2 dates...one night

[VictorK]

Hello All,

I've been working hard in the meeting women department and have managed to set up 2 dates in one night. This was not by design but due to circumstances it worked out that way. First date is a light coffe, dessert and then the 2nd date in taking her out for a party. I've left a 1 hr buffer between the expected end time for the first date and start of 2nd. Now I've never tried to pull this off before so any tips you may have please feel free.

Cheers

 

[Slickster]

Good work Vic!

This isn't as difficult as it may seem. It actually works in your favor.

Make sure the first date knows you have prior commitments that you cannot break. If the date goes well you will leave her "hanging" and that is a good thing. First dates should be simple, casual and should always be ended by you bolting out of there like you have something way more important to do. Tell her you had a great time and "talk to you soon". Don't talk about details regarding future dates. Be vague.

The 2nd date at a party isn't much of a "date". Not sure how well you know each other or if she knows other people at the party but this could pose some issues. If she's a stranger there you may end up stuck beside her all night. Not terrible, but ideally you should be mingling a bit. If she knows others there you get a bit of a break but watch for other dudes moving in. Make sure you introduce her to others and try to make her feel comfortable. It really depends on what her personality is like around strangers to how you act. If she's outgoing and comfortable don't be too clingy. If she's insecure you have to stick a little closer but try to get her talking to someone else so you can move around a little bit.

Depending on how outgoing you are a "party" date can be a big opportunity for you to display some big time social proof. Tell a cool story to everyone. Organize a drinking game or something similar. Do something that gets everyone laughing. The crew I roll with will go out of their way to help a brother out in situations like this so if you can, enlist a little help from your buddies. Tell them you are on a first date and you need some good wingmen to help make you look good. Depending on how well things go try to get her out of there earlier rather than later. You don't want to be the stragglers hanging around at the end of the night. Leaving early also gives you a chance for some actual one-on-one time which hopefully will make things seem more like a "date".

Good luck and next time go for 3!!! :yes:

 

[VictorK]

Good work Vic!

This isn't as difficult as it may seem. It actually works in your favor.

Make sure the first date knows you have prior commitments that you cannot break. If the date goes well you will leave her "hanging" and that is a good thing. First dates should be simple, casual and should always be ended by you bolting out of there like you have something way more important to do. Tell her you had a great time and "talk to you soon". Don't talk about details regarding future dates. Be vague.

The 2nd date at a party isn't much of a "date". Not sure how well you know each other or if she knows other people at the party but this could pose some issues. If she's a stranger there you may end up stuck beside her all night. Not terrible, but ideally you should be mingling a bit. If she knows others there you get a bit of a break but watch for other dudes moving in. Make sure you introduce her to others and try to make her feel comfortable. It really depends on what her personality is like around strangers to how you act. If she's outgoing and comfortable don't be too clingy. If she's insecure you have to stick a little closer but try to get her talking to someone else so you can move around a little bit.

Depending on how outgoing you are a "party" date can be a big opportunity for you to display some big time social proof. Tell a cool story to everyone. Organize a drinking game or something similar. Do something that gets everyone laughing. The crew I roll with will go out of their way to help a brother out in situations like this so if you can, enlist a little help from your buddies. Tell them you are on a first date and you need some good wingmen to help make you look good. Depending on how well things go try to get her out of there earlier rather than later. You don't want to be the stragglers hanging around at the end of the night. Leaving early also gives you a chance for some actual one-on-one time which hopefully will make things seem more like a "date".

Good luck and next time go for 3!!! :yes:

This is excellent advise thank you!!

After being out of the game (in LTR) for 4 years, I will admit it is a nice boost to the ego that I've managed to set this up.

My plan is to turn on the charm and neg like crazy on the early date, then bolt out of there and leave her wanting more. If things go well I will contact her a few days later to set a followup.

As for the 2nd date, I am taking her to a party where she knows no one but me. My friends will be there so I hope it works well where they can talk me up, and or keep her busy while I use that social proof to my advantage. My plan was to spend some time in the party, then try and get the party to move to her place.

 

[Slickster]

My plan was to spend some time in the party, then try and get the party to move to her place.

Love it!

Remember, some well-timed and subtle kino will go a long way in making her feel comfortable in a situation where she is a stranger.

Also, another slick move is:

During conversation amongst friends be sure to mention something you find interesting about her. Eg. "So Sally here is an avid mountain biker". It goes a long way to make others comfortable around her as well.

Good luck

Slick.

 

[VictorK]

UPDATE:

I took the advise Slickster provided and framed my strategy of the night around his advise. It was almost as if Slickster was Bill Belichick calling in the plays and I had to march the team 95 yards down the field to win the game lol.

Date #1. She arrived 10 minutes late but sent me a heads up text. I had gotten there on time, reserved a table, and then teased and negged her. Conversation flowed very well, and we seemed to have similar tastes. When the bill came I took care of it and she was insistent that she pay half, and then she said "I'll pay for the next time". I cut the date after 90 minutes (the time flew by) and said I have other plans but it was fun to hang out. Overall I think it went well.

Date #2 Soon as I left date 1, I drove to pick up date number 2. She was dressed to impress and was ready to party. I teased her the whole car drive down, we got to the party and we had a good time. I cut the party short and told her lets go back to her place. Later that night, I f*** closed her and was home by sunrise.

Needless to say im exhausted...but I would recommend the experience to all DJs out there.

VictorK