1st contact ( call or SMS ) ?

[kixs]

A little background...

I was with my girl-roommate at one party, and there was this real great girl ( easy 9++ ) and we flirted a bit, but I never made a move ( AFC got me ). I knew that my roommate knows her.

Now I have her telephone number but just don't know if i should make a call or just send her an SMS?

I know I should made a move before ( 3 days ago ) , and I know that I should defenitly call her. But I belive that SMS is not so intrusive ( intruding? ).

If I call her, and she isn't at the phone, then I know she won't call back - no woman ever does!

Any thoughts ?

thx

 

[Seeph]

sms might not be as intrusive.. but it sure is 'stand-off-ish' for a first contact.

 

[Paid Laid & Made]

Use the phone. I only use SMS when setting up something on the fly or checking on the status of a future date.

 

[kixs]

I am aware that call would be more powerfull , but around here the SMS's are really popular, with my other girl I only write SMS's.

I am gonna call her, then if she doesn't answer the phone I'll send her SMS after few hours.

I think this should be ok.

Any other opinions?

thx

 

[ulex76]

I think you really should call her; it shows you have guts and that you are different from the other guys who uses SMS a lot in your country. Just keep the voice calm.

Try to call twice and only if not answered, send a SMS.

Ulex

 

[glowstix]

i got advice...... pick up your skirt and call her..

does the president ask everyone in the country what he should do?

ya know I see it far to often that everyone needs input to proceed with going through with a plan they know they have...


when you just act and mess up thats where u really learn lessons and skill.. PRACTICE PRACTICE PRACTICE makes perfect...


just do it the world isnt gonna stop spinning if she doesnt want anything to do with you..

 

[kixs]

--- short version ---

I have called her and the disaster happened.

She didn't remember me.

Well what the hack.

--- not so short one ----

It was the way I imagined... I called, she answered with a very confused voice... I talked to her with very calm voice... and she immidiatly wanted to know who I am. So I told her where we seen each other... and she didn't remember, then she asked me what I was wearing - i told her ... but she still couldn't remember ( ok, maybe she did, but just didn't want anything with me ).

Then I calmly told her that if she doesn't remember me, then I won't bother her any more... said to have a nice evening and bye-bye.

----

Analysis:

I have done some really BIG mistakes with this girl.

- I didn't go talk to her at the party and introduced myself

- I guess she is a party girl (??) and she didn't want things slow
- I guess its better to SMS if you don't know each other ( never been introduced ). Couse then its more like a game while talking live on the phone puts too much pressure on her and me.

A while ago one girl did this SMS thing to me and it was fun... we actually met, but I didn't like her.


This is it...

bye

 

[Adam See]

You called a girl you haven't spoken to before?

 

[kixs]

Originally posted by Adam See
You called a girl you haven't spoken to before?

That's why the title says: 1st Contact

I know its seems dumb, but we flirted for about 2hours and I was angry with myself, couse I didn't make the opportunity to talk to her.

Anyways I got one other # that night at one other party that was earlier, so I didn't actually care about it, but the thing that I couldn't make myself talk to her made me very angry!!

I can talk to any girl any time, but in this group there were three 9++ babes and this is like a real problem to me. I don't think I could handle it @ the party. I knew that I can get a # from my friend. But I guess I made too much of a BIG deal about it.

No problem, life goes on... and I swear to myself that I will never miss the opportunity like this again!

bye

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

kixs

Good lessoned learned and the world is still revolving on its' axis and around the sun - lucky for us mortals!

Anyway her interest level couldn;t have been too high if she didn't remember you after 2 hours of flirting - maybe you got the wrong vibe from her.

I could imagine sweat started dropping from your forehead when she told you she don't remember you - but hanging up was your best option instead of prolonging your agony.