i have been with my girl now for about a year. its getting dicey, and the past couple of girls i have had for long term, the 1 year rut is inevitable and eventually is the straw that breaks the camels back, so to speak. anybody have similar expeiriences? i still love the girl, but damn, its like theres nothing new anymore. same old ****.... and trying to break it- is easy for a day or two, but then we fall back into the same rut.
1 year rut
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Master Don Juan
Can't really give you any advice based on that overly detailed post. Sh1t will be boring at times but you have to ask yourself do you enjoy yourself more now or when you were single. Be careful when you answer that.
ChumpNoMore
Don Juan
I recall reading here, a few times, that it takes 3 months before chicks begin to let the facade slip, and that by 6 months you should have a pretty good idea if the girl is marriage material or not... So?
KontrollerX
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All you 17 and 18 year old aspiring DJ lurkers read this topic well.
This is what the path of relationships and marriage leads to.
That of course being boring routine/ritual what have you.
Keep in mind that THIS is the kind of boring life the morality crew DJ's consider fulfilling while they consider the DJ player lifestyle where you have a new girl every week and just pump em and dump em that in their mindset is empty by comparison.
Unbelievable but yes young would be DJ's you have a choice to make.
Go down this societal approved yet ultimately boredom producing truly unfulfilling route or you can have many many MANY years of fun and variety by going your own way and just pumping em and dumping em which is a truly fulfilling life.
Living your life for yourself and for as much fun and variety as you can get is the path where you live free and work towards your greater good.
Staying on the societal approved path is the path of fear and stagnation, its MOSTLY for guys that still need a mommy. In addition to certain guys needing a mommy the societal relationship/marriage path is also the path of sacrifice.
Your work and your time all devoted to the wife, her relatives and any kids she sh!ts out. You decrease while she increases...in more ways than one if you don't discourage her from getting complacent and lazy in the marriage and letting herself go with box after box of twinkies!
The societal marriage/relationship path that so many bozos strive towards is typically motivated by fear, the fear of being alone and becoming the lonely old man but one can be just as lonely in an excitement and passion free marriage or relationship as one can be by themselves. Of course these bozos never take the time to think about it and so that realization usually never enters their minds.
So again young DJ's think deeply about what you want your life to be.
That of fun, variety, freedom and true fulfillment which is the DJ way ie the ice cold player path or marriage/relationships which are sacrifice and slavery designed to look like the promised land you have waited your whole life to finally be a part of.
This is what the path of relationships and marriage leads to.
That of course being boring routine/ritual what have you.
Keep in mind that THIS is the kind of boring life the morality crew DJ's consider fulfilling while they consider the DJ player lifestyle where you have a new girl every week and just pump em and dump em that in their mindset is empty by comparison.
Unbelievable but yes young would be DJ's you have a choice to make.
Go down this societal approved yet ultimately boredom producing truly unfulfilling route or you can have many many MANY years of fun and variety by going your own way and just pumping em and dumping em which is a truly fulfilling life.
Living your life for yourself and for as much fun and variety as you can get is the path where you live free and work towards your greater good.
Staying on the societal approved path is the path of fear and stagnation, its MOSTLY for guys that still need a mommy. In addition to certain guys needing a mommy the societal relationship/marriage path is also the path of sacrifice.
Your work and your time all devoted to the wife, her relatives and any kids she sh!ts out. You decrease while she increases...in more ways than one if you don't discourage her from getting complacent and lazy in the marriage and letting herself go with box after box of twinkies!
The societal marriage/relationship path that so many bozos strive towards is typically motivated by fear, the fear of being alone and becoming the lonely old man but one can be just as lonely in an excitement and passion free marriage or relationship as one can be by themselves. Of course these bozos never take the time to think about it and so that realization usually never enters their minds.
So again young DJ's think deeply about what you want your life to be.
That of fun, variety, freedom and true fulfillment which is the DJ way ie the ice cold player path or marriage/relationships which are sacrifice and slavery designed to look like the promised land you have waited your whole life to finally be a part of.
Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
IamMyownMan
Don Juan
Strey-
1 year down.
Do you share values and goals or will you have to concede your goals and/or values to remain in this relationship?
Irreconcilable differences happen.
You live in the poontang capital of NC, especially this time of year, so maybe all the hot women are just giving you a case of is the grass greener?
DO YOU.
1 year down.
Do you share values and goals or will you have to concede your goals and/or values to remain in this relationship?
Irreconcilable differences happen.
You live in the poontang capital of NC, especially this time of year, so maybe all the hot women are just giving you a case of is the grass greener?
DO YOU.
Da Realist
Master Don Juan
The time I really found myself in a rut was when I felt like I didn't have any control in my relationship or life in general. It felt like I was living for everyone else and doing nothing for myself. Things fell apart around that time. The thing is if I had just stood up and made time to have some fun for myself, things would have turned around. My view is that the reason you're in a rut is because you've forgot something: always try to have fun for yourself when you're with your woman. Do not ever let them bring your mood down because really, they depend on your happiness and joy to feel good about themselves. To keep that from happening, go take up a hobby. Exercise a little more. Visit a new bar. Just try something new and bring your own contentment to your life. When you do that, your rut will end.
Scaramouche
Master Don Juan
Dear Strey,
ControllerX has it right....His posts are consistently sooo spot on,how he can just be just 28,keep it up.....Dancing is sometimes said to be the Vertical projection of Horizontal Desire...though still a long way off,it is the closest human activity to love making....Argentine Tango has a culture that involves changing partners at every set of Music...As there are two women for every Man this makes it far more interesting than Ball Room Dancing....This is why spinning Plates is the way to go,keeps both parties on their toes....Do you want to eat Steak and Eggs for Breakfast Every day?Of course Not even if Escoffier is doing the cooking...Never,but never spend more than four nights a week with one Woman,And Yeah Collossus has it soo right,Never under any circumstance move in with them...Holidays,cruises Yeah Maybe,the stimulating environment does keep the interest levels up,but to be constantly involved with mundane domestics....Forget about it...If you are lonely or need to defray expenses get a congenial Boarder,if He gets up your Nose,Pviss him off,No Sweat.
ControllerX has it right....His posts are consistently sooo spot on,how he can just be just 28,keep it up.....Dancing is sometimes said to be the Vertical projection of Horizontal Desire...though still a long way off,it is the closest human activity to love making....Argentine Tango has a culture that involves changing partners at every set of Music...As there are two women for every Man this makes it far more interesting than Ball Room Dancing....This is why spinning Plates is the way to go,keeps both parties on their toes....Do you want to eat Steak and Eggs for Breakfast Every day?Of course Not even if Escoffier is doing the cooking...Never,but never spend more than four nights a week with one Woman,And Yeah Collossus has it soo right,Never under any circumstance move in with them...Holidays,cruises Yeah Maybe,the stimulating environment does keep the interest levels up,but to be constantly involved with mundane domestics....Forget about it...If you are lonely or need to defray expenses get a congenial Boarder,if He gets up your Nose,Pviss him off,No Sweat.
NewMan
Master Don Juan
If it's been a year and it's getting dicey - time to eject.
your 27 - are you ready for a commited relationship?
If the answer is no - stop putting yourself into these positions.
your 27 - are you ready for a commited relationship?
If the answer is no - stop putting yourself into these positions.