; Never be complacent, lazy and do what you have to do to maintain that momentum of being on top of your game.

Big baller

 

[BackInTheGame78]

I get what you are saying but it seems like cutting off your nose to spite your face in some ways.

Pressing a nuclear button is your choice but I don't see how that helps. Rarely in life does going nuclear allow you to grow from a situation...it simply allows you to start over but doesn't teach you how to deal with it so that you will have another option next time this happens.

 

[jimwho]

I'd throw away a plate that was cracked, but keep the good ones for fine dining..

 

[BeExcellent]

My question for you is this...what is your end game? Your sexual strategy? In years past we’d see posts about behaving in a way that honors your sexual strategy.

What is yours?

It matters because you are best served to act in a congruence with your sexual strategy.

For example if your strategy is to get sex on demand from several women, well you’ve accomplished that...so that isn’t it.

If you want to find someone you are truly crazy about? None of the current rotation are really doing it for you as a total package...

If you want to explore and experience as much variety as possible then perhaps you have stagnated at this current juncture.

I know men who each have strategies as noted above. I know men who are relationship oriented, conquest oriented, variety oriented etc.

What is your sexual strategy? And how is what you are currently doing (or not doing) serving that?

 

[Lookatu]

Update:
Dropped 2 already. Gonna hold onto the one for now.

1st one was getting too needy and demanding more of my time so that was pretty easy.

2nd one expected me to spend NYE with her and got mad when I said I'd be spending it with my family. So she got pissed over text and we haven't texted for a couple days. If she reaches out, I'll say we can't continue.

I get what you are saying but it seems like cutting off your nose to spite your face in some ways.

Pressing a nuclear button is your choice but I don't see how that helps.

Abundance mindset = being able to hit the nuclear button whenever you want. I feel for me personally, I need the full reset to clear my mind, be alone for a while maybe, and get back into it again. Sometimes when you let things linger is when you don't grow or find answers.

My question for you is this...what is your end game? Your sexual strategy?

I'm of the belief that all girls starts off as plates unless they prove otherwise. I'd like to find a gf to enjoy life with but that hasn't happened yet. The girls in the current dating pool that I've met haven't had the features, characteristics I'm looking for to be promoted to that.

In the mean time, a man has needs and plates do a decent job of filling that until I find a gf worthy gal.

 

[Barrister]

Update:
Dropped 2 already. Gonna hold onto the one for now.

1st one was getting too needy and demanding more of my time so that was pretty easy.

2nd one expected me to spend NYE with her and got mad when I said I'd be spending it with my family. So she got pissed over text and we haven't texted for a couple days. If she reaches out, I'll say we can't continue.




Abundance mindset = being able to hit the nuclear button whenever you want. I feel for me personally, I need the full reset to clear my mind, be alone for a while maybe, and get back into it again. Sometimes when you let things linger is when you don't grow or find answers.



I'm of the belief that all girls starts off as plates unless they prove otherwise. I'd like to find a gf to enjoy life with but that hasn't happened yet. The girls in the current dating pool that I've met haven't had the features, characteristics I'm looking for to be promoted to that.

In the mean time, a man has needs and plates do a decent job of filling that until I find a gf worthy gal.

Sounds like you had actual reasons for dropping those two plates. I agree with @BackInTheGame78 though that just dropping plates for the hell of it seems a little pointless if the sex and company are both good (and you find them attractive of course). But I do agree with you that you have the abundance mindset. Well done!

 

[Lookatu]

Sounds like you had actual reasons for dropping those two plates. I agree with @BackInTheGame78 though that just dropping plates for the hell of it seems a little pointless if the sex and company are both good (and you find them attractive of course). But I do agree with you that you have the abundance mindset. Well done!

To tell you the truth, if I didn't have kids or other interesting hobbies, I'd probably keep them since the sex and company are good(but not great). But it's to a point where I feel they are starting to suck up my time which outweighs the sex/company part. This could be partially due to the holidays and being even more busy.

 

[BackInTheGame78]

To tell you the truth, if I didn't have kids or other interesting hobbies, I'd probably keep them since the sex and company are good(but not great). But it's to a point where I feel they are starting to suck up my time which outweighs the sex/company part. This could be partially due to the holidays and being even more busy.

I always have a rule that I don't make relationship decisions over the holidays because there are a lot of stressors for both myself and the women I am dating that can make things tougher but are only temporary.

