1st Impression Always Great But Does Not Last

[2c2bt]

This happens to me all the freaking time.
Always always always always.

I meet a girl, and she is all totally into me. After a few min of conversation, she cannot stand me.

I am an AFC, but for some reason cannot hold a conversation with a really hot girl. I was talking to this model today. An HB10. Super super hot, and very well educated. When she first met me, she told me that she liked me. But then, we conversated, and I could not figure out how to develop a rapport with somebody so uninteresting.

I wanted to sleep with her, so I tried acting like I was interested in what she had to say. But she had absolutely nothing interesting to talk about. She was all obsessed with basket ball. (She's from Dallas, and she hates the Miami Heat with a passion.) I'm like who cares, it's just basketball. But of course, I did not say that. I just tired to act intresested, but I could not get into her blinded enthusiasm about bleeding basketball.

It's not just that, it's all the time. I have a very difficult time relating to illogical attitudes that many women I meet have. It's like things that I find completely insignificant such as talking to about people's mothers, playing games, and talking about basketball tend to get people all emotionally riled up.

 

[ProtoMan1]

This happens to me all the freaking time.
Always always always always.

I meet a girl, and she is all totally into me. After a few min of conversation, she cannot stand me.

I am an AFC, but for some reason cannot hold a conversation with a really hot girl. I was talking to this model today. An HB10. Super super hot, and very well educated. When she first met me, she told me that she liked me. But then, we conversated, and I could not figure out how to develop a rapport with somebody so uninteresting.

I wanted to sleep with her, so I tried acting like I was interested in what she had to say. But she had absolutely nothing interesting to talk about. She was all obsessed with basket ball. (She's from Dallas, and she hates the Miami Heat with a passion.) I'm like who cares, it's just basketball. But of course, I did not say that. I just tired to act intresested, but I could not get into her blinded enthusiasm about bleeding basketball.

It's not just that, it's all the time. I have a very difficult time relating to illogical attitudes that many women I meet have. It's like things that I find completely insignificant such as talking to about people's mothers, playing games, and talking about basketball tend to get people all emotionally riled up.

She's from Dallas and is rooting for the Mavericks, they are in the Finals trying to win a championsip. If your favorite team was in the championship round, you'd probably be very enthusiastic about that team too.

Well, not to sound mean, but it sounds like you have nothing in common with her and had nothing else to talk about. Which screams boring, and it makes sense why she bolted on you. Just wanted to sleep with her? Was that all you were looking for? Geez. Maybe read a little more on current events so you have something to talk about.

 

[PeterNorthisawesome]

Damn! you gotta go read building attraction and rapport from the bible. The basic principal is teasing her, kino and making her feel different emotions. You should have asked what else she likes and found out what you guys have in common so you could talk about it. I'm rooting for Miama cuz Wade is sick! so if I met with the same girl I would tease her for being a mavs fan and telling her they'll lose in a playful way.

 

[Wiesman44]

If you find yourself having difficulty holding a conversation, I'd say that stems from not being social enough when you were younger and trying to talk to as many people as you can.

Try talking to lots of different people, guys and girls alike. And focus on keeping the conversation going, anyway you can.

There's no remedy to this, although I'm sure you could read some self-help books dealing with conversation.

ALl together, i'd say you will develop this skill by experience.

 

[Serialized3]

Tighten up your midgame. Have something interesting to talk about. Lead the conversation.

 

[Rocko]

Wow man, come on, are you kidding me with this post?? You should shoot yourself in the foot to learn a leason. ITS CALLED LISTENING. Conversations are NEVER one-sided. If a person DOES NOT put in input on a certain situation, or is NOT listening (like you, since you were "pretending" to), that person will not develop ANY rapport. Think man, think, how do you build up a rapport?? hmmm, lets see, ACTUALLY LISTEN, lead the conversation to get her saying what YOU want her to say.

 

[2c2bt]

Maybe read a little more on current events so you have something to talk about.

I know about the current events, but have not been really obsessed with it.
This is wha it know about:
Shaq cannot make fouls hots even though he is supposedly a professional basketball player. Even furthermore, supposedly a star athlete.
Wade is the guy that is carrying the rest of Miami.
There is a guy in dallas that falls on the floor whenever he makes a 3-pointer.

Damn! you gotta go read building attraction and rapport from the bible. The basic principal is teasing her, kino and making her feel different emotions. You should have asked what else she likes and found out what you guys have in common so you could talk about it. I'm rooting for Miama cuz Wade is sick! so if I met with the same girl I would tease her for being a mavs fan and telling her they'll lose in a playful way.

I sort of said something regarding teasing her about Dallas, and she got major pissed.

If you find yourself having difficulty holding a conversation, I'd say that stems from not being social enough when you were younger and trying to talk to as many people as you can.

I agree. I need practice talking to as many people as I can which I have been doing more and more this past year. Previously, I never put any effort into talking to anybody.

Tighten up your midgame. Have something interesting to talk about. Lead the conversation.

Good idea. I'd like to learn more about mindgame.

ACTUALLY LISTEN, lead the conversation to get her saying what YOU want her to say.

I know I can do this, but I guess al it takes is practice.
I definitely need to pay more attention to listening instead of thinking about what I am going to say.