Hey guys,
I'm a first time poster here.. I've been reading for a looong time and I think i've picked up a few things. I'm in HS, however the reason I didn't post on the HS forum, was cause i wanted the advice from some people who have gone through this and have a mature opinion to offer.
Here's the deal. I've been going out with my gf for almost a year. She used to be my obsession, on a complete pedestal. I'll admit I had no inner game in the earlier stages but lately, I think i've been much more at terms with myself, and I'm proud of my accomplishments that way. Everyone always says this, but this girl is almost perfect. She's very good looking, very smart, athletic, outgoing, loving etc. The thing with me is that I have incredibly high standards, but very little game when it comes to someone that meets those standards. Girls i have no interest in are always all over me, but when a girl I like comes around, I can't stop thinking about her. This girl loves me, and I love her (I don't think its puppy love anymore). We're best friends, and she means a great deal to me.
SO HERES THE PROBLEM:
Ever since I met her, my grades have gone down quite a bit. It's cause of inner game problems.. not cause of her. My priorities have just changed. I've never admitted this to her until tonight.
Side note: On my quest to don juanness, as my grades dropped, i realized that my grades really contributed to my ego. I judge my own value based on my accomplishments. Lately I've been starting to change this, and believe in myself no matter what... but I'm not quite sure it's a good thing. It creates complacency.
Anyway, so I talked to her about it.. many of you may say it wasn't a very don juan move... however although I may agree, it's been eating at me. Haha here's the kicker though... I have two tests tomorrow.. I'll probably be pulling an allnighter studying.. and she pretty much leaves halfway through the conversation cause its past her bedtime. Although i take the time to talk to her, sacrificing a lot more than her, she leaves half way through.
MY QUESTION IS:
What should I do?
I want to know from everyone, but especially from those of you with this kind of experience.
a) Dump her
Pros: Be able to focus on myself more, work on inner game, school, the works
Cons: Not very manly.. shouldnt a DJ be able to cope with his responsibilities?
b) See her less while working on inner game
Pros: Probably the right thing to do
Cons: I've been trying ever since i started going out with her.
I'd really appreciate hearing from you guys.
I'm a first time poster here.. I've been reading for a looong time and I think i've picked up a few things. I'm in HS, however the reason I didn't post on the HS forum, was cause i wanted the advice from some people who have gone through this and have a mature opinion to offer.
Here's the deal. I've been going out with my gf for almost a year. She used to be my obsession, on a complete pedestal. I'll admit I had no inner game in the earlier stages but lately, I think i've been much more at terms with myself, and I'm proud of my accomplishments that way. Everyone always says this, but this girl is almost perfect. She's very good looking, very smart, athletic, outgoing, loving etc. The thing with me is that I have incredibly high standards, but very little game when it comes to someone that meets those standards. Girls i have no interest in are always all over me, but when a girl I like comes around, I can't stop thinking about her. This girl loves me, and I love her (I don't think its puppy love anymore). We're best friends, and she means a great deal to me.
SO HERES THE PROBLEM:
Ever since I met her, my grades have gone down quite a bit. It's cause of inner game problems.. not cause of her. My priorities have just changed. I've never admitted this to her until tonight.
Side note: On my quest to don juanness, as my grades dropped, i realized that my grades really contributed to my ego. I judge my own value based on my accomplishments. Lately I've been starting to change this, and believe in myself no matter what... but I'm not quite sure it's a good thing. It creates complacency.
Anyway, so I talked to her about it.. many of you may say it wasn't a very don juan move... however although I may agree, it's been eating at me. Haha here's the kicker though... I have two tests tomorrow.. I'll probably be pulling an allnighter studying.. and she pretty much leaves halfway through the conversation cause its past her bedtime. Although i take the time to talk to her, sacrificing a lot more than her, she leaves half way through.
MY QUESTION IS:
What should I do?
I want to know from everyone, but especially from those of you with this kind of experience.
a) Dump her
Pros: Be able to focus on myself more, work on inner game, school, the works
Cons: Not very manly.. shouldnt a DJ be able to cope with his responsibilities?
b) See her less while working on inner game
Pros: Probably the right thing to do
Cons: I've been trying ever since i started going out with her.
I'd really appreciate hearing from you guys.
