I used to come here a lot... after a while I was no longer driven to visit the site, maybe I was saturated with what I'd gotten here... and I was happy with where I was with women. So I come back here for nostalgia's sake, and one thing really strikes me is this horrible tendency for some people to talk about Sosuave.com and the "DJ ways" as if they were some sort of secret society or religion. Furthermore, it is from those guys who talk about it like that, that I get the strongest vibe of not actually knowing what they are doing--of parroting the knowledge of others. I've been guilty of it too in the past... but my inner feeling of self-worth preserved me. I remember--probably two years ago, and about six months after I found this place--that I struck out on my own "into the field" and applied what I had learned and had been thinking about. I had great results figuring things out for myself. And I never, ever, treated this place as a religious community or secret society--that kind of attitude will destroy your mind. When you're with a woman you have to let your mind be open to who she is as an individual. Only in this way can you build a real connection with her, that gut level feeling that is worth much more than any specific trick or technique. Don't get me wrong, though--I have nothing against tricks and techniques. They are very important, not only because of their own power, but also because thinking about and using them exposes a person's mind to that whole other way of thinking called the DJ way... but when the DJ way becomes the DJ cult, any real strength or significance behind these lessons we're trying to communicate as men to other men disappears.
The stupidest post I've ever read on this site, I think, is this idea of DJs wearing jewelry so that they could identify one another... jesus f'in christ, I give up!
Look, I'm telling y'all this from personal experience right now--Give up this site. Only after you've given it up, can you come back to it. Dig?
The stupidest post I've ever read on this site, I think, is this idea of DJs wearing jewelry so that they could identify one another... jesus f'in christ, I give up!
Look, I'm telling y'all this from personal experience right now--Give up this site. Only after you've given it up, can you come back to it. Dig?