2 Years later .... how shoud I act.

[Roli]

Two years ago, I was friend with a .... a girl that I loved but she only liked me as a friend (when I was young I was just an stupid "nice guy")
Anyway, that maked our relation difficult, and we had a lot of different and I was suffering from this relation, so one day I told her that I didn't wanted to talk to her anymore, and that I wanted out of my life.

Now we are two years later. I didn't saw her until today, we talked a little and she told me she wanted us to see and do something soon.

I was wondering, now that I don't care about her anymore, how should I act with her. I know im not a NG anymore so should I play a game, stay real ?

Information on the girl : from a rich family, she Roll in Audi at 18. Very beatuifull and popular girl ..!

 

[Jay26]

Well I'd say you DO still care otherwise why would you be asking us how to act around her?

So...

Put your DJ skills to use! 2 years is a long time, you may have a partially clean slate to work with, so roll the dice and see what happens, even if you're over her then just for the sake of curiousity.

Just don't act like a chump, would be a shame to waste a clean slate and then have to wait another 2 years!

 

[Roli]

You may be right !
Anyway, up, i need more anwsers

 

[Roli]

bump .... plz ?

 

[DJ_Dork]

yeah, it's a clean slate.. GO FOR IT DUDE.

 

[00Kevin]

ok this is what i would do for quick results. otherwise you can be a dj over a few months and get the same results.

you need to show her that you have other interests in your life.

for the first week.. completely avoid her at all costs and in everyway.

for the second week.

1. Schedule something with her for the next weekend with her and one of her friends. something non date like. then on a monday send her an email and tell her that you are not sure you can make it cause you will be busy (something kind a trivial). don't provide details. this will tell her that you have more important things in your life than her and that you don't have to explain jack ****.

2. find two internet dates (cause that's easy) go for coffee with them throughout the week. this will give you the feeling of being a dj.

3. send her jokes. be sure to put her on the end of the cc list along with every girl you know. even make up some fake email addresses.. put about 7 girls on it or so and a few guy friends.
She will look at the cc list at somepoint and this will send her another message that you are a busy guy. and that she isn't the center of attention anymore.

4. send her simple and very short emails throughout the week about nothing in particluar. on a few of them mention something about you going on a date and that you think you are going to have a great week. she will most likely call you to see what it's all about . you should tell her that one of the girls is really hot. also tell her that you liked how she dressed. tell her that this girl isn't rich, but that's what you like. someone that is well grounded. that will tell your ex that she is a stupid rich girl. she will realize that you are over with her for a reason. she will most likely go on and on about the guys she currently likes. just ignore it. tell her not to give up and that she will find the perfect guy. keep the phone conversations short and don't ****en call her. you don't have the time for this *****.

5. on friday send her an email and tell her you can make it and go out with her friends.

6. try to go to a club. once there grab one of her ugly friends and dance with her(even if it's only for a few seconds) don't give your ex any attention.

7. be really nice to her friend. if you give your ex a hug give her friend a hug also. it will make your ex remember how it feels to be in your arms and it will also put her at odds with her friend. she won't be able to understand how her friend is on the same playing field as her.

8. do something nice for her friend. take her to your place and burn a music cd for her. your ex will hear about this and will want you to do that for her if she is interested again. she will be so pissed that you are being nice to her ugly friend and not her it will drive her crazy.

9. at this point you have taken control..

 

[TesuqueRed]

Ok--I understand English is his second language, but what does "Roll in Audi at 18" mean? She's an 18 yr old rolling (driving) an Audi--??? I dunno...

Ok, 2 years later: it's a new thing, sure. Maybe you changed and it's obvious, maybe not.

My take on it?---This is a blow-off line similar to "let's do lunch sometime!" like you get from an old co-worker you used to work with but didn't really conect with back then and happen to run into downtown--to finish the the "how're you doing now" type of conversation, they often toss out "let's do lunch!" line and make it seem more real than it is.

She's doing something like this but doesn't really mean it. Ignore it.

 

[Titus]

Roli, have you thought about not acting? I mean, all you people talk about on on this site is about acting. How about for once being just yourself?
Or are you too deathy afraid of her rejecting the real you?

Judge for yourself, m'boy!

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Go for it but make her work for it...

 

[Roli]

Ok, thanks all!