100 Approach commitment

[gtownjuan]

From today Feb 17, 2008 i, gtownjuan make to commitment of approaching 100 HBs. I will not counting any previous attempts n will only record if i actually approach n try to enguage in convo.

I've approach several girls before but tried to do self help by justing reading up articles. Maybe you guys' input can help me to learn faster.

 

[gtownjuan]

update for today 23 February 2008

Almost a week already. Been real busy at work n study. I can't remember seeing any girl worth approaching yet. Maybe i should just drop my standards a bit. I've got to get out more. Where do HB's usually hang out? I cant seam to spot them.

I can't let myself fall behind, so as step one, i MUST talk to one random girl everyday and one HB 5+ every other day. And at least 5 short convos with new ppl as well.

I've set my mind to it and will do it.

I'm also starting back gym mon and will post my schedual on the health n fitness forum.

 

[gtownjuan]

Now that i actually have to goal of approaching, i dont. Why!!!! I see her, i want her then i stick around and eventually flake. Arg!!!!

I know so much that i can literally tell how she is feeling, i can read her mind. Body language n other non verbal communication has become a six sense to me.

I know her life is boring and she should be glad to have 5 second of experiencing mine.

So why dont i just initiate.

Certainly i know that the advice you guys give here 'really' can help me in this situation. I have to make to difference

Do for you experienced Don Juans how did u get over approach anxiety. Maybe you'd say "just do it" And all that im saying now is me bit*hing out of insecurity but i do wanna change.

I wanna be successful and i know u dont really care for my life. Noone does

So i will approach n will soon.

 

[qstorm501]

I can give you only one piece of advice ..Do you remember that nike slogan?
JUST DO IT!!!

Honestly though i think you should try taking baby steps for now.. until your ready just concentrate on making small talk with strangers.. tell a stranger man dosent this weather suck..you see someone wearing a jersey of a local sports favorite ask him where he got it..tell your local gas attendant man you guys are slow tonight...ask a HB for directions even if you already know where the place is..

Just take it step by step your not gonna go from shyness to supreme #closer in one giant leap.

Good luck!

 

[gtownjuan]

but im pretty good at meeting people already I can open a stranger easily n literally talk about anything. Its just with the hb im sexually interested in.

 

[Shyyhs]

You're having my prob gtown. A bad approach gives a negative income and it's scorched in the back of your mind.

 

[shaunuk]

Hey gtown, just interested where you're from, because gtown is a well-used nickname for a town near where I live

 

[gtownjuan]

im from GEORGETOWN, GUYANA probably 1000000 mile from where you're referring to.

 

[ready123]

3 second rule! 3 second rule! 3 second rule!

AKA don't think and just open your mouth

 

[gtownjuan]

You're having my prob gtown. A bad approach gives a negative income and it's scorched in the back of your mind.

Bad approach? You mean 'approach' to the idea of approaching or actually messing up when approaching?

I get along fine with girls i already know, they're like homies. That sexy hb8 - 10 over there does intimidate me though. And i know i have what it takes to escalade things. I just let fear mess things up, hesitation takes over n i fell like she's already seen the afc n i eject.

 

[gtownjuan]

3 second rule! 3 second rule! 3 second rule!

That's all i need to follow. + 2 shots of alcohol.

 

[gtownjuan]

......double post.......

 

[gtownjuan]

Ok Approach No. primero

I start back on dancing classes: ballroom and latin. I see this HB7 (I stopped classes for like 3 months or so.) Not talk during classes(a little eye contact tho) but afterwards i smile at her and she smiles back so i make small talk, she seams responsiveI didn't reallytalk to her much on the walk tho cause i was chattin with my other dancing frens. As we reach the conrner (where the buses pass in my country) I tell them all lata n head home opposite direction to where they were going.

I'm thinking of chattin her up more next class. But good start.

 

[Microphone Fiend]

nice job with the dancing classes. I think I might try one of those coz I remember another poster excelling in this field. keep the approaches coming!

