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[Clint Eastwood]

Guys, remember this thread.

The next time you're thinking about being a "nice" guy, or you're afraid that you're being mean to a woman. Remember Tamale's reaction to this guy. He hurts her, treats her bad, just uses her for sex, makes her cry herself to sleep over him,... and she just can't get over him. She's still crazy about him.

From what some have said, Tamales is pretty hot. So just remember this the next time you're thinking about being "nice". Women like Tamales don't sit around pining over nice guys for months after the relationship. In fact, they probably won't even remember you. Be an a$$hole, like this guy, and they'll love you forever.

Tamales, sorry you're having so much trouble getting over this guy, but that's the nature of female psychology. Hope you can get over him, and be a much better person as a result. The odds are stacked against you. Even if you get over him, there'll be another to take his place. I hope you're better than that. I hope you can use this as a growing experience, and find a better man next time.

 

[MysteryWoman]

But there is no excuse to behave to this extreme, alot of women don't put up any bullshyt. Alot do. You can't categorise all women as being the same.

 

[tamales]

I think you guys have it wrong. I mean I think I have done pretty well moving on. I mean hell, I resisted him twice. Not even so much as a kiss. And you are wrong about treating women badly. I mean sure be an ******* but there is a fine line b/w being a jerk that hooks you and one that has gone to far. This guy went to far and now it's too late. I will get over him. I am dating other men and feel very good about myself. I had been doing great until I saw him. Read some of my previous posts. Sure I slipped when seeing him and yes, he really hurt me bad. But will I love him forever. Hardly! I am actually grateful to him.

This is the first man to treat me poorly and while I fell I wouldn't say I fell any harder then my ex boyfriends. The only thing that made this whole thing so nuts was the attraction level was off the charts. Maybe that was due to him being an *******. Don't know. But it was pure chemistry and I mean unlike anything in the world upon meeting him. And when I first met him he was a nice guy. I allowed him to use me. I was going through a horrible time. Still no excuse and yep, I will get my game back on soon and look forward to it. I sent him a little email and said, no more. It was a bad idea to see him again.

Thanks for the input. And if I came off as bad as I had been a few months ago, I am sorry. But truthfully, I have come a long long way and looking forward to meeting others and getting back out there. This time tho, more prepared.

 

[legolas]

Sounds like he's got you well hypnotized tamales. I mean he calls on the phone and gets you all wet and excited? Damn, that's a pretty nice skill for someone with no training in hypnosis.

But anyway. I think you're not over him at all. Although you do think that you are, I can see that you're not. I mean who obsesses about someone telling everybody "Oh I'm over him" and repeats the line over and over? Actually deep inside I even think you don't want to be over him. You just want to manipulate him into liking you and then dump all the other cute boys you're dating now.

Actually that's one of the most balooney pieces of advice I"ve ever heard people say. I'm begining to realize that it doesn't work at all and people are just talking out of their ass without first hand experience. When you're emotionally attached to somone, and trying to get over them, dating other people is not the way to do it. When you date other people you can't help but compare them to this person. Add to that the familiarity with this person and nonfamiliarity with the other ones, and it becomes useless advice.

So if you really, but REALLY want to get over him, the first step is to realize that you're still into him now and accept that. Once you accept it, it becomes easier to get over them. If you don't accept it you'll be fighting a losing battle with your unconscious mind. That is of course if you do want to get over him. But I suspect you don't

 

[tamales]

Actually, I really do but hey, think what you want. Time will tell and well while not easy, I think it's a start that I rejected his advances, now three times. I see your point and maybe you are right. Although, I agree. You have to feel the pain before moving on and accept things. We'll see but thanks for the reply. Rome wasn't built in a day but as far as sleeping with him again. On that note, I'll bet the ranch!!! So start placing your bids.

Enough already. Just venting on here and thanks for the input. All good!

 

[ShortTimer]

Oh nevermind, what's the point.

 

[J-Man]

Originally posted by Clint Eastwood
Sorry to interrupt your thread Tamales, but I have to reinforce what Crazy and The Edge are trying to tell Mystery Woman.

Men don't like things difficult.

I'd be really surprised if more than a couple of men disagree with me. Men aren't the ones who like things difficult, but we often are led to believe that women do.

We just want some easy sex. But, there are so many stupid games and tests we have to get through just to get it. And, we are guilty of the games, too. Problem is, women want sex as bad as we do. However, I can assure you that we don't want things difficult. A challenge is nice, but too much of a challenge is a drag for most guys.

There's nothing I'd like more than to approach an attractive woman. Say "hi, I'm so and so. What's your name?" Then have a nice conversation follow where nobody is trying too hard to hide the fact that there is obvious chemistry and sexual tension. And, then to finally move on to sex that night. Whatever happens after that, happens. No pressures from either side for a serious relationship. Just let things take their course.

After all, that's why men and women hook up. It's not for friendship. If it was, why try so hard with the opposite sex?

Unfortunately, that's not the reality I live in. It's not the reality that most guys live in. Instead, we go through all kinds of hell and difficulty just to get laid. That's one of the main reasons that sites like this exist. If things were easy, guys would never need a site like this, and it certainly wouldn't be so popular.

Trust me. Guys don't want things to be this difficult.

in other words mysterywoman, YOURE WRONG.

jesus, how many paragraphs does it take?

 

[MysteryWoman]

I have to laugh at the guys on this forum. They take every word I say literally. Have you guys ever heard of the word a figure of speech. Difficult means hard to get challenge, mystery and hard to get. It does not mean being nasty to a person.

Its the different between men and women if you ask a woman can you take the garbage outside, she will interpret as would you take the gabarge outside, whilst a man will think you are insulting his intelligence. Of course I can take the garbage outside.

 

[Mr. Mystery]

Originally posted by Clint Eastwood
Tamales, sorry you're having so much trouble getting over this guy, but that's the nature of female psychology. Hope you can get over him, and be a much better person as a result. The odds are stacked against you. Even if you get over him, there'll be another to take his place. I hope you're better than that. I hope you can use this as a growing experience, and find a better man next time.

What!? Part of female phychology??

Clint,

Alot of guys have the same problem as Tamales had with this guy. They are called "AFC's" at this site. It has nothing to do with male or female phychology, and alot to do with self-esteem.

Tamales,

you seem to have your situation under control. If you don't think hes worth your pride then don't bother. You'll be just fine.

Guys, women are not the enemy.

Mr. Mystery

 

[tamales]

Hey short-timer why so short? LOL... I think you actually had a lot to say but if it so pleases you, nevermind.... I think it's fair to say this thread is dead.

 

[FlyGuy]

I have to laugh at the guys on this forum. They take every word I say literally. Have you guys ever heard of the word a figure of speech. Difficult means hard to get challenge, mystery and hard to get. It does not mean being nasty to a person.

This is the Internet, we can't read minds nor pickup on subtle voice clues that you aren't completely serious. Difficult is a pretty vague thing. Laugh all you want.

 

[MysteryWoman]

 

[FlyGuy]

 

[T.T. Boy]

Originally posted by MysteryWoman


Remember men like things to be difficult

Not me. I fantasize about there being a pvssy in my mattress.