Once the holidays clear then I typically will evaluate things heading into the New Year to determine where I am at.

 

[Lookatu]

I always have a rule that I don't make relationship decisions over the holidays because there are a lot of stressors for both myself and the women I am dating that can make things tougher but are only temporary.

Once the holidays clear then I typically will evaluate things heading into the New Year to determine where I am at.

This is sound advice. Come to think about it, I never been with anyone besides my family and friends during the holidays in recent years. I do however avoid meeting anyone new around Valentine's day though. LOL

Update with the girl I failed on the sofa with: Haven't texted her after that moment because I figured she'd lost any desire for me sexually. I just got a text from her asking how I was doing. It's been a few days and she initiates text. Maybe I'm being given another chance? Or maybe she's just lonely for the holidays and looking for someone to interact with. Hmmm...

 

[BackInTheGame78]

This is sound advice. Come to think about it, I never been with anyone besides my family and friends during the holidays in recent years. I do however avoid meeting anyone new around Valentine's day though. LOL

Update with the girl I failed on the sofa with: Haven't texted her after that moment because I figured she'd lost any desire for me sexually. I just got a text from her asking how I was doing. It's been a few days and she initiates text. Maybe I'm being given another chance? Or maybe she's just lonely for the holidays and looking for someone to interact with. Hmmm...

Typically if a woman reaches out to me I assume it is because they want to get together and proceed with that in mind. Invite her out or over again.

 

[DEEZEDBRAH]

I realize these are first world problems and I have it good with having 3 plates I can pretty much have sex with anytime.

However, I feel the security of having these has made me lazy, put forth less effort with new women, and even when I get dates, I don't escalate or sexualize things like I used to. Sure, I can blame it on Covid bringing out caution in people but I'm going to place the blame soley on myself.

Case in point, I had a girl that invited me over to her place after meeting up with her twice for a walk/drinks. We both hinted at sex and we were making out on the sofa but I don't think I escalated enough or acted sexual enough to progress into the bedroom.

Had I not had the 3 plates that I do, I think the outcome might've been different. So time to start off fresh again and build up some sort of hunger...

I'm just sharing here. Not really looking for advice but maybe others might be in the same situation.

TLDR; Never be complacent, lazy and do what you have to do to maintain that momentum of being on top of your game.

I have had several plates but I like most fellas experience erosion in lockdown. Anybody who argues that they did not is either DiCaprio on roids or talking ****. Sounds like prospects. Potential plates rather than anything else that has substance. It is a mess atm with games and the mind pollution women are bombed with.

YouTube Kevin Samuels. The last vlog, he talks to a woman 35, mad, and disputing men want young. She knows cause she's educated but it hurts her feelers. She parts acknowledging she had been lied to.

Fellas, spinster referred to women age 22 and unmarried. It's hilarious that post wall not peak smv and the dumpster fire that is the SMP today.

2021 is a new world for everyone. Much of the world as we knew it has died and with it old dreams. Many businesses are in ruins. Similarly, men who are head strong and stuck in the old world are going to parish with it. The old world is the gym, commute to work, boomers, spinster, marriage, and the likes. The new world is what comes next.

“For behold, I create new heavens and a new earth, and the former things shall not be remembered or come into mind. I 65:17

 

[Blacksheep]

I realize these are first world problems and I have it good with having 3 plates I can pretty much have sex with anytime.

However, I feel the security of having these has made me lazy, put forth less effort with new women, and even when I get dates, I don't escalate or sexualize things like I used to. Sure, I can blame it on Covid bringing out caution in people but I'm going to place the blame soley on myself.

Case in point, I had a girl that invited me over to her place after meeting up with her twice for a walk/drinks. We both hinted at sex and we were making out on the sofa but I don't think I escalated enough or acted sexual enough to progress into the bedroom.

Had I not had the 3 plates that I do, I think the outcome might've been different. So time to start off fresh again and build up some sort of hunger...

I'm just sharing here. Not really looking for advice but maybe others might be in the same situation.

TLDR; Never be complacent, lazy and do what you have to do to maintain that momentum of being on top of your game.

I've been in similar situations.

It is the famous comfort zone. In scarcity, we fight harder to win new women.

On the one hand, it is good, as we do not need to spend our energy and time going after new women. But as they say, it is always good to go after new adventures.

Good luck on freshening up your plates man.

 

[Poonani Maker]

To not wear a mask or take the vaxx, New Years resolution (revolution?)

