18 year old just left my house in kind of a fit

[Droz88]

Well so I started dating this 18 year old this week. I'm 24. We went out for the second time tonight and came back to my place. Started fooling around but no sex. She may be a virgin I don't know. At the end of the night I walked her to her car and she said we were moving fast and asked if I wanted a relationship. I replied "well the thing is that I'm leaving in 2 months". Right when I said this she stopped hugging me, got in her car, and left pretty much barely saying goodbye. I told her before we started dating and during our first date that i was leaving in 2 months. I just texted her and told her to have a good night and that I hope she's ok. How should i handle it from here?

 

[Greasy Pig]

I'd leave the ball in her court. You've sent her a text, she would've received it. If she's DTF before you leave, she'll respond and be receptive to your advances.

I'd say it's a sort of shyt test. Instead of being mature (virtually impossible for an 18-25 yo chick) and talking about the issue, she pretends to spit the dummy and expects you to come crawling back and placate her with compliments and gifts.

Let her have her little immature tantrum. Maybe even break her ballls over it and tease her about her bad temper. But NOT until she replies to your last text asking if she was ok.

 

[Fly By Night]

Did you actually push for sex or did you just fool around and not try to have sex? Because she told you that you guys were moving too fast when you guys were going to the car (as opposed to saying that while fooling around). She really did not seem like she wanted a relationship so she probably just wanted sex imo.

I can't really see why she would come into your place and not want anything to come out of it...

 

[Trump]

Well so I started dating this 18 year old this week. I'm 24. We went out for the second time tonight and came back to my place. Started fooling around but no sex. She may be a virgin I don't know. At the end of the night I walked her to her car and she said we were moving fast and asked if I wanted a relationship. I replied "well the thing is that I'm leaving in 2 months". Right when I said this she stopped hugging me, got in her car, and left pretty much barely saying goodbye. ?

Hmmm...an 18 year old girl asks you if want a relationship with her after fooling around and you tell her you are leaving in 2 months? Why the heck would you even tell a girl this at the beginning?

Dude you have to bring her in so she's absolutely 100 percent in love with you, and then decide if you want to continue to see her. Be in a position of power. You are doing her favor by seeing her, not the other way around.

 

[Droz88]

I pushed sex but she kept resisting. I finally got her to take her top off but when I started going for the pants she insisted no. I just met her on wednesday. She said we were moving too fast while in my bedroom and at her car. Yeah I totally thought she was dtf today but guess not.

Yeah well she responded and was texting me like nothing happened??? So idk my first instinct was that this was a shyt test. He last text told me to enjoy my weekend off kind of implying that she won't be seeing me. Should I reach out to her this weekend if she doesn't reach out to me?

Man she claims to have no friends and to be a loner but even a girl on her own will play these ****ed mind games?

Yes greasypig, i'll bust her balls about this next time we talk. Good suggestion!

 

[Droz88]

Hmmm...an 18 year old girl asks you if want a relationship with her after fooling around and you tell her you are leaving in 2 months? Why the heck would you even tell a girl this at the beginning?

Dude you have to bring her in so she's absolutely 100 percent in love with you, and then decide if you want to continue to see her. Be in a position of power. You are doing her favor by seeing her, not the other way around.

Well I think a critical piece of info is that I already told her this before we fooled around. So in my opinion I think make this a shyt test. I think she might already be falling for me and hence that's why she asked for a relationship?

Wait so you're suggesting not saying anything about leaving in 2 months? Then after 2 months just tell her the relationship isn't working and break up?

 

[Fly By Night]

Hey sorry about that, I read your first post wrong. She seems to be saving her vag in a lame attempt to boost its value. She may crack if you persist.

I know in my personal life, there are girls who say that they will NEVER have sex before being in a relationship with the guy. But a wise man once said, If she makes you wait for it, it's never worth it.

 

[BMX]

Wow, I'm in the opposite situation. Talking to an 18 year old who is leaving in 2 months. She keeps saying that I'm "buff" and that I must be a "bodybuilder." Yesterday she was telling me how nice my new(er) ride is and asked me how old I am. Definately DTF? Probably.

I would say like the poster above said, persist and she'll likely melt. I would not give that same advice for someone twice that age, speaking from experience.

 

[flashpoint]

may i say i am really impressed? 3-4 weeks ago you posted that you were at a major low and even recently you complained about the bad situation with your roommate and his gf. what i find impressive is how quickly you have made changes and actually did something about it. and success already begins to show. good for you. there might be setbacks but no matter what i have a pretty good feeling you'll get there eventually.

