What I have noticed from these boards is that there is a divide between the types of users, which some define as the LTR seekers and the players. Although the paths take different directions, the ultimate goal of both sides is to reach a state of confidence, and I think this is where the real difference lies. Different people perceive confidence in two very different ways. For the sake of simplicity, I’ll call them “Internal Confidence” and “External Confidence”.
Internal confidence is the carefree "I don't give a fvck" attitude. Guys with this type of confidence are fearless when approaching women, and will approach any one at any time or place, caring not if they get rejected or insulted. They develop a cool/cold exterior, don’t care what anyone thinks of them and never get caught up with emotional issues. They enhance their confidence by eliminating the pain and embarrassment traditionally associated with rejection. The benefits being that they are able to get ahead in the numbers game and tend to sleep with a high quantity of women. Subscribers to this type of confidence include PUAs, Gunwitch, David DeAngelo, players and "jerks".
External confidence, on the other hand, is a type of confidence that is built around external influences, such as achievement, looks and appearance, compliments from others, reputation and popularity. This is the proud type of confidence that comes when you have good reason to believe in your own greatness. Men who have this can walk into a room and own it because they know they are admired and respected. Instead of ignoring criticism and rejection they use it as feedback and motivation for further improvement. They don’t chase women, because they don’t need to; the women are the ones chasing.
This might seem more like a discussion point than a tip, but the advice here is that you cannot master both forms of confidence. A man who doesn’t care will never have the drive to push himself to greatness and will fall into complacent habits, while a man who is striving for perfection can never be fully satisfied with himself and will continue to suffer his failures.
There are two different ways of developing these forms of confidence. Those seeking Internal confidence may try programmes such as DJ bootcamp, where they force themselves to confront and thus overcome their social fears and restrictions. They may purposely seek rejections in the hope of mentally and emotionally toughening up. Developing External confidence is merely a matter of bettering oneself. One may seek to improve physically via bodybuilding, dieting, grooming or fashion. One may try to improve their intelligence, charisma and personality, or their financial and career success.
There is no right or wrong; it depends entirely on your aims…but if you stray from one path you will get lost. You will become the jerk with oneitis or the popular guy with no patience for his friends. Speaking from experience, if you try to master both forms of confidence at one time your behaviour will become erratic and unsettling for others.
Internal confidence is the carefree "I don't give a fvck" attitude. Guys with this type of confidence are fearless when approaching women, and will approach any one at any time or place, caring not if they get rejected or insulted. They develop a cool/cold exterior, don’t care what anyone thinks of them and never get caught up with emotional issues. They enhance their confidence by eliminating the pain and embarrassment traditionally associated with rejection. The benefits being that they are able to get ahead in the numbers game and tend to sleep with a high quantity of women. Subscribers to this type of confidence include PUAs, Gunwitch, David DeAngelo, players and "jerks".
External confidence, on the other hand, is a type of confidence that is built around external influences, such as achievement, looks and appearance, compliments from others, reputation and popularity. This is the proud type of confidence that comes when you have good reason to believe in your own greatness. Men who have this can walk into a room and own it because they know they are admired and respected. Instead of ignoring criticism and rejection they use it as feedback and motivation for further improvement. They don’t chase women, because they don’t need to; the women are the ones chasing.
This might seem more like a discussion point than a tip, but the advice here is that you cannot master both forms of confidence. A man who doesn’t care will never have the drive to push himself to greatness and will fall into complacent habits, while a man who is striving for perfection can never be fully satisfied with himself and will continue to suffer his failures.
There are two different ways of developing these forms of confidence. Those seeking Internal confidence may try programmes such as DJ bootcamp, where they force themselves to confront and thus overcome their social fears and restrictions. They may purposely seek rejections in the hope of mentally and emotionally toughening up. Developing External confidence is merely a matter of bettering oneself. One may seek to improve physically via bodybuilding, dieting, grooming or fashion. One may try to improve their intelligence, charisma and personality, or their financial and career success.
There is no right or wrong; it depends entirely on your aims…but if you stray from one path you will get lost. You will become the jerk with oneitis or the popular guy with no patience for his friends. Speaking from experience, if you try to master both forms of confidence at one time your behaviour will become erratic and unsettling for others.