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[metalwater]

I'm of the belief that all girls starts off as plates unless they prove otherwise. I'd like to find a gf to enjoy life with but that hasn't happened yet. The girls in the current dating pool that I've met haven't had the features, characteristics I'm looking for to be promoted to that.

Assume you do not want to just get back to the same position in 6 months albeit with 3 different girls. That means you would do something different to get different results. BE had the right questions. It seems you feel like you can beat this game all day long, and that is a great feeling.

Suggest to really look inward and think about what sort of woman might provide more enhanced excitement (basically you tell that you're bored with the game as your playing it) If you want to get some different stimulus will have to get different input. That will come from a different type of woman, who might not pass your current filter system...

Or, just keep on having fun and reset as often as needed.

 

[Lookatu]

Assume you do not want to just get back to the same position in 6 months albeit with 3 different girls. That means you would do something different to get different results. BE had the right questions. It seems you feel like you can beat this game all day long, and that is a great feeling.

Suggest to really look inward and think about what sort of woman might provide more enhanced excitement (basically you tell that you're bored with the game as your playing it) If you want to get some different stimulus will have to get different input. That will come from a different type of woman, who might not pass your current filter system...

Or, just keep on having fun and reset as often as needed.

I understand what you're saying. As Einstein said, insanity is repeating the same things over and over again and expecting different results.

When it comes to girls, I date variety but one thing handicapping me, is me not willing to put forth a lot of effort for what appears to be entitled or spoiled girls out there without any reciprocation on their parts. Also knowing how women are, I tend to have a short fuse or dismiss easily. I guess you can say this is my internal self defense mechanism.

There's been numerous posts on what makes a good serious LTR on here and I simply just haven't come across any that fits 100% into that mold yet. I'm not complaining really but doing the rinse/repeat does get a little monotonous after awhile. I'll just need to be persistent and optimistic in the meanwhile.

Perhaps there could be some girl in 2021 that can change those perceptions...

 

[Lookatu]

Just seems like a lot of energy directed towards women. Men are much more than that. They are the builders of life and civilization.

Can’t come up with a bigger game to play in life? Women are such a small, base, game.

I have accomplished a lot in my life and this is just another ongoing maintenance part of it, albeit a small part. I've gone through the education, job, family part of it. Continuing my hobbies/passions and continue learning as a student of life. Nothing missing in my life that I lose sleep over. I hope you didn't get the impression that this kind of stuff weighs heavily on me. Lol

 

[r4zorsharp]

I realize these are first world problems and I have it good with having 3 plates I can pretty much have sex with anytime.

However, I feel the security of having these has made me lazy, put forth less effort with new women, and even when I get dates, I don't escalate or sexualize things like I used to. Sure, I can blame it on Covid bringing out caution in people but I'm going to place the blame soley on myself.

Case in point, I had a girl that invited me over to her place after meeting up with her twice for a walk/drinks. We both hinted at sex and we were making out on the sofa but I don't think I escalated enough or acted sexual enough to progress into the bedroom.

Had I not had the 3 plates that I do, I think the outcome might've been different. So time to start off fresh again and build up some sort of hunger...

I'm just sharing here. Not really looking for advice but maybe others might be in the same situation.

TLDR; Never be complacent, lazy and do what you have to do to maintain that momentum of being on top of your game.

Something doesn't add up here man. Having plates, ALWAYS makes me want to find more, and escalate FAR easier /be mroe sexual with other women.. NOVELTY is what men strive for .. We get bored of women easily. I

Seriously, you had a bad experience where you didn't have sex with a girl who invited you over, and this is what you come to "im going to drop my plates"

Maybe you're finding out you're just not cut for the game.

PROTIP for next time: Don't "HINT" at sex, make it blatantly obvious, especially if its the 2nd time she askedu out for drinks..

 

[Lookatu]

Something doesn't add up here man. Having plates, ALWAYS makes me want to find more, and escalate FAR easier /be mroe sexual with other women.. NOVELTY is what men strive for .. We get bored of women easily.

If I was your age, it wouldn't make sense for me either but novelty goes away with age, experience, repetition.
Other than that, you are assuming WAYYYY too much from this and coming up with conclusions in the far left field.
To be clear, I don't have any issues getting women in bed normally. My issue is falling into the trap of being complacent, lazy, etc. like a lot of guys which has affected my game.