 

[Droz88]

Thank you for noticing, flashpoint. It's because I read this material every single day. At 24 and having had a pretty poor sex life the clock is ticking so it's now or never. Yes there is a setback, basically all my plates seem to be falling off. I'm gonna go out today and try to get 2-3 more numbers. The last number I got I feel I did a lot better talking to her and building comfort so yes there is success. The success, thus far, will be dependent on advice and input from guys like you. John Alexander's, "How to be an Alpha Male" has been a great help. Until proven otherwise, it is best to assume that everything in that book is true.

Back to this 18 year old...so would you guys think I should reach out to her if she doesn't reach out to me after the way our text convo ended?

 

[sassygirlie89]

But why would you bother reaching out to her if you are leaving in 2 months?? It's clear she wants more than just sex so I doubt she is going to crack knowing that you are leaving in 2 months. It's just sex you want isn't it??

 

[flashpoint]

sassy has a valid point here.

on the other hand you told her in the beginning, right? so the 2months might not be an issue. but rereading the first post you said something about "I pushed sex but she kept resisting".


that is not something you want to do. you need to warm her up first. even it seems like a sure thing, any lady needs to feel appreciated and that you dont just use her. building tension, teasin, playful one step after another. make her comfortable, make her hot, make her horny and just follow the signs. LMR is usually just an indicator of bad timing.

if you like a good read on that, i recommend David Deangelos books. google them and you find some free downloads. and if not i can pm them to you if you want. "bridges" and "sexual communication" in particular. only a few pages but i found them pretty helpful back then.

as for the situation at hand, i dunno. usually once you have gotten that far but not further the whole thing is blown. maybe i would go out and have some fun and then call her up to join. keeping it light and with no pressure. and then take it from there.

 

[incognito42]

But why would you bother reaching out to her if you are leaving in 2 months?? It's clear she wants more than just sex so I doubt she is going to crack knowing that you are leaving in 2 months. It's just sex you want isn't it??

Sassy you gave up the booty on the first 2 dates to a guy you really like who was showing signs of only wanting a piece of ass. If that guy can get in you pants, then this guy can get in her pants if she really likes him. I doubt him leaving in 2 months will stop her from giving it up if she likes him and wants dyck, and he plays his cards right

 

[sassygirlie89]

Ehhhh but this girl doesn't want sex. I didn't say I didn't want sex with this guy. Heck the sex is great. Unfortunately I am starting to quite like this guy and the sex as well but he is giving me mixed signals. And I don't just have sex with any guy, especially if they are not great looking and I don't get on with them.

And don't try to prove your point in this post through my post. We are talking about this situation not mine. Thank you

 

[Droz88]

Alright well she is coming over again tonight to finish watching the movie we started yesterday. So according to flashpoint I shouldn't push sex again until I've made her feel more comfortable and appreciated? Well I doubt I'll get a response quick enought since she'll be here in less than an hour. I guess I'll back off a little tonight but I'll definitely keep up SOME physical contact to let her know i'm not just a "friend".

Edit:

Flashpoint, what you just said seems pretty contrary to all other material that i've read. I've read that if she's into you she will say "no" to your advances without really meaning it. My impression was that you should continue to push sex until she puts up a strong objection. **** I don't know what to do now.

 

[flashpoint]

I guess I'll back off a little tonight but I'll definitely keep up SOME physical contact to let her know i'm not just a "friend".

geez. NO. that is a missunderstanding. by making her comfortable i v meant telling her what you like about her, body parts and so on. then you show how much you like them. just sounded like were trying to rip her clothes of and get it done. but maybe i missunderstood and did you wrong.

well she comes over to "finish the movie" ??? right we all know what that means
seems like she has thought about it and is ok with it. enjoy.:cheer:

 

[good looking loser]

Well so I started dating this 18 year old this week. I'm 24. We went out for the second time tonight and came back to my place. Started fooling around but no sex. She may be a virgin I don't know. At the end of the night I walked her to her car and she said we were moving fast and asked if I wanted a relationship. I replied "well the thing is that I'm leaving in 2 months". Right when I said this she stopped hugging me, got in her car, and left pretty much barely saying goodbye. I told her before we started dating and during our first date that i was leaving in 2 months. I just texted her and told her to have a good night and that I hope she's ok. How should i handle it from here?

text her in a few days
if she texts back
call her right then

make small talk
then talk about meeting up

when you meet up
try to bang her again

repeat until successful

 

[Droz88]

Alright well she just left. We talked a bit (got to know her more and listened), we finished the movie, I cooker her dinner, and then we started fooling around but her mom called and told her to come home so he had to leave.

Ok so you guys may rip me for supplicating but she definitely had a different vibe towards me after I cooked for her. She kissed me a lot better when we were making out. I got her shirt off effortlessly but that's when her mom called. We made no plans for later but when I walked her to her car she said "i'll see you soon". So all in all good night. I'm 100% going to go for the kill next time I see her.