 

[gtownjuan]

Approach 2
Went to a pool shop with my friend. There was this HB6.5 working at the counter fixing towels and stuff. So I walk up to the counter

Me looking puzzled cause noone is behind the counter

HB6.5: Can I help you?
Me: Yea. Are you just gonna stand there n not sell me some coins (to play pool with)
HB6.5 Oh I don’t handle the money.
Me: I wonder why? (with sly grin)

Boss lady comes to sell me laughing n saying only she handles the money.
Collects the coins n head to table to start

We play for like 2 hours n so. The place isn’t really busy. I go upto the counter again n make small chat with HB6.5 while I get more games, non big. But go a few laughs

As I’m leaving she is by the exit n I wave n she tell me “Enjoy the rest of your day”
?????????????? I feel better about myself now.

Approach 3
This chick actually approaches me. ????

I’m at the corner after work today. And I see these nice legs under an umbrella(its raining)heading past me. HB7 shows her face.

HB7: Somn about how my umbrella is nicer than hers
I walk up to her.
Me: “I like yours more, let’s trade”
HB7 smiles
Me: Touches her umbrella its kinda boney but it’s do”
HB7 laughs “Really you wanna trade?”
Me: “Yea”.
HB7: “I’m going to pick up my niece”
Me: “Ok”
Me: extends hands “Im gtownjuan. You?”
HB7 “HB7”
Me: “Nice to meet you, HB7”
Shakes hands
small talk about how she look n how she is cold. And how she sees me walking throught the same street in a blue shirt...
HB7 “There’s my mom” car approaches
Me: “Ok see you lata”
HB7 walks to car n I see a woman comes out looking like her mom
I catch a bus n head home. Feeling so much more confident.

She lives right at the corner so i might get some follow up another day,

 

[gtownjuan]

update

Well things have improved from the last time.

At dancing class i got to know that girl better and am feeling the rhythm of the music too. At the end of class the other girls there were more kinda into me too. Gotta love female competition.

I haven't dont any cold approaches yet but i see opportunities all over the place. It really pisses me off when i just walk away from them. I was thinking of just doing an opener where you make a comment on your surrounding or the girl herself like you're talking to yourself out loud and she will reply.

Fvk man im expecting shyt to happen like that but im learing to be more patient. So what i will be doing now is trying to build sexual tension in a conversation with the attrative women i already know. And if i see any open opportunities i will approach one way or another and hope for the best.

 

[Lord Shinra]

Just remember bro, with every approach, look on the bright side and dont let a bad approach kill your morale.

 

[DismantleRepair]

Approach 3 is good, you got her laughing and smiling. The umbrella trade would be a good moment for kino, as well as her being cold in the rain. Of course her mum coming over stopped you getting the number, but that was out of your control, so forget about it and keep approaching!

 

[HarlequinMan]

gj man....this is a start of a new life for you...

 

[gtownjuan]

Approach 4- in church lol

I went to church for a special mass Saturday with my parents. At church before mass started i was chatting with my close cousin and she was in this RCIA class where people out a religion join to become catholics. So anyway i ask her who else is in the class and she pints out a few people and a whole bench of them,o one which is a HB7 i had my eyes on So idea pops into my head and i say "i'll go and socialise" and i head in for the hb7 who is sitting like 5 benches in from of where i was. I'm telling myself that i must get over my fear.

I sit right next to her

I nevevous as hell but i say somethings anyway
Me: Hi
HB7: hi
Me: So i heard you were in the RCIA classes.
HB7: Yea
Making eye contact with the whole bench of like 2 other girls.
Me: You guys in class too?
They look at me and say nothing but give a little nod
Me to hb7: So you all in one class?
HB7: Yea 1 st year
Me: . You're in class with *points to cousin* her
HB7: Yea
Me: So what do you think of it?
HB&: blah blah classes is nice...they read scriptures...getting baptised next years...
Me: So what religion is your family?
HB&: Cristian but i live with my Aunt....
Me: *asking about aunt and how she like chruch etc*
HB7: My aunt checks up but lives overseas...likes the catholic faith....

During all this time i didn't get much kino but i got her smiling a bit, cant remember using C&F but it was fun and i felt so good i closed by saying i'll see you around and went back to my cousin.

A little after i say 2 hbs take seats two benches behind my cousin. When i looked at them they did the hair flick thing but i didn't really want to approach anymore and since i was feeling so good i wanted them to earn my approach.
I just carried through mass and didn't bother follow up, I felt good but i know next time i will have to push things a little more..